Our nanny thinks she knows everything. Let the parents make the calls!

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Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

I don't know anyone who believes in spanking who would want, or ask, anyone else to spank their children. Sure, maybe you found some wake job who asked you to do that, but surely you realize this isn't a representative person and that's why you left the job - she was a wake job, and you knew you could find a better job elsewhere. You shouldn't extrapolate from this one crazy person that it's okay for a nanny to insist on doing things her way when the parents want something else done. CIO, disposable diapers, and food pouches are not on par with hitting a child.

[Anonymous]

sorry, auto correct - whackjob

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

I don't know anyone who believes in spanking who would want, or ask, anyone else to spank their children. Sure, maybe you found some wake job who asked you to do that, but surely you realize this isn't a representative person and that's why you left the job - she was a wake job, and you knew you could find a better job elsewhere. You shouldn't extrapolate from this one crazy person that it's okay for a nanny to insist on doing things her way when the parents want something else done. CIO, disposable diapers, and food pouches are not on par with hitting a child.

You seem to have no clue how many nannies and parents might disagree with your last statement.
Btw, I had said "spanking," not "hitting."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

I don't know anyone who believes in spanking who would want, or ask, anyone else to spank their children. Sure, maybe you found some wake job who asked you to do that, but surely you realize this isn't a representative person and that's why you left the job - she was a wake job, and you knew you could find a better job elsewhere. You shouldn't extrapolate from this one crazy person that it's okay for a nanny to insist on doing things her way when the parents want something else done. CIO, disposable diapers, and food pouches are not on par with hitting a child.

You seem to have no clue how many nannies and parents might disagree with your last statement.
Btw, I had said "spanking," not "hitting."

neither do you.

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Anonymous wrote:She has been taking care of kids for years and you are a first time mom. She knows a hell of a lot more than you know.

I basically agree with the above post even though I didn't say it. She is therefore not the "only" one posting similar sentiments.

This isn't about being a first time mom. I am and do most of the things the nanny wants to do. This is a parenting choice.

Then don't choose a nanny who knows what she's doing.

She doesn't know what she's doing. She knows how she likes to do things, and that's all. And sounds like she doesn't manage her career too well because this lack of flexibility and respect for different parenting philosophies isn't likely to endear her to the person signing her paycheck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

Sounds like you didn't screen your employers very well. Just get a dumb first-time mom you can bully. How easy is that?

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

Of course, but highly experienced professional naannies know how they prefer to do thinks at work.

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Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

I don't know anyone who believes in spanking who would want, or ask, anyone else to spank their children. Sure, maybe you found some wake job who asked you to do that, but surely you realize this isn't a representative person and that's why you left the job - she was a wake job, and you knew you could find a better job elsewhere. You shouldn't extrapolate from this one crazy person that it's okay for a nanny to insist on doing things her way when the parents want something else done. CIO, disposable diapers, and food pouches are not on par with hitting a child.

You seem to have no clue how many nannies and parents might disagree with your last statement.
Btw, I had said "spanking," not "hitting."

Spanking is one form of hitting.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/hit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

Of course, but highly experienced professional naannies know how they prefer to do thinks at work.

Their preference doesn't mean it's the only right way to do things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:11:43 again - when you're interviewing your next candidate, I would be really upfront about that fact that while you are flexible in a lot of ways (give examples of where you'd give the nanny full control), there are some areas where you really want things to be done in line with your parenting style and be specific about those areas - sleep, food, diapers, limited screen time, etc. Confirm that the nanny is on board with respecting the parents' wishes (as long as it's not harmful).

I did that when finding our new nanny and it really helped get us started on the right foot. She's a parent as well and she was able to sympathize with the fact that as a parent, you just want some things done your way when it comes to your kid.

Would you feel like a little spanking is "harmful"?

Are you trying to derail the thread into a debate over where the line is when it comes to what is harmful? I have an opinion in answer to your question, but I don't want to participate in the side show you're trying to start.

Precisely my point, thank you. What I might think is "harmful," you might not.

And Btw, I had left the lawyer mom who told me to spank her two year old. She believed, as you do, that she had the authority to call the shots. Sorry, but not with me, or any professional nanny, FYI.

Just get a sitter and all your problems will be solved. How easy is that?

Sounds like you didn't screen your employers very well. Just get a dumb first-time mom you can bully. How easy is that?

Is that really the best you can do? I know you can do better than that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

Of course, but highly experienced professional naannies know how they prefer to do thinks at work.

Their preference doesn't mean it's the only right way to do things.

Example please.

[Anonymous]

One of the top benefits of having a dedicated nanny for your children, as opposed to group care, is that you can be much more specific in how the day should go, how your child is cared for, what they eat, what discipline is used, what products are used on your child, etc. I certainly wouldn't pay more to be given less flexibility than what a childcare center offers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

Of course, but highly experienced professional naannies know how they prefer to do thinks at work.

Their preference doesn't mean it's the only right way to do things.

Do you think they should have maybe learned a few things from their tons of experience?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you simply need a sitter, not a professional nanny. Even cheaper too!

Tons of professional nannies don't bat an eye at disposable diapers and non-organic food.

Of course, but highly experienced professional naannies know how they prefer to do thinks at work.

Their preference doesn't mean it's the only right way to do things.

Do you think they should have maybe learned a few things from their tons of experience?

The number one thing they should have learned is how to build an effective collaborative relationship with their employer.