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Anonymous
My husband eats any junk food we buy in one seating, he cant help it, when he starts he can't stop and when he finishes he start complaining about how awful he feels lol. It is a running joke in our house. Our kids are small and they don't eat junk food at all. So we barely buy any junk food. When I do get something I really like, or the kids bring some candies from school, I hide it from him and we eat together later. He is aware I hide stuffs from him and we laugh about it all the time!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:First world problems


That's right. You want third world problems, then go live there.



Yet you depend on labor from third world so that you can get all uppity about junk food in your house.
Anonymous
Where is the OP's Au Pair from?
Anonymous
Have you tried labeling food? “Larla’s Leftovers for Larla only.”

Sounds like your AP would be the lunch thief at an office though and ignore the label.

Anonymous
I'm the OP from 7/26.....I had leftover personal sized pizza from a restaurant and she helped herself to it last night. Grrr

No, it wasn't labeled but she has been acting like a vegetarian and my pizza had pepperoni on it. And it was personal sized.
Anonymous
After 10 months of this kind of behavior and the cake incident, I would be inclined to “accidentally” leave out laxative chocolate in the kitchen without the box.
Anonymous
No, she talks to the AP adult to adult It's like having a roommate who eats your food.

She really does sound like she has issues. Is she bulimic?
Anonymous
Maybe you should talk to AP about portion control and that the food you buy is for the entire family to enjoy and share and that she should remember that and not eat the entire bag of chips or m&ms. She probably is just not thinking
Anonymous
I understand this. We don't really have junk food in our house, but there is this chocolate bar that my husband and I both like. It is a specialty dark chocolate bar and is around $8 a bar. With my husband and myself, that bar will last a week, if not more (it is about the size of a regular Hersey bar but is thicker). With the AP, it last a day. She will eat the entire thing. I don't buy it often but if I do, I now hide it. I've also had her eat my leftovers from restaurants, and the personal sized bday cake that my company gave me. She has now taken up drinking our beer. I don't mind the occasional beer if eats dinner with us, but finding 4 bottles of beer in the recycling from one evening from her is not cool. We don't buy cheap beer, we like craft beer and my husband and I only drink a couple on the weekends.
Anonymous
Starting to think this is a troll.
Anonymous
Maybe it's because we have an au pair suite with a kitchen, but we take a list from the au pair, and buy her whatever junk she wants for the weekend. She eats from the fruit, veggies, starches, meats, cheese and we buy for the whole family. She has never once eaten any of the sweets/snacks we buy for ourselves without asking/being offered. When you buy her stuff separately, she perhaps feels satiated. Why not try that?
Anonymous
The only alcohol we provide our AP is the occasional glass with a weeknight dinner. She cannot help herself to our liquor or wine otherwise. This is in the handbook as a CYA.
Anonymous
LOL. I’m having the same issue with my new AP. I took her grocery shopping twice already in two weeks and spent $400. She’s literally eating through all of our food too and doesn’t ask before she takes things. I’m getting very annoyed with her. She hardly works either. She was “sick” the entire first week she was here
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Stop complaining. You aren't her mother and you shouldn't be limiting what she can and cannot eat. If you don't want her eating your precious treats, don't buy them. Problem solved.


OP here and I'm not concerned about her dietary or nutritional status. I'm frustrated by that fact that a) the food I buy for the family (which includes her) is being eaten by mostly one member of the family so fast, and in such great quantities that others do not get a chance to enjoy it and b) we can't afford to keep buying it at this rate, especially considering that it is not feeding the whole family.

My choices, as I see them are: 1)rematch and explain we need a better role model for our kids and that we can't meet her dietary needs on our budget , 2)explain the problem and ask her to cut back, 3) quit buying it until she leaves and quietly seethe with resentment for the rest of the year or 4)buy it and hide it and only eat it when she's not around and hope the kids don't spill the beans. (I don't really see this as an option, but technically, it is).

If it was any other food, rather than junk food, the problem would be the same in this regard. If I was buying gourmet cheeses, or exotic fruits or filet and lobster and this happened with those foods, the cost would be greater but the problems the same. The fact that it is junk food just adds the poor role modeling issue to the mix.


The solution is simple. Buy more because you are feeding an adult. Aren't you saving money by using an Au pair?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Is it ok to limit how much our au pair eats "treats"? For example, we do have some pop in the house but for us, it's only an occasional treat, like when we order pizza every couple weeks, and even more rare for the children. She has one with lunch and one with dinner, so the case that would last our family a month before she came lasts a week and we never even had any. Another example: we buy a box of donuts and pre-Au pair, they would last a week. She will eat them for breakfast every morning and sometimes as a snack or after lunch as well. We buy a bag of chips and she eats them all before we even think of having any. We have had a large bag of m&ms in our pantry for a month and had only eaten about a quarter of it. It was gone in a week after she found them. You can see we are not a "healthy food only" house, but I am shocked by HOW MUCH junk food she eats and how fast. And it's annoying because I feel like if want to have any around for the times when we want it, we have to hide it from her. If its there, she eats it...FAST. Also, it's expensive to replace it that fast. Finally, I feel like its a bad example for the kids to eat so much junk, but feel hypocritical saying anything because we did, after all, buy it in the first place. Advice?


Another cheap mom that counts every single snack she has in pantry….Not a bad example as AP isn’t a role model to your child and not of your damn business to control her calorie intake. Get a life!
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