Why will no one hire a professional nanny that is also a mom?

[Anonymous]

I just quit my nanny job where I brought my daughter. I got sick of making a shitty "share" wage only to have them have total control over everything. A true share is where both sets of parents have a say. I will never ever take a job like that again. I now will get to stay home with my daughter and have full control of her schedule and socializations. And I will work a few nights per week with another family's twin infants to help the mom get some sleep while her husband travels for work. It pays more too and will be what my husband and I need to supplement his income. Win win for me.

[Anonymous]

The owner of my company has 4 children. He has had the same nanny for 12yrs she brings her child. Her child (10yrs old) now picks up the school bus from his house.

This is a very wealthy family.Nanny make $1300/wk and they pay for her and her son to fly back to Peru once a year for 2 weeks. She also was given his old Lexus. The rest of the perks are too many to mention and jaw dropping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing a "professional" nanny in less you have gone to a school that specializes in it. You may be a career nanny, but not a professional. I would not agree to it as for the slight difference in pay, we'd still have to pay the utilities, extra food, and other expenses as well as the extra wear and tear on our house. And, the scheduling issues. A "professional" nanny will have her own child care for her children as that is what professionals do - have child care for their children so they can work. A nanny with older kids would be fine as long as they didn't need off/flexibility for their kids activities.

Nonsense. It is a profession. One who practices in a profession is a professional. A professional golfer didn't go to school or university to learn golf same with a professional wrestler or tennis player. A professional model didn't go to school for modeling nor in some cases did professional actors and actresses. Even musicians can be self-taught.

So please stop - this "there is no such thing as a professional nanny" is so tiresome and wrong.

+1 Yes, please do stop. Your definition is professional as one who went to a school for the profession is wrong.

+2 I think it is the same poster who always writes that a nanny is not a professional because there is no nanny school. I hope this puts that poster to rest.

Same with the poster with the poor math skills who always writes about his/her company that never hires women.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here who is able to bring my son to work with me. I have 2 part time jobs that he comes with me to, I also had very little trouble getting other jobs that would allow him to come with me (offered 2 other positions when I started the 2 I'm currently working).

In response to the rate discussion, you should never expect to make your full wage (what you would make without your child), expect a 25-30% decrease in your hourly rate. With my level of experience, qualifications and background, I routinely made $20+/hour for one child without bringing my child. I now charge $15-$16/hour for one child (dependent on the amount of housework), and $17-$18/hour for 2 children.

In regards to parents being worried about the nanny favoring her own child, for me personally this is not the case! I am being paid to care for your child, so my child's needs will usually take a backseat. My child is a toddler and I care for an infant, so my child is mostly okay to wait for my assistance. I like the idea of making my child wait for me to "get to him", he is learning to be patient and more independent, as opposed to being an only child to a SAHM!

[Anonymous]

I want a nanny that is a mother. A mother with grown children. No, I am sorry, OP, I would not hire a nanny who needed to bring their own child to work with them. I am hiring a nanny to care for my child, not your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just quit my nanny job where I brought my daughter. I got sick of making a shitty "share" wage only to have them have total control over everything. A true share is where both sets of parents have a say. I will never ever take a job like that again. I now will get to stay home with my daughter and have full control of her schedule and socializations. And I will work a few nights per week with another family's twin infants to help the mom get some sleep while her husband travels for work. It pays more too and will be what my husband and I need to supplement his income. Win win for me.

Actually it is a share if you are sharing your time between their child and yours. And, it isn't unreasonable for them to pick activities and interests for their child as they are your employer. You are not helping them out as a friend. This is your job where you are paid money. It also costs them money to host your child in their home, which you probably do not take into consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing a "professional" nanny in less you have gone to a school that specializes in it. You may be a career nanny, but not a professional. I would not agree to it as for the slight difference in pay, we'd still have to pay the utilities, extra food, and other expenses as well as the extra wear and tear on our house. And, the scheduling issues. A "professional" nanny will have her own child care for her children as that is what professionals do - have child care for their children so they can work. A nanny with older kids would be fine as long as they didn't need off/flexibility for their kids activities.

Nonsense. It is a profession. One who practices in a profession is a professional. A professional golfer didn't go to school or university to learn golf same with a professional wrestler or tennis player. A professional model didn't go to school for modeling nor in some cases did professional actors and actresses. Even musicians can be self-taught.

So please stop - this "there is no such thing as a professional nanny" is so tiresome and wrong.

+1 Yes, please do stop. Your definition is professional as one who went to a school for the profession is wrong.

+2 I think it is the same poster who always writes that a nanny is not a professional because there is no nanny school. I hope this puts that poster to rest.

Same with the poster with the poor math skills who always writes about his/her company that never hires women.

