Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
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Anonymous
| Walking around in house with socks is a safety hazard as it is very easy for foot to slide and fall. |
Anonymous
| This was an interview. I have never attended an interview where I've been asked to take off my shoes. If it was an expectation, you should have told her before the interview about your no shoes in the house rule so she could have been prepared or you should have had new slippers or shoe covers for her to use. |
Anonymous
| dear God in heaven, I now see why people choose to go through agencies. |
Anonymous
| OP is nuts. I wear shoes if I want |
Anonymous
| I only read the first two pages, but I think much of the disagreement with OP is the same poster. OP, I would not hire the nanny. No shoes is a very standard request and I don’t think your reaction to this encounter is unwarranted. Nearly everyone visiting our house, and certainly care providers, asks if they should remove their shoes. She should have expected this and should have provided some context if she declined. |
Anonymous
I know of no one who has a no shoes in house rule. I do not remove my shoes. What next, remove clothing and take a shower? The US is not Third world country. |
Anonymous
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https://today.yougov.com/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2018/01/17/most-americans-take-their-shoes-home-dont-expect-t
87% of people take off their shoes in their own homes; only 50% of those individuals ask guests to as well. Wearing shoes in the house tracks in more dirt. If you are working in a "shoe-less" home, it is important to respect that. You are not working in an rented office space but someone's home. |
Anonymous
| This post is a year old - pretty sure OP figured it out by now. |
Anonymous
| You anti-shoe crazies are out of control. |
Anonymous
The latest results show that nearly a third of the country (31%) will “always” take off their shoes at home and others follow suit “most of the time” (26%), ”sometimes” (18%), or “rarely” (12%). Geographically, 92% of people living in the Midwest say that they take off their shoes, compared to the Northeast (88%), West (86%), and South (83%). Sorting the data by age reveals that older millennials (ages 25-34) and those ages 35-44 report highest rates of shoe removal at 90% and 89% respectively. The latter group also leads the country in saying they’ll always remove their shoes at home (40% compared to 31%). While a majority the country remove their own shoes at home, YouGov asked if they expect their guests to do the same. One in ten (10%) will “always” request their guests remove their shoes though slightly more say they’ll ask less frequently, either “most of the time” (11%), “sometimes” (13%), or “rarely” (13%). Try looking at the full data please. Only 38% always take off their shoes in their own home. That means that less than half of the US always removes shoes in their own home. Statistics can be skewed any way you want, depending on how you look at the data. So no, 10% of people always asking people entering their home to remove their shoes does not make this the norm or even close. |
Anonymous
| The take off your shoes is a costum from Japan, Asian countries |
Anonymous
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If I have to take off my shoes on entering your home, please provide something for me to put on (socks, booties) so I don't pick up your floor's debris and bring it to my home. Also, it would be advisable to have a bench or chair at the entrance so I don't have to sit on your floor to remove my shoes. Courtesy goes both ways!
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Anonymous
+1000 You should have told her before she came! You just sprung it on her when she arrived, and she was not prepared in a way that was comfortable for her. She already said she would be prepared next time and follow your rule. Some people aren't comfortable going barefoot in other peoples house or places that are not their own homes! If this is such an issue for you, then you should have shoe booties for guests. - Someone who has a no shoes policy at home, but doesn't require that guests who are not previously aware of the policy remove their shoes |
Anonymous
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The majority of the people (over 50%) take of their shoes all or most of the time in their own homes.
There is a reason why people have mudrooms - so dirt and mud don't track into the main house. Nannies who are interviewing should be prepared to take off their shoes. Like any kind of interview, they do not have to do it and can offer an explanation, but understand that it may hurt their chances of getting the job. Nannies are also not considered the equivalent of "guests." They are interviewing for a job, and people are often looking for "fit" with the family. They are household employees who should follow house rules. They are not the occasional visitor. |
Anonymous
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My roommate is a Nanny to a sweet baby boy. Things she was asked at the interview and six months later, still working for the same family.
No shoes, no perfume,long hair must be tied up,bring a set of clothes to change once at work, change of socks, and please use gentle voice when talking to baby. I hear so many stories about this family and she's stuck at their house for nine hours with dear grandma and baby. |