Why will no one hire a professional nanny that is also a mom?

[Anonymous]

I had a great experience with a nanny who brought her son with her. He was my older child's age and it worked out PERFECT for him to have a playmate while the nanny focused on the baby. In hindsight, I would have never hired a nanny who did not bring her child along.

this nanny is extremely qualified and now watches triplet newborns. Her son is now school aged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a great experience with a nanny who brought her son with her. He was my older child's age and it worked out PERFECT for him to have a playmate while the nanny focused on the baby. In hindsight, I would have never hired a nanny who did not bring her child along.

this nanny is extremely qualified and now watches triplet newborns. Her son is now school aged.

I am glad it worked out for you. I, personally, would never hire a nanny who needed to bring her child to work. Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because we want our kid to be your primary focus. It's just human nature to look after your own first and then others.

This is how I feel about employees in my business and why 99% of employees are male. Under 50 employees.

You don't have a company, Troll. And why are you always on the nanny board? No life at all?

PS 99% of your employees in a 50 employee company cannot be male unless you are hiring half-people. LOL 1 female employee in a 50 person company would be 98%. Under 50 would be a greater percentage.

You are so full of crap AND bad at basic math.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a great experience with a nanny who brought her son with her. He was my older child's age and it worked out PERFECT for him to have a playmate while the nanny focused on the baby. In hindsight, I would have never hired a nanny who did not bring her child along.

this nanny is extremely qualified and now watches triplet newborns. Her son is now school aged.

Never in a million years would I have a school-aged child around newborn triplets if I didn't have to!!! OMG, especially with small babies - that is asking for infection in the first six months!!! And just so a nanny can babysit her own kid at my house?!!! No f-ing way!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because we want our kid to be your primary focus. It's just human nature to look after your own first and then others.

This is how I feel about employees in my business and why 99% of employees are male. Under 50 employees.

You don't have a company, Troll. And why are you always on the nanny board? No life at all?

PS 99% of your employees in a 50 employee company cannot be male unless you are hiring half-people. LOL 1 female employee in a 50 person company would be 98%. Under 50 would be a greater percentage.

You are so full of crap AND bad at basic math.

Excellent catch, PP!!! This troll is always spouting that same line!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our current nanny is a mother of two, but they're in their teens. It can create scheduling problems that we've never had with a childless nanny, but it's workable.

I would not, however, hire a nanny who wanted to bring her own child. I am not interested in subsidizing someone's stay at home parenting decision. So many are women who want to stay home with their babies and decide that they'll "nanny" another child too, at full rates, and I should be grateful for the opportunity for my child to have a playmate brought to the house each day. Nope - not buying it.

Also - huge liability issue. I can get workers comp protection for nanny, but not for nanny's child.

And: equality of opportunities, privileges, etc. I may want my children to be able to go to certain paid activities or have memberships at certain places (think aquarium, pool, etc.). I am not going to pay for nanny's child to attend, and I am not going to alter what I want my kids to do if nanny's kid could not participate. I do not want nanny to be in a position where she'd be making decisions based on what her child versus my child wants to do. If she decides "in favor" of something better for her kid, well that's not why I have a nanny, is it? If she decides "in favor" of my kids, resentment can grow.

I don't want to pay for food for another person in addition to nanny (my kids eat a ton, so don't say it's negligible). I don't want to have to adjust my kids' schedule to accomodate another kid's. I don't want to have to make room in my house for another child's naps or my car for another child's seat. If we wanted another child in our home, we'd have added another to our family. It just in no way is helpful or positive for me as an employer and has only downsides.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

A "professional nanny" does not bring her child to work with her. Period.

