Being forgotten as the most important figure in a babies life. How to deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Constant rotation of irregular caregivers is good for babies?

When is it good for a baby, 13:06?
And do us a favor. Don't give me anything. I am NOT the OP, you fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

This is correct, thank you.

Everyone knows how children often can be depressed over the loss of their beloved longtime primary caregiver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

This is correct, thank you.

Everyone knows how children often can be depressed over the loss of their beloved longtime primary caregiver.

The only beloved longtime primary caregiver is a parent. The loss of a parent does hurt a child.

Everything else is sad but readily survivable.

[Anonymous]

If I knew my nanny feels the way you do, I would look for a replacement immediately. You sound unbalanced. What you call love borders on obsession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I knew my nanny feels the way you do, I would look for a replacement immediately. You sound unbalanced. What you call love borders on obsession.

If you ever detect that your child loves the nanny, fire her ASAP. You are right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

This is correct, thank you.

Everyone knows how children often can be depressed over the loss of their beloved longtime primary caregiver.

The only beloved longtime primary caregiver is a parent. The loss of a parent does hurt a child.

Everything else is sad but readily survivable.

Have you discussed this with the pediatrician?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

Are you kidding me with this line of b.s. again. Let it go lady. Stop brining up this attachment crap on every thread. It's been discussed to death and no matter how many ways you try to frame it, no one is backing your story that multiple sitters/nannies/caregivers is the most detrimental thing you can do to a child. One has to wonder why you are so preoccupied with the subject, maybe you are horrible at your job and are constantly afraid of being found out? That's it right? Tout the harmful effects of changing nannies in the hopes you will be kept around...get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

Are you kidding me with this line of b.s. again. Let it go lady. Stop brining up this attachment crap on every thread. It's been discussed to death and no matter how many ways you try to frame it, no one is backing your story that multiple sitters/nannies/caregivers is the most detrimental thing you can do to a child. One has to wonder why you are so preoccupied with the subject, maybe you are horrible at your job and are constantly afraid of being found
out? That's it right? Tout the harmful effects of changing nannies in the hopes you will be kept around...get over it.

Everything you don't like, must be coming from one person. Crazy fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I knew my nanny feels the way you do, I would look for a replacement immediately. You sound unbalanced. What you call love borders on obsession.

If you ever detect that your child loves the nanny, fire her ASAP. You are right.

Love is fine. Spending the weekend in bed crying because the gig is ending in a YEAR is mental institution material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

That's not the way it works - you made the claim, you bring the evidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I knew my nanny feels the way you do, I would look for a replacement immediately. You sound unbalanced. What you call love borders on obsession.

OP here- I am glad I not your nanny. The MB and DB know I am passionate about my charges and they love me. They call me all the time on weekends (the kids facetime me) and I usually talk to them on a nightly basis while on vacation and do have pics of them and me up in my home. When you are a nanny and spending most of your time with the kids you become very passionate with them and love them as your own. I can't have kids of my own and they kinda substitute as them. I have a lot of love to give and MB and DB appreciate how much I care and love my babies. It is hard when you spend that much time and energy loving them and then to be gone. I plan on keeping in touch but it is different then seeming them on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

That's not the way it works - you made the claim, you bring the evidence.

Maybe that's how it works in your world.
Here's how it works in my world:

If you want to learn something, you will.
It's up to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and coming from someone who does have a psychology masters, children MOST CERTAINLY do suffer from attachment issues when a nanny leaves. Why do you think day care can be so harmful? Because they bounce from room to room every six months the first two years. There have been SEVERAL academic research studies proving that the lose of a caregiver is a traumatic experience for infants and toddlers. It is ideal for a child to stay with the same caregiver from birth to age three.

Besides your passionate opinion, what do you have to offer by way of evidence?

Google is your friend. "Infant attatchment"

That's not the way it works - you made the claim, you bring the evidence.

Maybe that's how it works in your world.
Here's how it works in my world:

If you want to learn something, you will.
It's up to you.

If I wanted to learn something, it wouldn't take a stranger on the Internet to teach me. This is the way civilized arguments work: if you claim something is true, you must bring the evidence or be dismissed. It's a very particular world where you can send others to do your legwork for you.