Why will no one hire a professional nanny that is also a mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they're selfish. They have a lot of round-about ways of justifying it, but it is because these women are selfish. They want someone 100% devoted to them and their needs. However, by that logic, you'd need a single, nanny with no familial ties at all, or any semblance of a personal life. Every employee has things they prioritize over their job, and to think having a child is some insurmountable challenge that cannot be overcome (and you all are mothers yourselves!!!) is absolutely ridiculous.

Not having a child, PP, having a child that you need to bring to work with you every single day.

Stop being an ass - your argument is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I nannied fulltime for years. When i got pregnant with my first I cut my rate by a third and offered childcare for ONE child in my home. Ive never had a problem finding clients, I always have a waiting list. Maybe you are charging too much? I did do a short stint of going to clients house with my baby for about half rate but prefer care in my home now that I have my own.

[Anonymous]

No thank you, OP (and sock-puppet OP). I would not hire a nanny who brought her child to work with her.


Do as suggested and open a home daycare center or get a job in a daycare center where you can bring your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they're selfish. They have a lot of round-about ways of justifying it, but it is because these women are selfish. They want someone 100% devoted to them and their needs. However, by that logic, you'd need a single, nanny with no familial ties at all, or any semblance of a personal life. Every employee has things they prioritize over their job, and to think having a child is some insurmountable challenge that cannot be overcome (and you all are mothers yourselves!!!) is absolutely ridiculous.

If I am paying somebody DC-nanny wages, you bet I do. That's exactly the point of having a nanny and not using daycare.

Additionally, the issue with a nanny having a small child is that everything gets compounded. Nanny's kid is sick, nanny doesn't come in, MB has to stay home. When nanny herself is sick, MB also stays home. Right there you are doubling the chances of not having child care available. There are now more variables that can go wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I nannied fulltime for years. When i got pregnant with my first I cut my rate by a third and offered childcare for ONE child in my home. Ive never had a problem finding clients, I always have a waiting list. Maybe you are charging too much? I did do a short stint of going to clients house with my baby for about half rate but prefer care in my home now that I have my own.

Basically you switched to an in-home daycare, which makes MUCH more sense. That's what OP should do.

[mag4happiness]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our current nanny is a mother of two, but they're in their teens. It can create scheduling problems that we've never had with a childless nanny, but it's workable.

I would not, however, hire a nanny who wanted to bring her own child. I am not interested in subsidizing someone's stay at home parenting decision. So many are women who want to stay home with their babies and decide that they'll "nanny" another child too, at full rates, and I should be grateful for the opportunity for my child to have a playmate brought to the house each day. Nope - not buying it.

Also - huge liability issue. I can get workers comp protection for nanny, but not for nanny's child.

And: equality of opportunities, privileges, etc. I may want my children to be able to go to certain paid activities or have memberships at certain places (think aquarium, pool, etc.). I am not going to pay for nanny's child to attend, and I am not going to alter what I want my kids to do if nanny's kid could not participate. I do not want nanny to be in a position where she'd be making decisions based on what her child versus my child wants to do. If she decides "in favor" of something better for her kid, well that's not why I have a nanny, is it? If she decides "in favor" of my kids, resentment can grow.

I don't want to pay for food for another person in addition to nanny (my kids eat a ton, so don't say it's negligible). I don't want to have to adjust my kids' schedule to accomodate another kid's. I don't want to have to make room in my house for another child's naps or my car for another child's seat. If we wanted another child in our home, we'd have added another to our family. It just in no way is helpful or positive for me as an employer and has only downsides.

These are great reasons. There is zero chance I would hire you, Sorry OP.

Thank you for your honesty. Being a nanny is all I have ever been and all I will ever want to be ( as a profession). I am hoping there are some families out there that will see that my love for their child(ren) is the same as it is for my own. Being a nanny (IMO) is like being a step parent. You personally did not have them but you care about their well being and up bringing. You want to be there for all their achievements, their firsts. And know that even in their challenges they will still come to me for help and nurturing.

I understand that families want the nanny to give 100% of their attention to their charge. I would not ask for anything less out of nanny.

thank you all for your options it has definitely been an enlightenment.

[Anonymous]

Yikes OP. I'm not hiring a step parent for heaven's sake.

Take 14:53's advice - her approach sounds perfect, and appropriate. That approach will be pretty attractive to parents I think, in a way that yours might not be.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, OP wake up! No one is begrudging you the joys of motherhood - but no one should feel obligated to give you a job if you insist on bringing your child to work with you!!!


You have some serious personality issues if you cannot see the difference between "employing a mother" and "employing a mother who has to bring her child with her to care for your child".

[Anonymous]

I tried it. My child ended up with diaper rash so bad her butt bled because the nanny couldn't change her diaper often enough.

I also refuse to subsidize another person's childcare. No one helps with mine, so why should I help with hers? Never again.

[Anonymous]

Yall are b!tches for no reason on this board. My god after a few people answered was the rest of the rude reactions really necessary?

Op you could charge nanny share rates, keep kids at home for about a 3rd of what families pay nannies per child and keep 2-3, or you could try to find work at a preschool or daycare that offer nice discounts for employess. Either way children are expensive and you will take a hit no matter how you figure it if you stay in the EC field. I personally would keep kids at home. My aunt turned a basement (finished) into a at home class for little ones and Offered nearly a quarter discount compared to centers in her area. She began by getting a few babies from our church.

10 years later she has a 7 class building and her own school

[Anonymous]

So we did this. Her baby was almost the same age as ours and we thought it would be nice. And it was for awhile. But once they became toddlers it became more difficult. Our parenting philosophies differeD a little and since we were paying, we felt she should honor ours with our kid. She felt we were judging her parenting choices. When DS would get a cold, she wouldn't want to come in so her kid didn't get it. Vomiting I get, not a cold. The thing that kind of killed it for us was when she wouldn't want to do certain activities or classes because they were too expensive or her kid don't want to participate. We were in a share when we didn't want to be in one.

Now I fully get that She is not representative of all nannies who are moms. But that negative experience totally turned me off To a nanny with young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nannied fulltime for years. When i got pregnant with my first I cut my rate by a third and offered childcare for ONE child in my home. Ive never had a problem finding clients, I always have a waiting list. Maybe you are charging too much? I did do a short stint of going to clients house with my baby for about half rate but prefer care in my home now that I have my own.

Basically you switched to an in-home daycare, which makes MUCH more sense. That's what OP should do.

So you have a home daycare! This sounds like a great option. FYI I know someone who started a home daycare when her girls were little and ended up being an owner of a pretty large and well liked center.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and if I ever needed a nanny ( I don't plan on it ) I would never hire someone who has a kids that they want to bring with.
If I had kids I do believe that they would take more priority then the charges I watched over so for that reason I would not hire you.

I do however think the in home daycare idea is great!!

[Anonymous]

No "professional nanny" has to bring her children, her dog or her boyfriend/husband to work with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because we want our kid to be your primary focus. It's just human nature to look after your own first and then others.

This is how I feel about employees in my business and why 99% of employees are male. Under 50 employees.