FTM seeking advice on hiring a nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

+1 I never use my cell phone when I am with my child. Never. And I am a SAHM. I don't know why nannies think this is an unreasonable job requirement either.

Do you live in a monastery?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

Do you NOT communicate with another adult for 10-12 hours each day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

+1 I never use my cell phone when I am with my child. Never. And I am a SAHM. I don't know why nannies think this is an unreasonable job requirement either.

BULLS**T!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

+1 I never use my cell phone when I am with my child. Never. And I am a SAHM. I don't know why nannies think this is an unreasonable job requirement either.

BULLS**T!!

Agree. Not sure how you can really "require" any particular behavior, unless you want to follow her all day with your checklist.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine someone in my house, taking care of my child a,d denying her my food.

[Anonymous]

OP, how do you plan to monitor your nanny's phone use if she were to agree to your request? Remember, you stated no phone use of any kind other than communicating with you. Do you plan to follow her around? Do you use your cell phone during work hours for personal conversations (including scheduling Drs appointments, etc.)? Don't say it isn't relevant; it is.

[Anonymous]

Just hire someone over age 40, their face won't be as glued to their smartphone then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

+1 I never use my cell phone when I am with my child. Never. And I am a SAHM. I don't know why nannies think this is an unreasonable job requirement either.

BULLS**T!!

I am honestly saddened by the fact that you find not using a cell phone when I am with my child so terribly hard to believe. That says so much more about you than you realize, PP. I am not lying - I am simply not addicted to my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some parents deem it appropriate to request from a nanny, behavior that they themselves could never manage.

I never use my phone at work. Believe it or not, it is possible and actually makes it far easier to concentrate on the task at hand. I have no clue as to why so many nannies feel this is such a hardship.

Do you NOT communicate with another adult for 10-12 hours each day?

Of course I do and so does my nanny -- just not on the telephone. Actual people are involved in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just hire someone over age 40, their face won't be as glued to their smartphone then.

Best advice. These young girls are truly ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

You would think common sense would be to use the phone for emergency when you are on the job... not to update your friends on what the kids are doing or what you are doing every second of the day. In the corporate world, you don't sit on your phone and make doctor appointments when your boss is right in front of you. Its just rude. You also would not make appointments if your MB was right in front of you. Please respect the kids the same way. Even if they are little, they can sense when they are being ignored. You are there to keep 100% of your attention on them. Make the appointments and updates on FB when the kids are asleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would think common sense would be to use the phone for emergency when you are on the job... not to update your friends on what the kids are doing or what you are doing every second of the day. In the corporate world, you don't sit on your phone and make doctor appointments when your boss is right in front of you. Its just rude. You also would not make appointments if your MB was right in front of you. Please respect the kids the same way. Even if they are little, they can sense when they are being ignored. You are there to keep 100% of your attention on them. Make the appointments and updates on FB when the kids are asleep.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would think common sense would be to use the phone for emergency when you are on the job... not to update your friends on what the kids are doing or what you are doing every second of the day. In the corporate world, you don't sit on your phone and make doctor appointments when your boss is right in front of you. Its just rude. You also would not make appointments if your MB was right in front of you. Please respect the kids the same way. Even if they are little, they can sense when they are being ignored. You are there to keep 100% of your attention on them. Make the appointments and updates on FB when the kids are asleep.

The OP won't even allow the phone while children are sleeping. That's the issue.
Who updated their friends on what their charges are doing? That's an odd thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would think common sense would be to use the phone for emergency when you are on the job... not to update your friends on what the kids are doing or what you are doing every second of the day. In the corporate world, you don't sit on your phone and make doctor appointments when your boss is right in front of you. Its just rude. You also would not make appointments if your MB was right in front of you. Please respect the kids the same way. Even if they are little, they can sense when they are being ignored. You are there to keep 100% of your attention on them. Make the appointments and updates on FB when the kids are asleep.

The OP won't even allow the phone while children are sleeping. That's the issue.
Who updated their friends on what their charges are doing? That's an odd thing to do.

No, OP clarified that she meant when the baby was awake and/or out of the crib.

NP here and a request to NOT make personal calls/texts while working is not unusual or asking too much. I truly don't understand why nannies seem to feel that it is. If the call/text is job related than fine -- but updating your Facebook page or being on DCUM is not "job related".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just hire someone over age 40, their face won't be as glued to their smartphone then.

Best advice. These young girls are truly ridiculous.

I have to agree that this is a major reason I generally wouldn't feel comfortable hiring a young nanny to watch my child. The reactions of disbelief in this post at the idea of not being attached to your phone all day are case in point. I think it's a huge generational divide, and it's going to be rare to find a younger nanny who could "handle" not using their phone 24/7.

p.s. it's worth mentioning that there are a ton of professions where people have extremely limited access to their phones: teachers, surgeons; people who work in the intelligence community, etc. If my daughter's future teacher won't be checking his/her phone all day, why should my nanny?