Now if you want to ask why you can't be in a nanny share as the nanny - that is a different question all together. I still wouldn't hire you but I have never wanted to put my kids in a nanny share either.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing a "professional" nanny in less you have gone to a school that specializes in it. You may be a career nanny, but not a professional. I would not agree to it as for the slight difference in pay, we'd still have to pay the utilities, extra food, and other expenses as well as the extra wear and tear on our house. And, the scheduling issues. A "professional" nanny will have her own child care for her children as that is what professionals do - have child care for their children so they can work. A nanny with older kids would be fine as long as they didn't need off/flexibility for their kids activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing a "professional" nanny in less you have gone to a school that specializes in it. You may be a career nanny, but not a professional. I would not agree to it as for the slight difference in pay, we'd still have to pay the utilities, extra food, and other expenses as well as the extra wear and tear on our house. And, the scheduling issues. A "professional" nanny will have her own child care for her children as that is what professionals do - have child care for their children so they can work. A nanny with older kids would be fine as long as they didn't need off/flexibility for their kids activities.

Nonsense. It is a profession. One who practices in a profession is a professional. A professional golfer didn't go to school or university to learn golf same with a professional wrestler or tennis player. A professional model didn't go to school for modeling nor in some cases did professional actors and actresses. Even musicians can be self-taught.

So please stop - this "there is no such thing as a professional nanny" is so tiresome and wrong.

[Anonymous]

mag4happiness wrote:Can someone PLEASE enlighten me!!! Why will parents in this area not give a second look to a professional nanny that has her own child and needs to bring it/them with?

Do you believe she will take less care of your child(ren)?

I can tell you, this can not be further from the truth. Most nanny moms work their butts off to prove that. In reality its the total opposite. Our kids are the ones that lose out on the arrangement. But no one is giving these professional, educated, nurturing nannies a second look because they wanted to have a family too.

Please enlighten me!

mg

Hopefully you have been enlightened, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing a "professional" nanny in less you have gone to a school that specializes in it. You may be a career nanny, but not a professional. I would not agree to it as for the slight difference in pay, we'd still have to pay the utilities, extra food, and other expenses as well as the extra wear and tear on our house. And, the scheduling issues. A "professional" nanny will have her own child care for her children as that is what professionals do - have child care for their children so they can work. A nanny with older kids would be fine as long as they didn't need off/flexibility for their kids activities.

Nonsense. It is a profession. One who practices in a profession is a professional. A professional golfer didn't go to school or university to learn golf same with a professional wrestler or tennis player. A professional model didn't go to school for modeling nor in some cases did professional actors and actresses. Even musicians can be self-taught.

So please stop - this "there is no such thing as a professional nanny" is so tiresome and wrong.

+1 Yes, please do stop. Your definition is professional as one who went to a school for the profession is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a great experience with a nanny who brought her son with her. He was my older child's age and it worked out PERFECT for him to have a playmate while the nanny focused on the baby. In hindsight, I would have never hired a nanny who did not bring her child along.

this nanny is extremely qualified and now watches triplet newborns. Her son is now school aged.

I am glad it worked out for you. I, personally, would never hire a nanny who needed to bring her child to work. Never.

Ok. Great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a great experience with a nanny who brought her son with her. He was my older child's age and it worked out PERFECT for him to have a playmate while the nanny focused on the baby. In hindsight, I would have never hired a nanny who did not bring her child along.

this nanny is extremely qualified and now watches triplet newborns. Her son is now school aged.

Never in a million years would I have a school-aged child around newborn triplets if I didn't have to!!! OMG, especially with small babies - that is asking for infection in the first six months!!! And just so a nanny can babysit her own kid at my house?!!! No f-ing way!!!

You have a very active imagination. Read again.

[Anonymous]

I have two kids. I don't want a nanny who is bringing a third to the mix.

[Anonymous]

I would only do it if you would charge me less per hour than a nanny who would only be watching my own child. That would only be fair since my child would not be getting the same amount of attention than he/she would if she were being cared for by a nanny w/out a child. That would only be fair.

So I would hope you are not asking for the same exact rate as other nannies who do not bring an extra child along because you do realize that allowing your own child to come to work w/you is regarded as a HUGE perk, right? You save tons of money on childcare.

However, I think parents who think you will treat another child better than their own are pretty insecure parents. This is just a common assumption, but has no merit unless they have viewed a circumstance where their child was treated less favorable.

And I would prefer a nanny who already has raised a child vs. one who simply has ECE units or a Child Development degree since real life, hands-on experience means more to me than simply stages of childhood taught in a classroom or learned in a textbook.