Suspect our nanny driving DD places without permission and lying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is all so cray. A normal errand you can run at work is stopping by a bank or getting stamps. Normal stuff that takes a couple minutes. Not driving kids way out of the way. Crazy.

+1. I can understand that if you work 50-60 hours a week, something might come up, but then you ASK your employer if they would prefer you take PTO or take your nanny kid along with. You don't just do it on the regular and lie about it.

Seriously. I work 65 hours a week and I have to get personal stuff done on the job but we have had multiple conversations about it and I often will check in with them to confirm or ask if somethinf works for them. Sure, sometimes their kids are in line at the post office with me, but I chose the postnoffice next to the playgeound and we worked it around nap schedule. I am not forcing a car nap so I can drive to another city for a personal errand and then lying about it!

[Anonymous]

I do personal errands with the kids all the time. My boss wants them to row up normal and that means sometimes going to the post office or grocery store or target or whatever. I've been at my job for 10 years now so clearly it works for us. So happy I work for normal people, my work kids are going to grow up understanding the world doesn't revolve around them and sometimes they have to wait in line to buy stamps.

[Anonymous]

Oh and I've even taken them to my doctor spots! My bosses worl long hours and they'd much rather I take the kids with me than call in sick or take a half day for random appts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and I've even taken them to my doctor spots! My bosses worl long hours and they'd much rather I take the kids with me than call in sick or take a half day for random appts.

Our kids love going to the chiropractor with our nanny because they love the skeletons.

However, I would be upset if my nanny either took them somewhere far away or took them somewhere that they knew I didn't want them to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do personal errands with the kids all the time. My boss wants them to row up normal and that means sometimes going to the post office or grocery store or target or whatever. I've been at my job for 10 years now so clearly it works for us. So happy I work for normal people, my work kids are going to grow up understanding the world doesn't revolve around them and sometimes they have to wait in line to buy stamps.

Same here. One former charge perfected left and right by 4 while pushing a kid cart at the store. He lived it so much that we went 2-4 times per week and we’d stay as long as he wanted. Another one lived going to the pharmacy, because he had my undivided attention for 20-30 minutes, and he got a combination of strength/gymnastics stunt practice and the never-ending whys answered. Another loved going and picking out stamps at the post office, and if he got to put them on envelopes and mail them, even better! I’ve had several girls that loved shopping with me, finding shapes, colors, numbers and letters on packages and signs. I don’t mind letting a parent know what the plan is for the week (and we use under $50/month for activities, so it’s not about needing to ask permission for fees), but I like to broaden kids’ minds, and that happens through a mix of repetition and new experiences. If your child always stays within a small area, you’re defining their world in those parameters. I happen to believe that children of all ages should be exposed to as much as possible, but of course I never lie about it! The lying is the issue here, not the nanny wanting to venture farther.

[Anonymous]

You live in DC? Get her a Metro card. No
more driving—at all.

Also look for another nanny. She will leave when you tell her this. But she’s lying to you about where your child is, so it’s not something to be unhappy about.

[Anonymous]

Can't you people afford better nannies?

[Anonymous]

OP, I would love an update! I suspect your nanny is lying and I Ann one of he people who said hat I would do my best to catch her versus asking her. I also don’t think this reflects poorly on you at all. Being an employer (and an employee) in such an intimate working environment is very different than an office type environment and situations like this can be extremely difficult. I wishing you the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would love an update! I suspect your nanny is lying and I Ann one of he people who said hat I would do my best to catch her versus asking her. I also don’t think this reflects poorly on you at all. Being an employer (and an employee) in such an intimate working environment is very different than an office type environment and situations like this can be extremely difficult. I wishing you the best!

Wow, I’m using an older phone with a smaller keyboard and there are a lot of typos, but I’m sure you get the gist of it!