Nanny here in a really bad place with my employer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

Sorry this is ruining your holiday, OP. I find it hard to believe she would fire you for something insignificant so it must be something else, like finances. Wishing you peace and love.

Thank you, PP. OP again and I have no idea why my employer is angry with me so I don’t know if it is insignificant or significant! It isn’t money - they are quite wealthy on their own and the father has a significant trust fund from his parents.

Thank you again!

Pp here. If you don’t know why she’s mad, it can’t be anything significant that you’ve done. Maybe they are having personal problems and it is making her brittle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

Sorry this is ruining your holiday, OP. I find it hard to believe she would fire you for something insignificant so it must be something else, like finances. Wishing you peace and love.

Thank you, PP. OP again and I have no idea why my employer is angry with me so I don’t know if it is insignificant or significant! It isn’t money - they are quite wealthy on their own and the father has a significant trust fund from his parents.

Thank you again!

Pp here. If you don’t know why she’s mad, it can’t be anything significant that you’ve done. Maybe they are having personal problems and it is making her brittle.

Maybe. Thank you so much for responding! I hope you are having a happy Christmas!!

[Anonymous]

Hugs, OP. Whatever happens you have to remember who this woman is and what she is capable of. Please don’t forget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

They are your employers, not your friends and not your family. They don't need to be texting you on off hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

They are your employers, not your friends and not your family. They don't need to be texting you on off hours.

OP here. I did not text or contact my employers on off hours not did they text or call me. I am well aware I am neither friend nor family. I don’t know what you hoped to accomplish with your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did something that pissed her off, she is trying not to lose it and say something she regrets and she doesn’t want to spoil her vacation by dealing with it during her time off, especially since they will likely already be sick or recovering during the break. The fact that they don’t celebrate christmas means nothing! Family time is rare for working families! Have some empathy!

She said something she regrets that her Nasny had to bring up to her. Then she decides she doesn't want to spoil her vacation by dealing with it? Sounds selfish to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

They are your employers, not your friends and not your family. They don't need to be texting you on off hours.

OP here. I did not text or contact my employers on off hours not did they text or call me. I am well aware I am neither friend nor family. I don’t know what you hoped to accomplish with your post.

+1 OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

They are your employers, not your friends and not your family. They don't need to be texting you on off hours.

OP here. I did not text or contact my employers on off hours not did they text or call me. I am well aware I am neither friend nor family. I don’t know what you hoped to accomplish with your post.

You are complaining they didn't text you for Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Well, she probably usually gets a “Merry Christmas” text from them. All my nanny families always send me one. It’s a different kind of job, pp. Whether you actually care about each other or not (which often you tend to because there’s kids involved), you play that family role because otherwise I feel it would make the job awkward.

Keep in mind this is entirely my opinion and based on my experiences. That’s just how I feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, she probably usually gets a “Merry Christmas” text from them. All my nanny families always send me one. It’s a different kind of job, pp. Whether you actually care about each other or not (which often you tend to because there’s kids involved), you play that family role because otherwise I feel it would make the job awkward.

Keep in mind this is entirely my opinion and based on my experiences. That’s just how I feel about it.

+1. I text our nanny Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, Happy Birthday, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I feel pretty miserable. I really am trying not to imagine the worst (having to leave my charge who I have been with since her birth three years ago) but I am failing. This is just a really bad Christmas for me. My employer didn’t even text me to wish me a merry Christmas. I think I am getting fired. I am not at all worried about money or finding another job - I am just heartbroken about my charge. And I still have no clue what I did wrong.

Thanks for giving me an outlet! Merry Christmas to all and thanks for listening and the support.

They are your employers, not your friends and not your family. They don't need to be texting you on off hours.

OP here. I did not text or contact my employers on off hours not did they text or call me. I am well aware I am neither friend nor family. I don’t know what you hoped to accomplish with your post.

You are complaining they didn't text you for Christmas.

OP here. Not “complaining” but my employers have always done it in the past. And usually text me a couple of times over a weekend so not hearing from them at all for four days is unusual. Demonstrates that something in very wrong.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if one of the parents feels like the relationship has gotten too personal. Maybe something got shared that upset the other parent, and they want to pull back.

I really feel like you'd know if it were a "firing offense!"

[Anonymous]

A "firing offense" is anything OP's MB decides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A "firing offense" is anything OP's MB decides.

Well... of course. But don’t you think that OP would know if she did something so wrong after having this job and employer for three years?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A "firing offense" is anything OP's MB decides.

Well... of course. But don’t you think that OP would know if she did something so wrong after having this job and employer for three years?

That person is just being purposefully obtuse. If OP was about to be fired for something wrong she had done, she’d certainly have some idea about it. This has to be some personal issue the immature parent is having. I’m really hoping we’ll get an update soon about it! My curiousity is piqued