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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

I should also add that unlike your situation, our nanny works eight hours a day, four days a week and has a full two hours off for her lunch break during her workdays when the baby is asleep. If I were your employer, PP, I had to employ you for such long days, of course I would make exceptions for you to receive important calls you were waiting for.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

She knows about this and she is fine. I don't text/call people for fun. Only if they need something. MB expects me to be human.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Hahahahahahahahaha. Sure. Ok.

I can tell you I worked in "the working world" for ten years before becoming a nanny two years ago and everyone took personal calls. You're nuts if you think people don't answer repeated calls from their landlord or don't schedule doctors appointments during working hours. Even my DB, who is a doctor, scheduled an inspection for a house they'd like to buy while he was at work. So please, tell me again about your outrageous expectations. I work 8am-6pm five days a week...when exactly am I supposed to conduct official calls? (And yes, Comcast is open late so I do those types of calls on the weekends.)

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

NP here and I disagree - for 20+ dollars and hour with generous benefits and a TWO HOUR LUNCH BREAK - I could easily and happily not text or take calls!

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

NP here and I disagree - for 20+ dollars and hour with generous benefits and a TWO HOUR LUNCH BREAK - I could easily and happily not text or take calls!

Excellent. OP wants to hire you. Give her your contact info.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

Are you kidding? For four days a week, eight hours a day, with a two hour lunch break and only caring for one baby?! I have children and a husband and I'd gladly take that job with the agreement of zero texting and personal calls for $20 and hour plus benefits! I'm a college graduate, ten years nanny experience with additional graduate school credits in Early Childhood Development and I would jump at that job.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

Are you kidding? For four days a week, eight hours a day, with a two hour lunch break and only caring for one baby?! I have children and a husband and I'd gladly take that job with the agreement of zero texting and personal calls for $20 and hour plus benefits! I'm a college grad
uate, ten years nanny experience with additional graduate school credits in Early Childhood Development and I would jump at that job.

What will you do with your children?

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

Are you kidding? For four days a week, eight hours a day, with a two hour lunch break and only caring for one baby?! I have children and a husband and I'd gladly take that job with the agreement of zero texting and personal calls for $20 and hour plus benefits! I'm a college grad
uate, ten years nanny experience with additional graduate school credits in Early Childhood Development and I would jump at that job.

What will you do with your children?

??? Same as any working mother. My kids are 13 and 16. If there is an emergency they can always reach DH.