Possibly quite true. But that doesn't make it OK for the school to put up with this behavior, and to subject other kids to this behavior. And yet, our school pretended to ignore the disruptive, as in difficult not LD, kids. |
19:51, are you the OP? I agree that it is not right for the school to put up with that type of behavior and find myself in a similar situation (also finishing year 3 at a school you mention.) The administration is well aware of the problem and doesn't seem to want to deplete the class further. However, if the school's actions don't change by mid-Fall, we will look elsewhere. |
Hmm. I wonder if we're at the same school and if we should gather enough like-minded parents to approach the administration? |
Sounds a lot like the school my child attends. For whatever reason, the administration continues to offer contracts to these children. What I've come to learn is that while it's a school, it's also a business. The market for private schools has softened and schools can no longer be as selective. If you can write the check, there's a good chance they'll take you. A few of the most disruptive children are from extremely wealthy families and I think the school is afraid to lose them and their donations to the annual fund. Sad, but true. |
21:28 and 20:23, I am 22:36 and the more I think about it we probably are at the same school... |
and would that be LOWELL KINDERGARTEN? for the win, ding ding ding. |
Nope- not me... I am 21:36. |
This has been my experience as well with dc's VA private. They will work with children if their parents are trying to address the problem (some don't seem to care to try), but they will counsel out children who continue to be disruptive in class. |
I have just learned through this thread that I'm the parent of a weed who should be discarded because we are still working on helping our ADHD child, who has made great strides but is still not perfect.
My child has consumed a lot of the teacher's time. But so have the ones who can't read, the ones who struggle with math, etc. . . Do you have the same callous attitude towards those kids? |
[quote=Anonymous]I have just learned through this thread that I'm the parent of a weed who should be discarded because we are still working on helping our ADHD child, who has made great strides but is still not perfect.
My child has consumed a lot of the teacher's time. But so have the ones who can't read, the ones who struggle with math, etc. . . Do you have the same callous attitude towards those kids?[/quote] I would not characterize the disruptive children as ADHD. Some of the disruptive behaviors I hear about include: witty but harsh commentary throughout the day directed at classmates and teachers; talking/singing to themselves in class, even while tests are being given; wandering in and out of the classroom; constantly arguing with teachers and classmates; repeatedly raising extraneous issues in attempt to get the class off topic; not doing homework and offering up crazy excuses; talking disrespectfully to adults; refusing to comply with teachers request to talk privately outside of class; angry outburst if things go awry. To me this is just bad behavior. And I would agree that some of the famlies are on the wealthier side of wealthy. |
But even "well-off" families would be counseled out if their kids were not a good fit for a particular school. It is much more rare now, and money is a big part of it. If you don't believe that, you're fooling yourself. |
PP here, and I will also add, a "lack of housing bubble" has absolutely nothing to do with the economic realities of many privates, especially the ones with big endowments. When stocks are going down, their endowments take a huge hit. Housing prices don't mean a hill of beans. |
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have just learned through this thread that I'm the parent of a weed who should be discarded because we are still working on helping our ADHD child, who has made great strides but is still not perfect.
My child has consumed a lot of the teacher's time. But so have the ones who can't read, the ones who struggle with math, etc. . . Do you have the same callous attitude towards those kids?[/quote] I would not characterize the disruptive children as ADHD. Some of the disruptive behaviors I hear about include: witty but harsh commentary throughout the day directed at classmates and teachers; talking/singing to themselves in class, even while tests are being given; wandering in and out of the classroom; constantly arguing with teachers and classmates; repeatedly raising extraneous issues in attempt to get the class off topic; not doing homework and offering up crazy excuses; talking disrespectfully to adults; refusing to comply with teachers request to talk privately outside of class; angry outburst if things go awry. To me this is just bad behavior. And I would agree that some of the famlies are on the wealthier side of wealthy.[/quote] First, I'm not sure what sense any of this makes in the context of PreK/K (off topic? homework?), which is the period after which, a number of posters seem to have claimed, the "weeding out" is accomplished. Secondly, much is this description is in the eye of the beholder (both in terms of how it is characterized and in terms of whether it's "disruptive" to or part of education). I wouldn't be sure that, for example, the teachers' or administrators' perspectives on what's happening match your DCs'. Finally, I wonder how you can tell whether an angry outburst is "just bad behavior" vs. a symptom of ADHD. You can find "sit down, shut up, and obey" educational institutions if you look for them, but that's not what many good schools aspire to be, which may explain why their tolerance level and yours -- for children who question, disagree, move about, or whistle while they work, so to speak -- are out of sync. Obviously, if your DC needs a less busy environment in order to focus, a school that doesn't "weed out" kids who exhibit such behaviors, may not be a good fit. |
Hi I'm 19:51. I'm not the OP. Nor is my kid at Lowell. I guess a lot of us have this problem! |
NP here. We almost left our school (not Lowell) for the same reason, but now I'm glad we didn't. I think it's partly a business decision to keep these kids, but also partly an administrative decision that these are kids that can be helped, and the school doesn't want to give up on them--they take a longer view and realize that the kids are going to grow out of these behaviors (with the right help from the school and parents) and end up contributing something to the school community. It is frustrating when troublesome kids are ruining your own child's experience, but now that my son is older, I am already seeing that the admin was right in telling me to be patient. |