Au Pair is super low energy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an 8 and 10 year old. I would never dream of asking our AP to make their beds. That is ridiculous. Your kids are spoiled.

Our AP has to change their sheets out once per week, and usually it's done on laundry day (which is also once per week).

Our kids are responsible for making their beds each morning and keeping their rooms tidy.

I’m with you 100%

My 6 year old and 9 year old get picked up by school bus at 7:10am. It is already hard for them to get up and get ready that early in the morning. So yes, AP makes the beds. I don't feel there is anything wrong with it.

Making the bed takes 60 seconds. A six-year-old with functional arms can easily do it. Stop raising lazy kids.

first of all, how I raise my kids is none of your business.
second, my kids put away their toys, do the dishes and take care of their messes most of the time. But if there is a rush or something more important comes up, AP does it. That's the reason why I have an AP. 60 seconds of sleeping time in the early morning for the kids IS more important than having them make the bed. Why would I want to make the morning craziness even crazier???
third, this post was about AP complains about a job that she agreed to before matching. She should do it no matter what. If she changed her mind and doesn't want to do it, then REMATCH.

It is when you post about it on DCUM, hon.

No it is NOT. I posted under "Au Pair Discussion". It is about the AP, but not my children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an 8 and 10 year old. I would never dream of asking our AP to make their beds. That is ridiculous. Your kids are spoiled.

Our AP has to change their sheets out once per week, and usually it's done on laundry day (which is also once per week).

Our kids are responsible for making their beds each morning and keeping their rooms tidy.

I’m with you 100%

Agree AP shouldn’t make the beds. Ridiculous. What is that teaching the kids.

Our solution — no one makes their beds unless they want to do it

AP is household help; if the host parents want her to make the kids’ beds, then she should. Don’t know why others strongly oppose this…

Do you have a housekeeper? Does she vacuum your floor? Is that “ridiculous” as well, given that you are an adult and could do it yourself? No, of course not; that’s the housekeeper’s job. The AP’s duties can absolutely include making a kid’s bed, sheesh.

100% agree

[Anonymous]

So tiring. This forum is full of people who first want AP so badly because they think it is solution to their own lack of organization and then hate them because, big surprise, it is one more issue to manage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tiring. This forum is full of people who first want AP so badly because they think it is solution to their own lack of organization and then hate them because, big surprise, it is one more issue to manage.

It’s more full of APs who can’t seem to see past their nose that the only reason people get an AP is to WORK. I can host a foreign rich friend’s child for a year and have them return the favor if I’m just adding a young adult to my household. You’re the help first, APs.

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Anonymous wrote:So tiring. This forum is full of people who first want AP so badly because they think it is solution to their own lack of organization and then hate them because, big surprise, it is one more issue to manage.

Lack of organization? Is that what childcare is to aupairs? Odd perspective.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My impression is that what used to be fine with many APs in terms of schedule and amenities has changed in the past couple years - kind of a COVID driven "arms race" where families competed to get and keep au pairs in a difficult time and kind of bent over backwards, and now APs expect the perks and easy schedules - plus more and more social media driven comparisons. So, OP even if past APs liked the schedule and stayed 2 years I think the world has evolved...

Thanks and I agree. But I do feel like the world is coming back to normal now thankfully

APs got used to desperate HFs rolling their charmin for them to help wipe their bottoms. The AP program is destroyed now. But I hope auctioning off your guest homes were worth it

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Anonymous wrote:I have an 8 and 10 year old. I would never dream of asking our AP to make their beds. That is ridiculous. Your kids are spoiled.

Our AP has to change their sheets out once per week, and usually it's done on laundry day (which is also once per week).

Our kids are responsible for making their beds each morning and keeping their rooms tidy.

I’m with you 100%

My 6 year old and 9 year old get picked up by school bus at 7:10am. It is already hard for them to get up and get ready that early in the morning. So yes, AP makes the beds. I don't feel there is anything wrong with it.

Making the bed takes 60 seconds. A six-year-old with functional arms can easily do it. Stop raising lazy kids.

first of all, how I raise my kids is none of your business.
second, my kids put away their toys, do the dishes and take care of their messes most of the time. But if there is a rush or something more important comes up, AP does it. That's the reason why I have an AP. 60 seconds of sleeping time in the early morning for the kids IS more important than having them make the bed. Why would I want to make the morning craziness even crazier???
third, this post was about AP complains about a job that she agreed to before matching. She should do it no matter what. If she changed her mind and doesn't want to do it, then REMATCH.

It is when you post about it on DCUM, hon.

+ 1 billion.

Stop raising lazy kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an 8 and 10 year old. I would never dream of asking our AP to make their beds. That is ridiculous. Your kids are spoiled.

Our AP has to change their sheets out once per week, and usually it's done on laundry day (which is also once per week).

Our kids are responsible for making their beds each morning and keeping their rooms tidy.

I’m with you 100%

My 6 year old and 9 year old get picked up by school bus at 7:10am. It is already hard for them to get up and get ready that early in the morning. So yes, AP makes the beds. I don't feel there is anything wrong with it.

Since when is 7 am early? If they're in bed on time, they should be able to sleep 8-10 hours.

[Anonymous]

Time to play again. The other au pairs prey on younger, unsatisfied au pairs; she is behaving entitled.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised by all of the comments about how bad the OP's schedule was for her AP. I agree that a full day every weekend is a bit much if she's also working some hours M-F. However, a weekday split schedule (some hours in the AM and some in the PM, aligning with kids' school routines) is totally normal for APs. People always say how APs are not nannies...so surely it wouldn't be better if she was working 9-5?

[Anonymous]

When I was 18 I was an au pair for 3 kids. Oldest was 13 and I had to make all their beds because they didn’t have time” it was so demeaning to me. I also had to pick their clothes off the floor to wash. They didn’t have to put their own things in the hamper. The 13yo would wear leggings for an hour, then leave on floor for me to wash. I was miserable. I requested a rematch. Horrible family on the main line in PA. Got a new family in DC who also had 3 kids but were so much nicer..