"It doesn't hurt to ask"... or does it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

You're the nanny-as-parent thing, you know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

How in the world did you get a Masters without knowing what the word "favor" means? If you voluntarily do something with no one asking you - then it is NOT a favor. Why in the world is that so hard for you to understand?

And where were the children you were supposed to be caring for while you were outside doing yard work?

I do not pay my nanny top dollar to shovel the driveway - I pay her to teach and engage my children.

[Anonymous]

PP, perhaps you need to learn how to read. She said her
nanny family was out of town, I will
assume that's where the kids are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

How in the world did you get a Masters without knowing what the word "favor" means? If you voluntarily do something with no one asking you - then it is NOT a favor. Why in the world is that so hard for you to understand?

And where were the children you were supposed to be caring for while you were outside doing yard work?

I do not pay my nanny top dollar to shovel the driveway - I pay her to teach and engage my children.

I'm sure you have no idea what top-dollar in the nanny world means anyways.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

How in the world did you get a Masters without knowing what the word "favor" means? If you voluntarily do something with no one asking you - then it is NOT a favor. Why in the world is that so hard for you to understand?

And where were the children you were supposed to be caring for while you were outside doing yard work?

I do not pay my nanny top dollar to shovel the driveway - I pay her to teach and engage my children.

Oops I should have mentioned that I had Friday off work. The children and their parents were out of state so I shoveled the driveway for them so that when they got home they wouldn't have to do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

How in the world did you get a Masters without knowing what the word "favor" means? If you voluntarily do something with no one asking you - then it is NOT a favor. Why in the world is that so hard for you to understand?

And where were the children you were supposed to be caring for while you were outside doing yard work?

I do not pay my nanny top dollar to shovel the driveway - I pay her to teach and engage my children.

I'm sure you have no idea what top-dollar in the nanny world means anyways.

I know enough to know the difference between anyway and "anyways".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine ever telling a boss no. In all my 15 years I'm pretty sure I've never said no to a favor.

How often does she ask? That is the issue here.

I think for me I don't see them as favors more like my job. I get texts a few times a week to pick up dry cleaning, go to target to get xy and z. Or mail something at the post office. Pick up a starbucks gift card for someone. I don get asked to switch days but I get my start and stop time switched randomly and it just doesn't bother me that much. Like I said for me it's just my job.

OP here and none of that stuff is a part of my job (otherwise I wouldn't call the requests "favors"). I do everything directly related to my charges and anything for them. The "favors" are added on, usually at the last minute.

Again, my point is not that I cannot say "no" or that my employers don't accept "no" -- my point is that I HATE to have to say "no", I hate seeing MB so concerned when I say "no" and I have started resenting even being asked.

I guess I just think of going to the post office, hardware store, picking up dry cleaning as every nannies job unless your nf doesn't allow you to drive with their children. I view myself as a nanny who tries everyday to make my nf's life easier. If I go to the post office and pick up the dry cleaning on the way home from the park i have helped out mb and that makes me feel good and I know they appreciate me.

Again, that is part of your job - not part of mine. Again, that is why my employers and I think of those things as "favors".

I don't understand why you are being so obtuse, PP.

If you and your employers think you should do those things - great! Mine don't and I don't. Think of something that you would consider a favor and think about being asked to do that thing at least once a week. Then post back.

I never knew these would be apart of my job until mb asked me. It was never discussed or put into my contract. But I am happy do as I'm asked. I guess I'm just a helpful person.

OMG, you are so dense!!! The inclusion on the contract was for the other poster and if you are happy to do anything that is asked then what you are being asked IS NOT A FAVOR.

Oh, Sweetie, I seriously have no clue who in the world would ever hire you to be responsible for the care of their children. All the best to you - you are not one of the brighter bulb in the chandelier!

You are very rude and not as "bright" as you think. There are plenty of employers who appreciate a "can-do" attitude like hers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine ever telling a boss no. In all my 15 years I'm pretty sure I've never said no to a favor.

How often does she ask? That is the issue here.

I think for me I don't see them as favors more like my job. I get texts a few times a week to pick up dry cleaning, go to target to get xy and z. Or mail something at the post office. Pick up a starbucks gift card for someone. I don get asked to switch days but I get my start and stop time switched randomly and it just doesn't bother me that much. Like I said for me it's just my job.

OP here and none of that stuff is a part of my job (otherwise I wouldn't call the requests "favors"). I do everything directly related to my charges and anything for them. The "favors" are added on, usually at the last minute.

Again, my point is not that I cannot say "no" or that my employers don't accept "no" -- my point is that I HATE to have to say "no", I hate seeing MB so concerned when I say "no" and I have started resenting even being asked.

I guess I just think of going to the post office, hardware store, picking up dry cleaning as every nannies job unless your nf doesn't allow you to drive with their children. I view myself as a nanny who tries everyday to make my nf's life easier. If I go to the post office and pick up the dry cleaning on the way home from the park i have helped out mb and that makes me feel good and I know they appreciate me.

Again, that is part of your job - not part of mine. Again, that is why my employers and I think of those things as "favors".

I don't understand why you are being so obtuse, PP.

If you and your employers think you should do those things - great! Mine don't and I don't. Think of something that you would consider a favor and think about being asked to do that thing at least once a week. Then post back.

I never knew these would be apart of my job until mb asked me. It was never discussed or put into my contract. But I am happy do as I'm asked. I guess I'm just a helpful person.

OMG, you are so dense!!! The inclusion on the contract was for the other poster and if you are happy to do anything that is asked then what you are being asked IS NOT A FAVOR.

Oh, Sweetie, I seriously have no clue who in the world would ever hire you to be responsible for the care of their children. All the best to you - you are not one of the brighter bulb in the chandelier!

You are very rude and not as "bright" as you think. There are plenty of employers who appreciate a "can-do" attitude like hers.

Oh, for the love of God!!! I am certainly bright enough to understand what the word FAVOR means!!!! That is what this discussion is about. Why can't you comprehend that?!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

Wow, you are completely enmeshed and have no boundaries in place. Might feel ok to you now but wait until the job ends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:09, she is hired because she is cheap and willing to be their doormat.

Maybe. But it is a child trying to care for a child. It makes me uncomfortable.

I'm in my 30's, I have a masters degree in early childhood education. I have been a nanny for 15 years, most of that as a 24 hr nanny. I'm not a child, just a person who loves to help out anyway I can. Today I shoveled the snow outside on my employers sidewalk and driveway. I am a live in nanny and my nf is out of town for a few days. I try to be helpful whenever I can. I would say it's one of my most appreciated nanny qualities.

Wow, you are completely enmeshed and have no boundaries in place. Might feel ok to you now but wait until the job ends.

+1 Not to mention the fact that no one asked you to do this yard work so it is not a favor. This thread is about employers and nannies asking for too many favors.

[Anonymous]

The people criticizing the nanny who did some shoveling are astonishing to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people criticizing the nanny who did some shoveling are astonishing to me.

People who CANNOT READ at this age are astonishing to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The people criticizing the nanny who did some shoveling are astonishing to me.

People who CANNOT READ at this age are astonishing to me.

Favor definition : an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The people criticizing the nanny who did some shoveling are astonishing to me.

People who CANNOT READ at this age are astonishing to me.

Favor definition : an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual.

Oh my God...

OP was complaining about her employers ASKING for too many favors.

Please stop. I am embarrassed for those you feel the need to keep defending this clear comprehension mistake. I would fire any nanny in a heartbeat who couldn't comprehend a statement as clear as OP's post. Period. The end.