I was just fired.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, based on what you have posted, you would not likely find a lawyer willing to take your case. You can certainly try, but so far, you have no proof that you were fired due to your abortion.

BTW, the litigation loving PP is wrong on many fronts about contracts and "wrongful termination".

What do you feel litigation PP was wrong about?

I'm not the previous poster but it's very hard to prove wrongful termination without hard proof (ie an email or recording). It's not to say that what MB/DB is legal but how would OP prove that they went through her purse and fired her because she had an abortion? "My purse was on a different hook than the one I usually use" is unfortunately not proof.

OP I'm sorry this happened to you and it's definitely not right what they did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and just to clarify a few things I believe the mom went through my purse while I was outside playing with my charges. I didn't hear her get home the other day and when she came out to tell me she was home she was acting weird, like overly cheery. When I went in to get my stuff to go, I noticed my purse was hung on a different hook than I usually put it on and when I opened it up I found my phone was not in the pocket I always keep it in. Maybe I'm paranoid, but if she did look at my phone she could have easily pulled up the text conversation I've been having with my sister on and off since I found out I was pregnant. They are a very religious and conservative family and I doubt they would have liked the idea if they did find out.

Anyway, I went in this morning and the dad was there and he told me they no longer needed me. I asked why several times and he just kept saying he didn't think I was the best fit for them anymore. He told me that the termination was affective immediately and he thought it was best if I just left before the kids woke up. At this point I was in tears so I just grabbed my stuff and left. I wasn't even able to say goodbye to the kids. At this point, I'm past being sad and I'm just angry. We did have a contract for the first year but after my review we just hadn't gotten around signing a new one. I took 3 sick days last week for the procedure and recovery. They were the first sick days I have taken with this family and I've been with them over a year.

Legally, I'm thinking you're just out of luck, though you can probably try for unemployment (worst they can say is "no"). What an awful thing to happen, though, if that is what prompted them to fire you. They shouldn't have been going through your things, and to let you go without warning, without a goodbye, is not only cruel to do to you, but a terrible thing to do to their own kids. You have my sympathy. I hope you find a better family in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Meant to say. How many more abortions are you going to have? OR have many more times will you have unprotected sex, if that's why you get knocked up in the first place? If you were my nanny, I would not want you near my kids, influencing irresponsibility like that! No way. Use contraception if not using it, caused you to get knocked up. -a fellow nanny

Back in seventh grade, one of my best friends had an abortion. Her stepfather had been raping her regularly for two years. Her mother didn't find out until she brought her to the doctor and found out she was pregnant. My friend works with kids now, in a public school, as a teacher. She's wonderful. Every year, countless women (and girls) have abortions for a variety of reasons. You are free to think that what they're doing is wrong - just as I am free to think you are a judgmental jackass who likes to kick others when they're down and thinks it's okay to snoop through other people's personal belongings. You don't know the OP's life and situation any better than the MB or DB (actually, it's almost 100% certain that you know less). I hope you're not a Christian, because from what I've read, God does not look kindly on those who go around doing the judging for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very hard time believing OP's boss just happened to go through her purse after her abortion. I doubt that happened and her bosses fired her for another reason.

Unless they were suspicious about the three days she was out, and thought maybe she wasn't telling them the real reason why...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Meant to say. How many more abortions are you going to have? OR have many more times will you have unprotected sex, if that's why you get knocked up in the first place? If you were my nanny, I would not want you near my kids, influencing irresponsibility like that! No way. Use contraception if not using it, caused you to get knocked up. -a fellow nanny

Back in seventh grade, one of my best friends had an abortion. Her stepfather had been raping her regularly for two years. Her mother didn't find out until she brought her to the doctor and found out she was pregnant. My friend works with kids now, in a public school, as a teacher. She's wonderful. Every year, countless women (and girls) have abortions for a variety of reasons. You are free to think that what they're doing is wrong - just as I am free to think you are a judgmental jackass who likes to kick others when they're down and thinks it's okay to snoop through other people's personal belongings. You don't know the OP's life and situation any better than the MB or DB (actually, it's almost 100% certain that you know less). I hope you're not a Christian, because from what I've read, God does not look kindly on those who go around doing the judging for him.

blah blah blah. Say what again...jackass?!

[Anonymous]

00:18, back in the seventh grade, why didn't you tell anyone your best friend had been getting raped for two years? Either you're lying or she wasn't your best friend. Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:00:18, back in the seventh grade, why didn't you tell anyone your best friend had been getting raped for two years? Either you're lying or she wasn't your best friend. Nice try.

