Probably an old subject. DH asks to send nudes.

[Anonymous]

Like I said, it’s probably an old subject. I absolutely hate it when my DH asked me to send nudes. We’ve been married 12 years. I’m out of town for one or two days and he will ask for nudes. He’s going away for a 2 week trip and I’m gonna tell him to please don’t ask! We’ve been together long enough and I’m thinking, we should take these two weeks to chill, hang out with our friends and forget about the other one for a brief moment ffs. Am I wrong? We have close friends who see each other 40%, 50% of the whole year. We’re together 99%..

[Anonymous]

Yuck. Don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Meh I think it’s mostly harmless. You could do more boudoir style. It’s probably a good sign he’s not cheating.

[Anonymous]

You should be able to decide whether or not to send your husband nudes, and he should accept your choice without bugging you. If he's pushing after you say no, that's a problem (I can't tell if you've said something before).

I don't think "we should take two weeks to forget about each other" is what you should give as a reason, though. As a husband, I would find that kind of insulting. I've never solicited (or received) nudes, but I would be a lot happier to hear "I don't want to do that" than "I want to forget about you for a bit."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be able to decide whether or not to send your husband nudes, and he should accept your choice without bugging you. If he's pushing after you say no, that's a problem (I can't tell if you've said something before).

I don't think "we should take two weeks to forget about each other" is what you should give as a reason, though. As a husband, I would find that kind of insulting. I've never solicited (or received) nudes, but I would be a lot happier to hear "I don't want to do that" than "I want to forget about you for a bit."

As a husband, this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be able to decide whether or not to send your husband nudes, and he should accept your choice without bugging you. If he's pushing after you say no, that's a problem (I can't tell if you've said something before).

I don't think "we should take two weeks to forget about each other" is what you should give as a reason, though. As a husband, I would find that kind of insulting. I've never solicited (or received) nudes, but I would be a lot happier to hear "I don't want to do that" than "I want to forget about you for a bit."

We are together so much! Like I said most of our friends travel for work and see each other half the year, if that. If we were in that situation, it would be different. Why can’t two individuals, who have another 25 years together give it a break? I guess I’m not a needy person and love my alone time. Unlike my DH who needs a pacifier.

[Anonymous]

You also don't feel attracted to or like to be around your husband. That being said, it's perfectly fine to say no to nude pics, just because you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

I think it sounds controlling. Push back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should be able to decide whether or not to send your husband nudes, and he should accept your choice without bugging you. If he's pushing after you say no, that's a problem (I can't tell if you've said something before).

I don't think "we should take two weeks to forget about each other" is what you should give as a reason, though. As a husband, I would find that kind of insulting. I've never solicited (or received) nudes, but I would be a lot happier to hear "I don't want to do that" than "I want to forget about you for a bit."

We are together so much! Like I said most of our friends travel for work and see each other half the year, if that. If we were in that situation, it would be different. Why can’t two individuals, who have another 25 years together give it a break? I guess I’m not a needy person and love my alone time. Unlike my DH who needs a pacifier.

I gave advice on how to talk to your husband about sending nudes. I think it was good advice. Now, it seems like your actual problem is that you don't want to be married, since you're counting down the years until your death and throwing contempt on your husband for wanting to spend time with you. I can't help you with that, but I'm guessing your husband has noticed that you don't love him.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you're not as interested in your husband as he is in you. If it was opposite genders everyone would be saying "aw, that's sweet, she loves you". But because it's husband asking wife for nudes it's "ew, what a perv who doesn't understand personal space."

It's ok, you just don't like your husband that much. Better than nudes, just tell him you're not as interested in him. It'll be a better gift for him long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it sounds controlling. Push back.

This.

I took 2 semi nude photos for DH a decade ago and told him this is for your work trips and if you cheat once, I’m filing for divorce.

He said thanks and hasn’t mentioned it since. I’m as sure as I can be that he hasn’t cheated either.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s nice he even asked . For some of us women married to men with low T , I have given my husband a nude and he got really upset about me sending it to his phone (eye roll) at least he isn’t cheating

[Anonymous]

He still likes your body and you are complaining?
At least send him a picture of his favorite body part.

[Anonymous]

It seems like you are conflating a lot of different issues you have with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He still likes your body and you are complaining?
At least send him a picture of his favorite body part.

I’m literally build like a brick house and wonder why my DH wants nudes??? Maybe I should gain weight, quit the gym and hang out at Dunkin doughnuts.

OP