Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.

[Anonymous]

How is taking shoes off relevant to COVID?

and, no, this is not a norm in most homes.

[Anonymous]

Shaken up?! Haha I hope this nanny runs for the hills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm team OP here. Most nannies should be expecting that a home with small children is a no-shoe home and plan accordingly.
Barring a medical concern, take off your shoes when requested.

Then families need to make sure their floors are spotless, sanitized and they are providing clean slippers at an interview. I would never walk barefoot in someone’s home, especially during an interview. I’ve worked with many families whose home has been questionable in terms of cleanliness. Would you go into an office interview barefoot? I doubt it but it’s completely cool for you to request a nanny candidate. Typical of entitled DCUM parents.

What exactly does this mean and how would you visually determine whether a floor had been “sanitized”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am neither troll nor any of PPs. This nanny has, how to better describe it, no culture. She just does not think it is a big deal, in her world it is not. She probably wears outside shoes in her home. Most people who wear shoes at home, like some PP said, have CLEAN, inside only shoes for that purpose, and they would have more respect than wear outside shoes to someone else's home with small children who drop things on the floor and then put them in their mouths. It has nothing to do with Covid, it just tells you about that person in general. She knew she was going inside, she should have thought one step ahead and put a pair of socks in the bag to don on her feet, or she could have asked you to use plastic bags on top of her shoes. If she could not find a simple solution to keep both of you happy, she is the wrong person for any nanny job, IMHO.

I don’t think this word means what you think it means. Everyone has “culture”. Perhaps the word you are looking for is taste, manners, or even (shudder) class. I disagree entirely, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Really interested in how this turned out...Did OP hire this individual?

In my opinion, I would recommend passing on this person. Someone who doesn't respect house rules will likely have other antisocial tendencies. Taking off shoes is not an unreasonable request, and shows inflexibility. The personality will show up in other ways - not respecting parenting requests, etc.

[Anonymous]

I let someone go who was like this. Someone who wants to negotiate on shoes will want to negotiate on time/pay/etc. - everything! Didn't understand boundaries and didn't take direction well.

[Anonymous]

You should have provided a shoe cover for her.

You are very rude. What makes you think that people want to walk barefoot in a stranger's house? I guess she is supposed to look at your face and trust that your floors are clean.

I hope she decides not to work for you.

Get your head out of your ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really interested in how this turned out...Did OP hire this individual?

In my opinion, I would recommend passing on this person. Someone who doesn't respect house rules will likely have other antisocial tendencies. Taking off shoes is not an unreasonable request, and shows inflexibility. The personality will show up in other ways - not respecting parenting requests, etc.

It is an unreasonable request if you don't provide an alternative such as shoe covers.

[Anonymous]

If I live in a house, I'll walk barefoot. If I clean the floors, I'll go barefoot. If I'm expected to walk through filth, I will keep sock and slippers at my employer's house, and I'll do my load of those once per week, washed twice to remove the filth.

[Anonymous]

The "no shoes in the house" people should be sure their floors are clean. I have a friend who expects visitors to take off their shoes, but the floors have a ton of dirt, food, pet saliva, and other debris on them. I try to remember to wear socks. When it's time to leave, there is no place to sit and put them back on, so you have to sit on the dirty floor to put your shoes on if you happened to wear tie shoes.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous! Some nannies don’t take their shoes off b/c the May have plantar fasciitis and wear inserts and it’s difficult to walk barefoot (the case of our nanny). So she brings her indoor tennis and leaves them at our home at the end of shift.
Ps: we never asked her to take her shoes off, though. When we interviewed her she mentioned about her feet issue and we make sure to accommodate her needs.

[Anonymous]

Give her a nice pair of slippers as a welcome gift that she can keep only at your house- problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Let her use shoes. I don't control my guests, wear shoes if u want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have every right to be put off by this OP.

And nooo…..
You are not overthinking this.

Anytime one visits someone else’s home - they should know that the possibility exists where they may be asked to remove their shoes.
Not a strange request at all.
And if the person does not comply > then that does not bode well for their character.

In your case, I would be taken aback by your “prospective” Nanny’s refusal to remove her shoes.
If hired, what other household rules would she be comfortable not abiding by??
Just some food for thought.

I would look for someone else.
Good luck!

OP should have told prospective nanny about her no shoes in house rule. OP wasted her time and Nanny should charge OP for wasting her time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am neither troll nor any of PPs. This nanny has, how to better describe it, no culture. She just does not think it is a big deal, in her world it is not. She probably wears outside shoes in her home. Most people who wear shoes at home, like some PP said, have CLEAN, inside only shoes for that purpose, and they would have more respect than wear outside shoes to someone else's home with small children who drop things on the floor and then put them in their mouths. It has nothing to do with Covid, it just tells you about that person in general. She knew she was going inside, she should have thought one step ahead and put a pair of socks in the bag to don on her feet, or she could have asked you to use plastic bags on top of her shoes. If she could not find a simple solution to keep both of you happy, she is the wrong person for any nanny job, IMHO.

My culture is in the US where livestock do not roam the streets defecating wherever they happen to be. I think it incredibly rude to have a "no outside shoes in house" policy and not advise visitor in advance.

I suspect OP has permanently turned this nanny off .