There are three nanny schools in the United States. As well as professional nanny assoications ,where nannies can go to further their education. One of the longest running nanny support groups in right here in our area. ADCAN. Dcareanannies.com. So for the person who says a nanny is not a professional should read up more before she posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just quit my nanny job where I brought my daughter. I got sick of making a shitty "share" wage only to have them have total control over everything. A true share is where both sets of parents have a say. I will never ever take a job like that again. I now will get to stay home with my daughter and have full control of her schedule and socializations. And I will work a few nights per week with another family's twin infants to help the mom get some sleep while her husband travels for work. It pays more too and will be what my husband and I need to supplement his income. Win win for me.

Actually it is a share if you are sharing your time between their child and yours. And, it isn't unreasonable for them to pick activities and interests for their child as they are your employer. You are not helping them out as a friend. This is your job where you are paid money. It also costs them money to host your child in their home, which you probably do not take into consideration.

Me coming to them is extremely convenient for them but not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just quit my nanny job where I brought my daughter. I got sick of making a shitty "share" wage only to have them have total control over everything. A true share is where both sets of parents have a say. I will never ever take a job like that again. I now will get to stay home with my daughter and have full control of her schedule and socializations. And I will work a few nights per week with another family's twin infants to help the mom get some sleep while her husband travels for work. It pays more too and will be what my husband and I need to supplement his income. Win win for me.

Actually it is a share if you are sharing your time between their child and yours. And, it isn't unreasonable for them to pick activities and interests for their child as they are your employer. You are not helping them out as a friend. This is your job where you are paid money. It also costs them money to host your child in their home, which you probably do not take into consideration.

Me coming to them is extremely convenient for them but not for me.

And them paying you money is extremely convenient to you but not for them. Open your eyes.

[Anonymous]

How do you know that the OP is "sock puppeting...?"

No proof...Just an assumption.

This forum is full of those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The owner of my company has 4 children. He has had the same nanny for 12yrs she brings her child. Her child (10yrs old) now picks up the school bus from his house.

This is a very wealthy family.Nanny make $1300/wk and they pay for her and her son to fly back to Peru once a year for 2 weeks. She also was given his old Lexus. The rest of the perks are too many to mention and jaw dropping.

that's so nice that the nanny's kid gets to go to a whole different set of schools because they put the nanny child's address as the nanny bosses.

[Anonymous]

The nannies I know with children have the grandmother or relative watch them during the day or after school.

[Anonymous]

My family is doing this now and it' working out pretty well. There have been a few times where illnesses have been an issue, which is kind of annoying, but I'm lucky enough to be able to work from home on shot notice so it hasn't caused a crisis. We have a live "nanny cam" (she knows about it) so my husband and I can check in during work and it sometimes seems like she's harder on her own kid than on ours, which I think is her being afraid that we'll think she's favoring her kid or afraid that her kid will hurt ours. Sometimes I feel bad for her, but it's not my place to say anything.

I wasn't OK with our old nanny taking the kids in the car, but I'm OK with this nanny doing it, because I know she'll be safe with her own child in the car. We do pay her less than we did our other nanny (about 25% less) because of the issues other stated (subsidizing child care).

After this experience I'd only draw the line if the nanny had more than one child they wanted to bring with them. It seems like they would have to spend the majority of the time managing their own kids with mine being the odd man out. But I would be OK if I had two kids and the nanny wanted to bring one child with her.

The way I see it, kids are going to have to deal with other kids eventually. It's better that it happens sooner rather than later. If you can find another family for a share (where the sitter doesn't have a child) that's great, but it's next to impossible to find another family with the same schedule, with a kid the same age as yours and with the same parenting style. I view our current arrangement as a share without the drama of the other family. Before this we had a share and the other family was *nothing* but drama.

So yes, I'd hire the OP.

[Anonymous]

My family is doing this now and it's working out pretty well. There have been a few times where illnesses have been an issue, which is kind of annoying, but I'm lucky enough to be able to work from home on short notice so it hasn't caused a crisis. We have a live "nanny cam" (she knows about it) so my husband and I can check in during work and it sometimes seems like she's harder on her own kid than on ours, which I think is her being afraid that we'll think she's favoring her kid or afraid that her kid will hurt ours. Sometimes I feel bad for her, but it's not my place to say anything.

I wasn't OK with our old nanny taking the kids in the car, but I'm OK with this nanny doing it, because I know she'll be safe with her own child in the car. We do pay her less than we did our other nanny (about 25% less) because of the issues other stated (subsidizing child care).

After this experience I'd only draw the line if the nanny had more than one child they wanted to bring with them. It seems like they would have to spend the majority of the time managing their own kids with mine being the odd man out. But I would be OK if I had two kids and the nanny wanted to bring one child with her.

The way I see it, kids are going to have to deal with other kids eventually. It's better that it happens sooner rather than later. If you can find another family for a share (where the sitter doesn't have a child) that's great, but it's next to impossible to find another family with the same schedule, with a kid the same age as yours and with the same parenting style. I view our current arrangement as a share without the drama of the other family. Before this we had a share and the other family was *nothing* but drama.

So yes, I'd hire the OP.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I posted that twice! Sorry, I'm new.