Not invited to birthday party!

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here why are nannies making big deal for not invited in birthdays. Stop interfering in personal choices. Their kids their rule. Anyway who what's to go see their boss in weekend don't you have things to do or just relax at home . Buy big cake and celebrate yourself.

Please try to spend your free time improving your English, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Cali nanny again-
That's nice you have an extra hour once a year to go to a birthday party, but not all nannies care to be that involved in their NF. Obviously OP's NF would also agree they don't care for their nanny to be that involved in personal time.

I am also a California nanny and beg readers not to think we are all like PP. I have a wonderful life (married with grown children) and still find the time and desire to celebrate my charge's birthday with him and his family at his birthday party.

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I'm excited to go to my charges bday party in a few weeks. It'll be her first real party, and she's psyched for it too. I can't wait to see her little face light up when the day finally arrives! Although she's been in day care for the last few months, and I only see her a few hours each week outside my 9-5, I've known and helped raise her since birth. So I love being a part of all her big moments, because they're not going to last forever.

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My son loves nothing more than to see his Mom and Dad, Grandparents and his Nanny in the same room. Of course, his nanny is always included in his birthday parties! It makes him happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Cali nanny again-
That's nice you have an extra hour once a year to go to a birthday party, but not all nannies care to be that involved in their NF. Obviously OP's NF would also agree they don't care for their nanny to be that involved in personal time.

I didn't say you should go. I didn't say anyone should go. I didn't say the OP should or shouldn't invite her nanny. What I said was, please stop acting like nannies who find small chunks of time to celebrate with our charges or remain in their lives after the job ends, don't have lives ourselves. Like a PP above me, I'm married and run my own business now, and although we have no kids there are two fur babies that require a great deal of care. And I still love when I get to see my NF again, and the kids especially! Birthday parties, joining them for dinner, taking the kids out to the aquarium and lunch (3 hours) every six months or so...it hardly affects my ability to have a "life."

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here why are nannies making big deal for not invited in birthdays. Stop interfering in personal choices. Their kids their rule. Anyway who what's to go see their boss in weekend don't you have things to do or just relax at home . Buy big cake and celebrate yourself.

Please try to spend your free time improving your English, PP.

I don't have to.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here why are nannies making big deal for not invited in birthdays. Stop interfering in personal choices. Their kids their rule. Anyway who what's to go see their boss in weekend don't you have things to do or just relax at home . Buy big cake and celebrate yourself.

Please try to spend your free time improving your English, PP.

I don't have to.

NP here. Yes, you do have to.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here why are nannies making big deal for not invited in birthdays. Stop interfering in personal choices. Their kids their rule. Anyway who what's to go see their boss in weekend don't you have things to do or just relax at home . Buy big cake and celebrate yourself.

Please try to spend your free time improving your English, PP.

I don't have to.

You don't have to but it would go a long way to being understood.

OP - not being invited wouldn't bother me. If you want to give a gift, give a gift. I have no desire to hang out at work when I'm not working.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are now 13, 10, and 8. We've never invited a nanny to a birthday party (and I certainly can't imagine doing so at these ages, nor, by the way, would I ever dream of asking a nanny to shop for my kids' birthday gifts or wrap them). Our nanny works for us, she's not part of the family or within our close circle of friends; no different than any other day care provider.

You don't see a difference between a woman who works one-on-one with your kid(s) in your home versus one of several workers in a classroom in a facility?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are now 13, 10, and 8. We've never invited a nanny to a birthday party (and I certainly can't imagine doing so at these ages, nor, by the way, would I ever dream of asking a nanny to shop for my kids' birthday gifts or wrap them). Our nanny works for us, she's not part of the family or within our close circle of friends; no different than any other day care provider.

The Help is the help and they better not forget it!

Are they or are they not an employee?

No, PP, nannies are NOT an "employee" to the children in their care. They are beloved and you insulted your kids in not including their nanny in their birthday celebrations. You basically told your little ones that their relationship and feelings don't matter to you. I am so sad that you cannot see that.

- signed an MB who grew up with a much loved nanny.

Is this a joke? Insulted the kids? What a crock. A nanny is an employee, and nothing more, like it or not, the same way a teacher who may be beloved is still a teacher and not a family member or close friend.

Wow, PP, you haven't got a clue what is going on in your children's heads or hearts. I truly do feel so sorry for your children.

I feel sorry for you and yours. Do you really think my 14 year old daughter wants or ever has wanted a nanny at her birthday? Has never mentioned it once, in all her years. My 10 year old son at his, playing laser tag with his friends? How about the 8 year old, should the nanny tag along to get mani-pedis or play mini-golf at her party with 10 little girls and a couple of close mom-friends? Even though most parties are drop offs past age 5, maybe 6, you really think the nanny should be there to celebrate with my kids and all their friends? You are delusional.

OP was talking about parties with kids. You never have birthday parties with family and neighbors? Interesting.