Probably an old subject. DH asks to send nudes.

[Anonymous]

Just say that you're afraid to do nudes in the age of the internet when hacking is so easy.

[Anonymous]

It’s unclear if you actually like your husband at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s unclear if you actually like your husband at all

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This. I had a boyfriend ask for nudes but I didn’t trust him to keep them private. If my DH asked, I would gladly send them! He is thinking about you and wants to see you while away. You’d rather he turn to porn?

How is your relationship otherwise?

[Anonymous]

I send my DH nudes because after 20 yrs he is still interested in them. I don’t miss him when he is away either, but I never tell him that because I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Just do it and then enjoy your free time if you want a happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t do anything you’re not comfortable doing. With that being said, It sounds like you don’t love your husband and have no interest in him. I can understand the need for alone time and seeing friends you normally see, but to want to “ forget” your husband is concerning.

I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and I still very much love and miss him when he’s away. I send him nudes and pics because we both enjoy it. Sometimes he asks and sometimes I surprise him. He enjoys them more than me but I love thar he enjoys seeing my pics/videos over porn.

[Anonymous]

Male here. Your DH is asking for sexual acknowledgment. He isn’t necessarily asking for nudes is the easiest and most common way to ask for that He wants you to know that even though he isn’t with you he is thinking about you in a sexual way. He would like some acknowledgment of that and to know that is ok with you. He trying to start an intimate conversation with you. It doesn’t have to revolve around sex or nudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Male here. Your DH is asking for sexual acknowledgment. He isn’t necessarily asking for nudes is the easiest and most common way to ask for that He wants you to know that even though he isn’t with you he is thinking about you in a sexual way. He would like some acknowledgment of that and to know that is ok with you. He trying to start an intimate conversation with you. It doesn’t have to revolve around sex or nudes.

also a guy.

This is right

But it does seem you’re just not that into your husband. Perhaps explore that a bit.

[Anonymous]

DW started sending nice selfies to me. I feel they are very meaningful. Makes me appreciate her more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like I said, it’s probably an old subject. I absolutely hate it when my DH asked me to send nudes. We’ve been married 12 years. I’m out of town for one or two days and he will ask for nudes. He’s going away for a 2 week trip and I’m gonna tell him to please don’t ask! We’ve been together long enough and I’m thinking, we should take these two weeks to chill, hang out with our friends and forget about the other one for a brief moment ffs. Am I wrong? We have close friends who see each other 40%, 50% of the whole year. We’re together 99%..

There's a lot to unpack here. Nothing wrong with not wanting to send nudes Nothing wrong with saying you don't want to call or text every night or multiple times a day while on this trip.

The real issue seems to be you feel smothered by your DH.

[Anonymous]

Spread eagle crotch shot would be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say that you're afraid to do nudes in the age of the internet when hacking is so easy.

+1 Are people so stupid to not consider this? Or, five years later you get a divorce and somehow those pictures hit the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He still likes your body and you are complaining?
At least send him a picture of his favorite body part.

I’m literally build like a brick house and wonder why my DH wants nudes??? Maybe I should gain weight, quit the gym and hang out at Dunkin doughnuts.

OP

It doesn’t matter how you are built.
Your DH likes it and wants to look at it when he is alone in his hotel room.
Please, help him.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get this at all.

Of course you don’t have to do anything you don’t want, your body your choice, all appropriate disclaimers.

But come on. Your DH of 12 years is still into you, fantasizes about you, misses you when you’re gone. That’s a good thing, healthy and normal.

You sound like you don’t even like him. So much resentment. Many people would be thrilled to have their spouse desire them like this… and if I could make mine happy with a few racy pics or a video? Please. That’s about as easy as it gets.

[Anonymous]

Men are pigs. Divorce him immediately

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this at all.

Of course you don’t have to do anything you don’t want, your body your choice, all appropriate disclaimers.

But come on. Your DH of 12 years is still into you, fantasizes about you, misses you when you’re gone. That’s a good thing, healthy and normal.

You sound like you don’t even like him. So much resentment. Many people would be thrilled to have their spouse desire them like this… and if I could make mine happy with a few racy pics or a video? Please. That’s about as easy as it gets.

Unless it's a mandated MRNA .... lol.