Temporary changing au pair room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s a bad idea especially if for 1-2 weeks!

If you ask she will say yes because it is your house and does she actually genuinely have the freedom to say no? Of course not, so I wouldn’t ask.

She is used to having her private quarters, having to live in close proximity to the children at all times (meaning being woken up or kept up by them in the morning or at night) when she is used to having her personal space (and you yours) might seriously alter/sour your relationship. I wouldn’t risk it.

If you want her to feel like a part of your family, then treat her like she is. Your sister is the one visiting and if she doesn’t have the budget for an hotel then she should adapt to the space available (I wouldn’t expect someone to give up their room for me and my children if I was to visit somewhere, including family).

I would be uncomfortable with someone I don’t know having access to my space and my things (unless you expect your AP to move all of her things out of her space which would be extremely uncomfortable) and it would make me feel very out of place to have to ask permission to enter my room to retrieve items I have left there and would make me feel very much like a guest in my own house, which I think would be worse for an AP.

Don’t do it.

Either have your sister kids sleep in the guest room and your sister in the living room or help them budget for an Airbnb/hotel.

This.

[Anonymous]

Have you thought about having your sister in the guest room and all the kids in your living room, camping out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our au pair has a huge basement apartment all for herself beside the laundry room we use.
My sister and her two kids are visiting soon. We have an extra guest bedroom but it small and only one shower for the kids and whoever will use the guest room.
It makes sense to temporary make au pair use the guests room and put family in the basement.
AuPair is pretty easy going and will probably not argue but I wonder what do you all think? Anyone ever did that?
TIA

Well, your Nanny is part of your FAMILY now. Don't move her. Your sister and her kids should get a hotel room. If the kids are old enough and want to stay with their favorite aunt and uncle, let them stay and your sister can get a room nearby. Or give your au pair the week off and give her a bonus to visit friends relatives etc.
Whatever you do, don't move your au pair. We treat our au pair better than family. She's taking care of your child or children....

[Anonymous]

Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

Except you can’t make her travel or stay with friends...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good luck in your rematch. Please treat your new AP better than the current one!

Wow. Not OP but you have anger issues and clearly can't deal with anyone who disagrees with you. OP have a talk with your AP and ask her if she wwuld consider this. Let her know you are fine with whatever she decides and that it's just an idea. If she says no just thank her for being honest. If she says yes give her a nice gift card after your family leaves. I gave up my room for visitors all the time growing up. Wasn't a big deal to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

Except you can’t make her travel or stay with friends...

You actually can make her travel. Typically, families pick one week of AP vacation and families pick the other. Pick one of those weeks, tell her if she stays at home as a staycation - he won’t be in her normal room. Done!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

Except you can’t make her travel or stay with friends...

You actually can make her travel. Typically, families pick one week of AP vacation and families pick the other. Pick one of those weeks, tell her if she stays at home as a staycation - he won’t be in her normal room. Done!

It sounds like OP's family is arriving soon. AP may not be in a financial position to travel or be able to find a friend to go on such short notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

Except you can’t make her travel or stay with friends...

You actually can make her travel. Typically, families pick one week of AP vacation and families pick the other. Pick one of those weeks, tell her if she stays at home as a staycation - he won’t be in her normal room. Done!

Wow!

[Anonymous]

We have had renovations occur while hosting an AP and have temporarily moved AP into a room with less dust/noise (2 weeks). She was grateful for the option.

When we have family visit, we have them take one of our rooms or get a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably the easiest thing is to use the one week of vacation you pick be the week your sister visits. Have her travel or stay with friends.

Except you can’t make her travel or stay with friends...

You actually can make her travel. Typically, families pick one week of AP vacation and families pick the other. Pick one of those weeks, tell her if she stays at home as a staycation - he won’t be in her normal room. Done!

Wow!

Good idea - or give the AP an extra week's vacation and tell her to travel or stay-cation on the couch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have had renovations occur while hosting an AP and have temporarily moved AP into a room with less dust/noise (2 weeks). She was grateful for the option.

When we have family visit, we have them take one of our rooms or get a hotel.

Renovations, yes.

Fantastic options when family visits

[Anonymous]

When my family visits I give them my room and I sleep on the couch in the living room (so comfy, I do love it). I can put the little cousin(s) in the same room as my daughter -- they all go to sleep around the same time. I leave my excellent au pair alone her own room. We are all very sensitive to quiet in evenings and mornings. This is even discussed with the visiting cousins.

When my au pair's family comes to visit they need to stay in her room with her and i have a 1-week max limit. All rules regarding quiet apply. I have a 1200 sq ft ranch house and all noise can be heard. I do have white noise machines in each room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my family visits I give them my room and I sleep on the couch in the living room (so comfy, I do love it). I can put the little cousin(s) in the same room as my daughter -- they all go to sleep around the same time. I leave my excellent au pair alone her own room. We are all very sensitive to quiet in evenings and mornings. This is even discussed with the visiting cousins.

When my au pair's family comes to visit they need to stay in her room with her and i have a 1-week max limit. All rules regarding quiet apply. I have a 1200 sq ft ranch house and all noise can be heard. I do have white noise machines in each room.

I think I love you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my family visits I give them my room and I sleep on the couch in the living room (so comfy, I do love it). I can put the little cousin(s) in the same room as my daughter -- they all go to sleep around the same time. I leave my excellent au pair alone her own room. We are all very sensitive to quiet in evenings and mornings. This is even discussed with the visiting cousins.

When my au pair's family comes to visit they need to stay in her room with her and i have a 1-week max limit. All rules regarding quiet apply. I have a 1200 sq ft ranch house and all noise can be heard. I do have white noise machines in each room.

I assume you are the single HM otherwise where does DH sleep?