nanny's priorities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? What does that have to do w the government?

The Unemployment Commission will require documentation that you gave written warnings and then fired for poor performance.

[Anonymous]

Not OP but many of us email the nanny with what was conversated and provide warnings verbally and then in email with its time stamp. Same for vacation or days off approval or any change in kids' schedule or start/end times.
Only took a couple of "discussions" to realize that our previous nanny liked to play dumb about things or play dad off of mom, e.g. DB said I could miss Friday, when she or he did not.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. Good riddance to her OP - she is asking to be fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but many of us email the nanny with what was conversated and provide warnings verbally and then in email with its time stamp. Same for vacation or days off approval or any change in kids' schedule or start/end times.
Only took a couple of "discussions" to realize that our previous nanny liked to play dumb about things or play dad off of mom, e.g. DB said I could miss Friday, when she or he did not.

So much confusion when both parents think they should share the nanny management. They never seem to coordinate with each other, so there's constant misunderstandings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but many of us email the nanny with what was conversated and provide warnings verbally and then in email with its time stamp. Same for vacation or days off approval or any change in kids' schedule or start/end times.
Only took a couple of "discussions" to realize that our previous nanny liked to play dumb about things or play dad off of mom, e.g. DB said I could miss Friday, when she or he did not.

So much confusion when both parents think they should share the nanny management. They never seem to coordinate with each other, so there's constant misunderstandings.

zero confusion when you bust a nanny lying about what time she arrived or random days or made-up conversations.

[Anonymous]

So, what happened today, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny has had 3 full days, 2 half day schedule for over 1.5 years due to (a) not wanting 50 hours any longer, (b) kids are in part or fully day school now, and (c) we need to flexibility to sometimes move the T/W/Th full days to Monday or Friday for days off of school or work travel.

Today she announced she wants to take a class Mondays until 9 or 9:30 so all the Mondays we have down for needing her full-day just won't work.

I told her that is not our agreement, it is a bad idea. She counted with well, she can miss 3 classes. I said this is a bad idea, you know our agreement and we already have more than 3 mondays of full day childcare this Fall. On and on.

This is the same nanny that orders us to be home by 5pm since she signed up for a new 5:30pm class or yoga. We again, say we cannot leave work early for this non-emergency stuff. Similarly we cannot get to work 90 minutes late Mondays we need a nanny.

So sick of this bad attitude.

She's no doubt sick of yours, so time to part ways. Better luck next time.

[Anonymous]

So you think her priorities are wrong because she prioritizing her education?

Seems like you want someone with no life or goals of their own. Find an older nanny. There are plenty of old, poverty stricken nannies who will be willing to allow you to take advantage of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you think her priorities are wrong because she prioritizing her education?

Seems like you want someone with no life or goals of their own. Find an older nanny. There are plenty of old, poverty stricken nannies who will be willing to allow you to take advantage of them.

Yeah, that's just what I do at my full-time job. Hey bosso, I'll be getting in late a few days a week in order to take some morning classes. I have a life and goals you know. I'll just move around the hours your kids need watching, you'll figure it out for me.
Oh, and I'll be having any an all vacation days that any other nanny may also have.

- 50 year old person about to be fired.

[Anonymous]

You forgot to tell boss to shut down the company early on the afternoons you are taking yoga!

[Anonymous]

I have mixed feelings. Obviously telling your boss that you are leaving early for yoga isn’t at all acceptable, period. Expecting your employee to hold every Monday open for the few occasions that you need them, without paying to be in call, is also unacceptable. Giving yourself a paid holiday that is not in your contract (though I doubt OP has a contract) is unacceptable. Not offering paid holidays wouldn’t work for me UNLESS I was paid OT for those days and had at least 3 weeks of vacation, 2 of my own choosing. I don’t think they are a match for one another any longer, but the blame sits on both sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have mixed feelings. Obviously telling your boss that you are leaving early for yoga isn’t at all acceptable, period. Expecting your employee to hold every Monday open for the few occasions that you need them, without paying to be in call, is also unacceptable. Giving yourself a paid holiday that is not in your contract (though I doubt OP has a contract) is unacceptable. Not offering paid holidays wouldn’t work for me UNLESS I was paid OT for those days and had at least 3 weeks of vacation, 2 of my own choosing. I don’t think they are a match for one another any longer, but the blame sits on both sides.

But this isn't your job, which you would not have taken, apparently, in the first place. It sounds like there were some things the nanny liked about this job, like parents who could accommodate her request for reduced hours in the first place.

[Anonymous]

NP. Our previous nanny keeps wanting more money and less to do. Going to soccer practice after school, even though it was a 2 minute walk completely threw her off. She wanted to just do playdates with her nanny friends,even when the kids' ages totally didn't match up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have mixed feelings. Obviously telling your boss that you are leaving early for yoga isn’t at all acceptable, period. Expecting your employee to hold every Monday open for the few occasions that you need them, without paying to be in call, is also unacceptable. Giving yourself a paid holiday that is not in your contract (though I doubt OP has a contract) is unacceptable. Not offering paid holidays wouldn’t work for me UNLESS I was paid OT for those days and had at least 3 weeks of vacation, 2 of my own choosing. I don’t think they are a match for one another any longer, but the blame sits on both sides.

But this isn't your job, which you would not have taken, apparently, in the first place. It sounds like there were some things the nanny liked about this job, like parents who could accommodate her request for reduced hours in the first place.

This nanny did not take an on-call position. It morphed into one and likely without a raise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but many of us email the nanny with what was conversated and provide warnings verbally and then in email with its time stamp. Same for vacation or days off approval or any change in kids' schedule or start/end times.
Only took a couple of "discussions" to realize that our previous nanny liked to play dumb about things or play dad off of mom, e.g. DB said I could miss Friday, when she or he did not.

Not a word!