I'm not lying, but thanks for making assumptions and passing judgment. If you must know, I didn't meet her until the following year. Her mother and stepfather divorced, she changed schools. I was new to the school too, and we became (best) friends. We still are, and we've been out of high school for over ten years. It wasn't until sophomore or junior year that she told me about what had happened. He started molesting her when she was very little and she didn't tell ANYONE because she was afraid of being homeless and hated by her mother, which is what he told her would happen. As you can imagine, it's not something she talks about often. Maybe you think I'm a liar because you don't think that children are ever molested or raped? In which case, I'm actually happy for you - it means you haven't known the pain of knowing someone you care about has been horribly hurt by someone else and knowing there is little you can do to ease that pain. But feel free to educate yourself - it happens, all over the world, every day.

HOWEVER, the point was/is, the poster I was responding to was judging the OP based on ZERO information about her personal life, without knowing if her pregnancy was due to contraceptive failure, or rape, or an accidental one-night stand, or what, nor did she know the reason for the abortion, and yet she seems to think anyone would have one doesn't belong around children. Which is sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Meant to say. How many more abortions are you going to have? OR have many more times will you have unprotected sex, if that's why you get knocked up in the first place? If you were my nanny, I would not want you near my kids, influencing irresponsibility like that! No way. Use contraception if not using it, caused you to get knocked up. -a fellow nanny

Back in seventh grade, one of my best friends had an abortion. Her stepfather had been raping her regularly for two years. Her mother didn't find out until she brought her to the doctor and found out she was pregnant. My friend works with kids now, in a public school, as a teacher. She's wonderful. Every year, countless women (and girls) have abortions for a variety of reasons. You are free to think that what they're doing is wrong - just as I am free to think you are a judgmental jackass who likes to kick others when they're down and thinks it's okay to snoop through other people's personal belongings. You don't know the OP's life and situation any better than the MB or DB (actually, it's almost 100% certain that you know less). I hope you're not a Christian, because from what I've read, God does not look kindly on those who go around doing the judging for him.

blah blah blah. Say what again...jackass?!

Oh, sorry, didn't realize this forum was so popular with twelve year old posters. Unless you're an adult who genuinely thinks it's A) cool to be judgmental, even without knowing the circumstances and B) thinks it's acceptable to resort to posts like "blah blah blah" and name-calling - in which case, I hope you are neither a parent nor a nanny, as you come across too immature for either position.

[Anonymous]

Let's not get silly, PP. Of course children are being molested and raped. My local paper seems to report another teacher every week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess the baby didn't get a choice.

No, the unborn fetus doesn't get a choice. It's the mother that has to be the incubator for the whole pregnancy and then raise it, so she gets the final choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's not get silly, PP. Of course children are being molested and raped. My local paper seems to report another teacher every week.

Exactly - which is why I don't understand how saying I have a friend who was raped as a child means I must be a "liar."

[Anonymous]

OP, I think the way these people treated you doesn't deserve you going back to work for them. If they'll give you a reference, great...but the way they treated you doesn't seem to imply that.

I'm looking for a nanny (for a share) in the spring...I'd be happy to have someone with excellent experience and concern for saying goodbye to the children they are taking care of.

The OP has rights over her body just as we all do - it's none of our business what she chooses to do. I hope anyone I have working for me would feel comfortable telling me they needed time off to recover from a procedure, end of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Meant to say. How many more abortions are you going to have? OR have many more times will you have unprotected sex, if that's why you get knocked up in the first place? If you were my nanny, I would not want you near my kids, influencing irresponsibility like that! No way. Use contraception if not using it, caused you to get knocked up. -a fellow nanny

Back in seventh grade, one of my best friends had an abortion. Her stepfather had been raping her regularly for two years. Her mother didn't find out until she brought her to the doctor and found out she was pregnant. My friend works with kids now, in a public school, as a teacher. She's wonderful. Every year, countless women (and girls) have abortions for a variety of reasons. You are free to think that what they're doing is wrong - just as I am free to think you are a judgmental jackass who likes to kick others when they're down and thinks it's okay to snoop through other people's personal belongings. You don't know the OP's life and situation any better than the MB or DB (actually, it's almost 100% certain that you know less). I hope you're not a Christian, because from what I've read, God does not look kindly on those who go around doing the judging for him.

Your first sentence implied that you were best friends back in seventh grade. Thanks for your clarification.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess the baby didn't get a choice.

No, the unborn fetus doesn't get a choice. It's the mother that has to be the incubator for the whole pregnancy and then raise it, so she gets the final choice.

There is this great thing called adoption. Babies don't need to be aborted, there are plenty of families who would love to have someone else's unwanted child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess the baby didn't get a choice.

No, the unborn fetus doesn't get a choice. It's the mother that has to be the incubator for the whole pregnancy and then raise it, so she gets the final choice.

There is this great thing called adoption. Babies don't need to be aborted, there are plenty of families who would love to have someone else's unwanted child.

How many children are currently stuck in the foster system waiting to be adopted, PP? Care to take a guess at the number of unwanted children who remain alone and vulnerable after birth?