nanny's priorities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Man, time for a real change here.

Today at 5pm she runs out and says "see you Tuesday, Monday is a day off"! I said no it is not, it is not a national holiday and we both have work and both kids have school.

She starts to argue that "all her nanny friends have Monday off and there is no school." I again reiterate that we both have work, preschool is on and so is our private K-12. While talking I recall she had a playdate at our jewish friends house so I add it how we are not jewish, she is not jewish, and everyone has a normal Monday here. Nanny just storms out.

Unclear if she is still giving herself Monday off. We won't be paying her if she No Shows and frankly she'll be getting fired Monday at 5pm. I think we'll find temp full-time care while we do a search. So done with this bad attitude nanny.

Wow! At least you don't have to think about this anymore.

We are Jewish, and some years when our babies were small, our nanny still worked the holiday so we could go to adult services. As with many DC area residents, we don't have any family in town, so it isn't like we were having all-day family holiday get-togethers.

[Anonymous]

Yes, nannies can get unemployment. That is just a risk OP will have to take. I'd pay an extra percentage point on my unemployment insurance for awhile to get rid of this lady, too.

To qualify, she will have to prove that she's actively searching for a new job. And you're not allowed to be super picky -- if you're offered something reasonable, you're supposed to take it. So, she will either get a new job, or she'll be too busy with her classes and living her life to fulfill the requirements of UI, and OP might not take much of a hit anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, nannies can get unemployment. That is just a risk OP will have to take. I'd pay an extra percentage point on my unemployment insurance for awhile to get rid of this lady, too.

To qualify, she will have to prove that she's actively searching for a new job. And you're not allowed to be super picky -- if you're offered something reasonable, you're supposed to take it. So, she will either get a new job, or she'll be too busy with her classes and living her life to fulfill the requirements of UI, and OP might not take much of a hit anyway.

Do you realize how many parents pay cash under the table? Yes, in this area. How exactly does that work when their laid off nanny files for her weekly unemployment check. Can't be good for the employer, can it?

[Anonymous]

Wow, I am sorry, OP. It is time to fire this childish nanny.

[Anonymous]

Hope all of you are paying on the books.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, nannies can get unemployment. That is just a risk OP will have to take. I'd pay an extra percentage point on my unemployment insurance for awhile to get rid of this lady, too.

To qualify, she will have to prove that she's actively searching for a new job. And you're not allowed to be super picky -- if you're offered something reasonable, you're supposed to take it. So, she will either get a new job, or she'll be too busy with her classes and living her life to fulfill the requirements of UI, and OP might not take much of a hit anyway.

Do you realize how many parents pay cash under the table? Yes, in this area. How exactly does that work when their laid off nanny files for her weekly unemployment check. Can't be good for the employer, can it?

Since I've always paid legally, I have no idea, nor do I care that much. I suspect, that as with many things, the punishment is never as bad as people hope it would be. Likely just back taxes + penalties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, nannies can get unemployment. That is just a risk OP will have to take. I'd pay an extra percentage point on my unemployment insurance for awhile to get rid of this lady, too.

To qualify, she will have to prove that she's actively searching for a new job. And you're not allowed to be super picky -- if you're offered something reasonable, you're supposed to take it. So, she will either get a new job, or she'll be too busy with her classes and living her life to fulfill the requirements of UI, and OP might not take much of a hit anyway.

Do you realize how many parents pay cash under the table? Yes, in this area. How exactly does that work when their laid off nanny files for her weekly unemployment check. Can't be good for the employer, can it?

Since I've always paid legally, I have no idea, nor do I care that much. I suspect, that as with many things, the punishment is never as bad as people hope it would be. Likely just back taxes + penalties.

As opposed to jail time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, nannies can get unemployment. That is just a risk OP will have to take. I'd pay an extra percentage point on my unemployment insurance for awhile to get rid of this lady, too.

To qualify, she will have to prove that she's actively searching for a new job. And you're not allowed to be super picky -- if you're offered something reasonable, you're supposed to take it. So, she will either get a new job, or she'll be too busy with her classes and living her life to fulfill the requirements of UI, and OP might not take much of a hit anyway.

Do you realize how many parents pay cash under the table? Yes, in this area. How exactly does that work when their laid off nanny files for her weekly unemployment check. Can't be good for the employer, can it?

Since I've always paid legally, I have no idea, nor do I care that much. I suspect, that as with many things, the punishment is never as bad as people hope it would be. Likely just back taxes + penalties.

As opposed to jail time?

Yes. My guess is no one has ever served jail time for this. Maybe if you ran a company with lots of employees, you might get some kind of sentence. For a couple with a nanny, it would never happen.

[Anonymous]

She can try to file for unemployment but, if she has been paid cash she would have no proof of a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:only if she was laid off because her position was eliminated.

if someone is fired for talking back to their boss or having a bad attitude or not showing up for work, she does not get unemployment.

how do you get your housekeys, credit card and car seats back when you fire someone saturday morning?

You'll have to show the unemployment commission copies of the warning letters you gave her about any problems. And a written job description. Do you have that?

i never heard of a nanny getting unemployment from the state or county. would be something she files, not employer.

My nanny friend, who was let go from her position, received unemployment for a couple of weeks until she found a position. She was paid half under the table and the other half through a payroll system. She only claimed the legal payment to receive unemployment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can try to file for unemployment but, if she has been paid cash she would have no proof of a job.

My my, aren't you naive?! You apparently have no clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can try to file for unemployment but, if she has been paid cash she would have no proof of a job.

I assume if OP said the gross weekly and net weekly there are tax withholdings from both parties.

Regardless, it would be very difficult to give even a semi-positive reference if this is how unprofessional and belligerent the nanny is. And I would definitely not provide a severance if she is acting how she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She can try to file for unemployment but, if she has been paid cash she would have no proof of a job.

My my, aren't you naive?! You apparently have no clue.

Oh wise nanny, pls do share what happens when you go to file unemployment with no proof of an actual job. You aren’t paying taxes, which means you didn’t fill out forms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She can try to file for unemployment but, if she has been paid cash she would have no proof of a job.

I assume if OP said the gross weekly and net weekly there are tax withholdings from both parties.

Regardless, it would be very difficult to give even a semi-positive reference if this is how unprofessional and belligerent the nanny is. And I would definitely not provide a severance if she is acting how she is.

Good to have documentation of continued poor performance.

[Anonymous]

Why? What does that have to do w the government?