Probably an old subject. DH asks to send nudes.

[Anonymous]

I bet your DH enjoys how you look, with or without the swimsuit. It is more about sharing and less about being a swimsuit model since most men making such a request are not models themselves.

Any request one spouse makes to another should be considered. Women who dismiss a request for photos out of hand send a signal that it is okay to do so and are then surprised when their husbands do the same. No reason to feel guilty, but is also no reason to become upset when your partner denies a request you make because he is not into it.

I got divorced about six years ago and have traded (and not traded) pictures with women I dated. The best reason I have heard for a woman not sharing photos is that she has daughters living with her, and she needs to set the example of not sharing photos for them.

I can't even unpack all the WTF in that

You cannot unpack it because you are dim. Let me help (if that is possible.)

Single moms with teen daughters do (and should) warn their daughters about sharing nudes. So, when a man they are dating asks the single for racy photos, she says no not for the reasons other posters have noted (e.g., she does not feel her body is photo-worthy, her partner might share them, etc.)

She is worried that her daughter might inadvertently see that her mom shared a photo when the mom suggested that the daughter do not do so. There is a much more material chance that the daughter would see the image (by accident) than there is the partner would leak the photo.

However, you would have trouble unpacking a lunch box so this may not help.

[Anonymous]

I'm waay too worried that my kid would flip through my phone or something. I'll do the Facetime Flash for my DH when I travel, but nothing that could be kept around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should be able to decide whether or not to send your husband nudes, and he should accept your choice without bugging you. If he's pushing after you say no, that's a problem (I can't tell if you've said something before).

I don't think "we should take two weeks to forget about each other" is what you should give as a reason, though. As a husband, I would find that kind of insulting. I've never solicited (or received) nudes, but I would be a lot happier to hear "I don't want to do that" than "I want to forget about you for a bit."

We are together so much! Like I said most of our friends travel for work and see each other half the year, if that. If we were in that situation, it would be different. Why can’t two individuals, who have another 25 years together give it a break? I guess I’m not a needy person and love my alone time. Unlike my DH who needs a pacifier.

Everyone has glossed over this statement from OP. She is definitely being influenced by her very uncommon friend group.

[Anonymous]

We use an iPad with a password only we would know and take pics for one another once in a while. I will take a picture and send him a text at work saying “check the mail”. We will look and together after sex delete the old pics. We also use the iPad to film ourselves and watch it before deleting it. It’s fun and safe.

[Anonymous]

My wife has sent me close to 1,000 photos of just her boobs over the years and my other favorite body parts or just sexy poses, with or without clothes. I've saved many of them and that's just her boobs. I've also received videos and if course, I've sent my share to her but nowhere near as many. It's fun, sexy, and helps keep things exciting. I have no concerns at all about anyone else seeing them because I know how to use the technology I own to secure my files.