Anyone lese think this Nanny Forum message board has gotten absolutely ridiculous?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well it's sort of like the SAHM vs WOHM mom debates they have on the regular forum - as a WOHM, I feel like the SAHM posters are much much more nasty and judgmental, but then I'll read a SAHM poster that feels exactly the opposite.

To the PP above who thinks that it's mostly the MBs who write the irate posts - it's funny, but I completely disagree, as an MB. I feel like there are a number of MBs who are really and truly trying to get advice on what to do - they may not be doing the "right" thing according to what nannies might think currently, but they are actively trying to ask what to improve upon and then they get totally attached for being cheap or whatever. Those are the reasons I don't post on this board anymore. It's funny that the nannies see the complete opposite problem.

I did just search and didn't find a single MB saying "put up or shut up" type things or that a nanny should be embarrassed about working in another women's home. I don't recall anyone saying anything like that at all.

Actually I was told by an MB that I should be embarrassed to work in another woman's house. It is under a thread about working for new parents - the nanny was upset that despite her contract specifying baby-related household tasks only, the DB asked her to unload the dishwasher and do family laundry. I mentioned that I had a graduate degree in ECE and an MB said that I should be embarrassed to work in another woman's home. It was about a month or so ago.


We all have our individual perspectives that color our opinions. Regardless, I find no reason to be unpleasant or mean on either side of the debate.

[Anonymous]

Well it's sort of like the SAHM vs WOHM mom debates they have on the regular forum - as a WOHM, I feel like the SAHM posters are much much more nasty and judgmental, but then I'll read a SAHM poster that feels exactly the opposite.

To the PP above who thinks that it's mostly the MBs who write the irate posts - it's funny, but I completely disagree, as an MB. I feel like there are a number of MBs who are really and truly trying to get advice on what to do - they may not be doing the "right" thing according to what nannies might think currently, but they are actively trying to ask what to improve upon and then they get totally attached for being cheap or whatever. Those are the reasons I don't post on this board anymore. It's funny that the nannies see the complete opposite problem.

I did just search and didn't find a single MB saying "put up or shut up" type things or that a nanny should be embarassed about working in another women's home. I don't recall anyone saying anything like that at all.

+100. I also did a search and didn't find a single MB saying any of the nasty things the PP mentioned. If PP is interested in honesty, she should start with being honest herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Well it's sort of like the SAHM vs WOHM mom debates they have on the regular forum - as a WOHM, I feel like the SAHM posters are much much more nasty and judgmental, but then I'll read a SAHM poster that feels exactly the opposite.

To the PP above who thinks that it's mostly the MBs who write the irate posts - it's funny, but I completely disagree, as an MB. I feel like there are a number of MBs who are really and truly trying to get advice on what to do - they may not be doing the "right" thing according to what nannies might think currently, but they are actively trying to ask what to improve upon and then they get totally attached for being cheap or whatever. Those are the reasons I don't post on this board anymore. It's funny that the nannies see the complete opposite problem.

I did just search and didn't find a single MB saying "put up or shut up" type things or that a nanny should be embarassed about working in another women's home. I don't recall anyone saying anything like that at all.

+100. I also did a search and didn't find a single MB saying any of the nasty things the PP mentioned. If PP is interested in honesty, she should start with being honest herself.

I just looked it up - the MB said I should be embarrassed to work in another woman's home under the thread "What is wrong with new parents". I am honest. "Put up or shut up" isn't a direct quote obviously and you cannot deny that that is the general feeling of many of the uglier MB (or troll MB) responses.

[Anonymous]

Okay so this is my first time on a forum so I don't even know how I'll know if I get a reply but I will try.

What is a typical day/week like for you nannies? List what you do on each day's. How is your week structured?
How often do you do laundry and change bed sheets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay so this is my first time on a forum so I don't even know how I'll know if I get a reply but I will try.

What is a typical day/week like for you nannies? List what you do on each day's. How is your week structured?
How often do you do laundry and change bed sheets?

Welcome. Please do a search. Start with learning the difference between a nanny and a housekeeper.

Like most other professions, no two jobs are identical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay so this is my first time on a forum so I don't even know how I'll know if I get a reply but I will try.

What is a typical day/week like for you nannies? List what you do on each day's. How is your week structured?
How often do you do laundry and change bed sheets?

Perhaps you should start a new conversation, that way people don't assume that it's a continuation of an old (1.5+ year old) thread.

To answer your question, I agree with the immediate PP. A nanny can live-in or live-out. The nanny might be male or female, with 1 charge or 8. Ages of the charges can be newborn to 17. Sometimes there are special needs, most times there aren't. Sometimes the nanny does child-related household tasks like laundry, sometimes not. Sometimes the nanny works 40 hours exactly, but most full-time nannies work 45+ hours per week. Part-time nannies might have short shifts, split shifts or fewer days per week. Sometimes there are after school activities, sometimes there are toddler/preschool adult and child activities, sometimes there's transportation and volunteering at a charge's preschool. Sometimes the nanny is wearing more than one hat, so she's also the housekeeper, house manager, family assistant, family chef, personal assistant for the employer and/or filling some other position. Very rarely, a nanny may work 24 hours shifts 3-7 days per week.

There are no two positions which are alike. That's why each nanny has a range of pay, based on her qualifications, the minimum that she will accept, the duties she is willing to perform and the willingness of the parent to let the nanny and child figure out the most efficient way to do things.