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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never late and always in a good mood (or pretends to be) - but the texting is a definite problem. She is on that damn phone far, far too much for my liking and I have told her as much. Fine if she needs to text or call on her lunch break when my children are napping but I have warned her repeatedly that I do not want her on the phone or texting at any other time. If I catch her texting in the park one more time I will fire her.

I feel the same way and so does every MB I know. The texting must stop or our nanny will be given final notice as well. We have told her several times and actually put it in writing this last time. Like you, I encourage her to use her entire lunch break (2 hours) to text or talk to her friends while the baby is asleep - but that is it.


And to the drunk nanny who keeps throwing out incoherent barbs - I have never once been late coming home, I have never once asked our nanny to do anything beyond our agreement, and I respect her off hours and personal life 100%. It's time she respected the DEMANDS of her job as outlined and agreed upon by both of us.

Sounds unbalanced. You really need to get over her and move on to a professional. Can you afford that?

We are currently paying our nanny $20 an hour with generous benefits. Yes, I will gladly pay more to get a nanny who is good and does not text when she is being paid to watch my child.

I think your key to success is "balance" within reason. If you want a person to work a five day a week, 10-12 hours day, they may need to make a personal call, once in a while. If you want to find your perfect dream nanny, she'll cost you a lot more than you can imagine. I'd think that even our $35/hr nannies here, might need to make a call every so often. Plus, you need to eliminate anyone with their own family.

Are you kidding? For four days a week, eight hours a day, with a two hour lunch break and only caring for one baby?! I have children and a husband and I'd gladly take that job with the agreement of zero texting and personal calls for $20 and hour plus benefits! I'm a college grad
uate, ten years nanny experience with additional graduate school credits in Early Childhood Development and I would jump at that job.

What will you do with your children?

??? Same as any working mother. My kids are 13 and 16. If there is an emergency they can always reach DH.

Is that fair? To expect your spouse to be a bad employee? Does his boss want him doing personal things on company time? Why not share parenting responsibilities?

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

Some days I am tired after work! But most days I leave refreshed and excited! I love spending time with those kiddos!

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Some nanny jobs ARE busy. Some jobs are as boring as HELL.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

And yes, you do know the difference between watching a child and breathing down their necks - or at least you should. You can watch a child play independently or with another child or group of children and you are not breathing down their necks - but you are feet from them and paying attention if they fall, get hit by another child or get approached by a creep. You cannot watch your charge and watch your phone at the same time.

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And as for the few far and in between personal texts MB doesn't mind. It's not a distraction from the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

Some days I am tired after work! But most days I leave refreshed and excited! I love spending time with those kiddos!

I love my charges too but being responsible for a child's life is, by definition, demanding. We always have to be thinking three steps ahead of them and looking out for dangers they might encounter. I also can't say I every leave work feeling "refreshed"!

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

Some days I am tired after work! But most days I leave refreshed and excited! I love spending time with those kiddos!

I love my charges too but being responsible for a child's life is, by definition, demanding. We always have to be thinking three steps ahead of them and looking out for dangers they might encounter. I also can't say I every leave work feeling "refreshed"!

Unfortunate for you! I do.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

Some days I am tired after work! But most days I leave refreshed and excited! I love spending time with those kiddos!

I love my charges too but being responsible for a child's life is, by definition, demanding. We always have to be thinking three steps ahead of them and looking out for dangers they might encounter. I also can't say I every leave work feeling "refreshed"!

Unfortunate for you! I do.

What a delightful snark.

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I am counting only four nannies who can answer yes to all three questions.

To answer questions asked of me: yes - I do work; no - I am never late; yes - I am always pleasant at work; and no - I do not text or make personal calls when I'm working. And no, I am not a MB - not yet.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with a quick text message here and there as long as it does not distract from the kids.

If your employer agrees with you then you're fine. As an employer, I do not want my child's nanny texting or talking to her friends at any time during her work hours except her lunch break - and it makes no difference to me what my nanny sees as right or wrong with this. We agreed to no texting/calling and I expect her to live up to our agreement.

Can she answer a call from her doctor? Or her landlord? Or her parents?

I send/receive fewer than five non-work-related texts every day because I'm just not that into texting, but I will absolutely answer important phone calls. Friday I had to speak with the hospital billing department while holding the baby and chatting to the toddler at the same time...unfortunately those calls can't wait until I finish work at 6pm and I don't ever have more than 20 minutes of calm during the day - I sure as heck don't want to spend it on hold trying to reach someone.

Of course the employer has the right to set expectations and guidelines but I do think being reasonable about them goes a long way toward building goodwill and having a happy nanny.

No calls during working hours! NONE. Not from her doctor, her parents, her landlord unless there is an emergency. I do not make any personal calls nor receive any personal calls when I'm working! This is not unusual in the working world!

Where do you work? The only working people who I have known to never text/take personal calls during work are teachers, doctors, etc. If you're in the business world you have time to take personal calls/texts.

I am a surgical nurse. We learn to schedule our personal lives in regard to phone calls and personal communication around our work as a nanny should. If I can do it - my child's nanny can do it. I don't have an office job and neither does she.

Nannying is not as demanding as a surgical nurse. It is not good for the child to constantly have the nanny breathing down their necks.

I've never been a surgical nurse so I cannot compare the two jobs but watching a child constantly and "breathing down their necks" are two very different things - and you know it. I find being a nanny to be a very demanding job.

I don't so I don't know what you're talking about! Every day the kids and I do crafts, academic time, reading time, go to the pool, the library, etc. It's not demanding at all but I rarely text. Only if I am texting MB or if a family/friend needs something.

Of course you can text your MB - that is part of your job. It is the personal texts that MBs are getting fed up with.
And honestly, you don't find being a nanny a demanding job? You are responsible for the health and safety as well as their education and well-being of another's children. I don't doubt you're a good nanny but I don't see how anyone can say that caring for another's children isn't demanding.

Some days I am tired after work! But most days I leave refreshed and excited! I love spending time with those kiddos!

I love my charges too but being responsible for a child's life is, by definition, demanding. We always have to be thinking three steps ahead of them and looking out for dangers they might encounter. I also can't say I every leave work feeling "refreshed"!

Unfortunate for you! I do.

What a delightful snark.

You have a very low expectation of what delights you, Dear! LOL