"It doesn't hurt to ask"... or does it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do they pay you extra $$ for all that? If not, you're a doormat.

OP here - no. They are just random favors - switch days off, pick up something for MB while I am out with charge, babysit at night for she or one of her friends (that yes - I do get paid for). I can, and often do, say no - but I hate MB's response to my refusal and I am starting to hate being asked.

You are on duty and out and about and you roll your eyes at picking something up from the store for the baby? Ugh, I bet you commiserate with all those "I'm an amazing nanny but MB hates me" posts.

OP here and the request is never for the baby - they are personal requests for MB as I clearly stated like pick up her dry cleaning.

Please learn to read more carefully and you'll upset yourself less often.

Doesn't change anything. You are out with her child, on duty, being paid by her, you can easily run to CVS or the dry cleaning place. If it's so miserable just quit so MB can find a real nanny.

Welcome back, Bitter Poster! We thought you were banned.

[Anonymous]

I had a MB like that once, OP. I had to say no to everything, even stuff that I could have easily done, just to get her to stop the daily "Would you be able to..."


Some people are just rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I have learned NEVER TO OFFER to do anything extra for MB or it will become a routine part of my job. I actually had to write NEVER OFFER on my daily personal calendar to remind myself.

I am sorry it has to be this way.

What exactly does a nannies daily calendar look like? "Go to work" 5 days a week? What could you have going on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a MB like that once, OP. I had to say no to everything, even stuff that I could have easily done, just to get her to stop the daily "Would you be able to..."


Some people are just rude.

And then you were let go right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a MB like that once, OP. I had to say no to everything, even stuff that I could have easily done, just to get her to stop the daily "Would you be able to..."


Some people are just rude.

And then you were let go right?

??? No, of course I wasn't "let go". I gave my notice when I lined up a better job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I have learned NEVER TO OFFER to do anything extra for MB or it will become a routine part of my job. I actually had to write NEVER OFFER on my daily personal calendar to remind myself.

I am sorry it has to be this way.

What exactly does a nannies daily calendar look like? "Go to work" 5 days a week? What could you have going on?

Not PP but I have two charges with different class schedules and doctors/dentist appointments as well as notations for special events at the library, theaters, pool, etc. I like the daily reminder of what the day is going to look like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Favors should be asked in emergency situations only, IMO. I hate having to say no, too.

+1 This is true in ANY filed of employment and should be kept in mind between friends, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I have learned NEVER TO OFFER to do anything extra for MB or it will become a routine part of my job. I actually had to write NEVER OFFER on my daily personal calendar to remind myself.

I am sorry it has to be this way.

What exactly does a nannies daily calendar look like? "Go to work" 5 days a week? What could you have going on?

Not PP but I have two charges with different class schedules and doctors/dentist appointments as well as notations for special events at the library, theaters, pool, etc. I like the daily reminder of what the day is going to look like.

I am the PP and this plus one (I have three charges under the age of five). It gives me a visual of what the day entails.

[Anonymous]

When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

Not true for me. I dislike having to turn anyone who asks me down for a favor regardless of my salary or relationship to the "asker". I am not a nanny but I assume the same is true. Luckily neither DH nor I or our nanny are "favor askers".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

Not true for me. I dislike having to turn anyone who asks me down for a favor regardless of my salary or relationship to the "asker". I am not a nanny but I assume the same is true. Luckily neither DH nor I or our nanny are "favor askers".

I hope you don't resist saying "no" to your children, at least. Otherwise, you have huge problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

Not true for me. I dislike having to turn anyone who asks me down for a favor regardless of my salary or relationship to the "asker". I am not a nanny but I assume the same is true. Luckily neither DH nor I or our nanny are "favor askers".

I hope you don't resist saying "no" to your children, at least. Otherwise, you have huge problems.

My babies don't ask me for "favors". It is my job as a mother to do everything for them.

Posters like you are so boring. Why do you bother?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

Not true for me. I dislike having to turn anyone who asks me down for a favor regardless of my salary or relationship to the "asker". I am not a nanny but I assume the same is true. Luckily neither DH nor I or our nanny are "favor askers".

I hope you don't resist saying "no" to your children, at least. Otherwise, you have huge problems.

My babies don't ask me for "favors". It is my job as a mother to do everything for them.

Posters like you are so boring. Why do you bother?

Ignore the "I hope you don't resist saying 'no' to your children" poster. Just an unhappy and bitter nanny. We all find her stunningly boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:When you're paid a super wage, it's amazing how motivated you are to become superwoman.

That works for most of us.

Not true for me. I dislike having to turn anyone who asks me down for a favor regardless of my salary or relationship to the "asker". I am not a nanny but I assume the same is true. Luckily neither DH nor I or our nanny are "favor askers".

I hope you don't resist saying "no" to your children, at least. Otherwise, you have huge problems.

My babies don't ask me for "favors". It is my job as a mother to do everything for them.

Posters like you are so boring. Why do you bother?

Ignore the "I hope you don't resist saying 'no' to your children" poster. Just an unhappy and bitter nanny. We all find her stunningly boring.

Sounds like you're a bitter and unhappy MB.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine ever telling a boss no. In all my 15 years I'm pretty sure I've never said no to a favor.