Coping with nanny cams

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious: nannies, do you get used to the camera, or does it inhibit how freely you can play with your charges? Being a good nanny or parent is of course about being alert and keeping them safe, but you also have to be relaxed and goofy when you are with kids all day (I do anyway!).

I completely forget about the cameras and act naturally all the time. Honestly, the cameras do not inhibit me at all.

[Anonymous]

How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents who leave their little child with an untrustworthy person are despicable. Is that fat paycheck really worth it?

Who is doing that?

You with the cameras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

[Anonymous]

They prob just check the cams 0-2 time a day.
I know I like to see if my kids made it to class on time after the teacher said she was often late. And that her nap started at a reasonable time. Obviously if I see the nanny forming bad habits, we talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They prob just check the cams 0-2 time a day.
I know I like to see if my kids made it to class on time after the teacher said she was often late. And that her nap started at a reasonable time. Obviously if I see the nanny forming bad habits, we talk about it.

Looks like you have left behind your child in the care of an irresponsible person.

Why are so many parents doing the very same thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They prob just check the cams 0-2 time a day.
I know I like to see if my kids made it to class on time after the teacher said she was often late. And that her nap started at a reasonable time. Obviously if I see the nanny forming bad habits, we talk about it.

Looks like you have left behind your child in the care of an irresponsible person.

Why are so many parents doing the very same thing?

NP here and for me it is not about my nanny being irresponsible - it is about me wanting to see my kid in real time during the work day.

I don't understand why this is such a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They prob just check the cams 0-2 time a day.
I know I like to see if my kids made it to class on time after the teacher said she was often late. And that her nap started at a reasonable time. Obviously if I see the nanny forming bad habits, we talk about it.

What about the things you see that have no bearing on your nannys performance? If your nanny puts a heating pad on her stomach will you ask her about her period? Would you want her to comment on the personal things she sees around your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

Exactly. Now let's see how she responds...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They prob just check the cams 0-2 time a day.
I know I like to see if my kids made it to class on time after the teacher said she was often late. And that her nap started at a reasonable time. Obviously if I see the nanny forming bad habits, we talk about it.

Looks like you have left behind your child in the care of an irresponsible person.

Why are so many parents doing the very same thing?

8:17?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

Exactly. Now let's see how she responds...

PP here and I do make the occasional doctor/dentist appointment when my charge is sleeping and don;t care if my employers hear/see me. That is not personal information since I will be needing time off for the appointment anyway.

I work 48 hours a week.

My point is that OP could greatly reduce her embarrassment by NOT revealing anything personal when she is at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

Exactly. Now let's see how she responds...

For the OP, there are two possibilities.

1. The family is truely weird and doesn't know boundaries.

2. Making comments is a way of sending an indirect message saying "We know you make personal calls. Act accordingly."

Sounds like the OP has a problem with spending too much time on the phone and making personal calls and watching TV. We have all been there with young kids who nap. It's impossible to get all the kids' laundry, clean up, meals prepped. Why is the nanny having any time at all watching TV during work hours? She is not a SAHM. She is a paid employee. No one gets paid to watch TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

Exactly. Now let's see how she responds...

For the OP, there are two possibilities.

1. The family is truely weird and doesn't know boundaries.

2. Making comments is a way of sending an indirect message saying "We know you make personal calls. Act accordingly."

Sounds like the OP has a problem with spending too much time on the phone and making personal calls and watching TV. We have all been there with young kids who nap. It's impossible to get all the kids' laundry, clean up, meals prepped. Why is the nanny having any time at all watching TV during work hours? She is not a SAHM. She is a paid employee. No one gets paid to watch TV.

Sounds like you need to get back to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can the nanny get used to the camera and forget it's there if the parents make indiscreet comments about what they see? How can you forget when there is a camera everywhere you turn? This is not the typical nanny cam in the playroom scenario. No one is forgetting about these cameras.

Nanny here and work for a high profile couple who does have cameras everywhere but the bathrooms. I have completely forgotten about them and do, act and work as I would if the cameras were not present. I don't know how I do - I just do.

I have never made personal phone calls or watched TV when working so that has never been an issue whether there were cameras in the house or not. When my charges are napping, I do my usual child-related chores and then sit down, have lunch and read. When my employers make comments or ask about what book I am reading - I just tell them. Who cares? Strangers in the park can ask you what book you are reading and no offense is taken.

I am not a live-in nanny so I don't feel that I need very personal time in my work environment.

I don't think it's an apt comparison. If a stranger listened to you make a phone call and inserted themselves into the conversation you would probably be offended by the intrusion. Not because using a cell phone outside of your house is unreasonable, because intruding on a conversation that does not include you is rude and creepy. I also think a high profile family has greater cause for concern. Their status might attract people who are looking to profit by taking advantage of their generosity. I'm also curious how many hours you work. For someone who works above and beyond normal business hours it's will be impossible to call a doctors office or schedule any appointments outside of the work day.

the real issue here is that the NF is clearly using the cameras to amuse themselves at the nannys expense. How would it go over if the nanny commented on a prescription bottle she happened to see on the bathroom counter? Just because we work in close contact where personal information is readily available doesn't mean we get to be be tackles with our comments.

Exactly. Now let's see how she responds...

For the OP, there are two possibilities.

1. The family is truely weird and doesn't know boundaries.

2. Making comments is a way of sending an indirect message saying "We know you make personal calls. Act accordingly."

Sounds like the OP has a problem with spending too much time on the phone and making personal calls and watching TV. We have all been there with young kids who nap. It's impossible to get all the kids' laundry, clean up, meals prepped. Why is the nanny having any time at all watching TV during work hours? She is not a SAHM. She is a paid employee. No one gets paid to watch TV.

Sounds like you need to get back to work.

I am on the west coast and don't start work until 9AM.

Really? Is that the best you've got when you have nothing of substance to add?