Nanny’s Rules

[Anonymous]

Do you have rules with your charges that their parents don’t?

For example, my charges must sit to eat. I don’t care if it’s at the table or a blanket in the park, if they are eating - they are sitting.

And, nanny doesn’t push ride on toys or carry a child outside. You learn to push with your feet or pedal on ride-on toys and you walk on your own feet outside or go back into the stroller.

My lovely employers are exhausting themselves pushing the kids around the house in little cars and carrying kids outside.

[Anonymous]

Please, thank you, and excuse me. Non-negotiable. And I’m very precise about language.

[Anonymous]

My charges are so incredibly cute and so smart. Yes, they know exactly what my rules are and they know I’ll enforce them as well as praise and reward for following them.

I had to draw a similar “walk on your own feet” type rule for my charge in dance class. She wanted me to always pick her up which totally defeats the point of dance class. So I made up a happy feet rule that she has to have her feet on the dance floor during class but I would carry her at the end of class.

[Anonymous]

I have a no stroller policy once toddlers are walking reliably. I'm happy to carry them if they're tired, but I know when that's true vs. they're refusing.

If they choose to take a toy (including a scooter or bike), they are responsible for keeping it with them, bringing it to me when they don't want to play with it, and for bringing it home (I will remind them). I don't push them either.

Eating happens while sitting at a table, on a blanket (at the park), or on a bench. Drinking happens near me, and the vessel is put down correctly before the child runs off.

Use your manners. I can't hear whining, demands, or rude comments.

I don't lie to you, you don't lie to me. If I say we will do something, we will... if you tell me you will do something, you will.

Stay together. Tell me when the group wants to switch areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a no stroller policy once toddlers are walking reliably. I'm happy to carry them if they're tired, but I know when that's true vs. they're refusing.

If they choose to take a toy (including a scooter or bike), they are responsible for keeping it with them, bringing it to me when they don't want to play with it, and for bringing it home (I will remind them). I don't push them either.

Eating happens while sitting at a table, on a blanket (at the park), or on a bench. Drinking happens near me, and the vessel is put down correctly before the child runs off.

Use your manners. I can't hear whining, demands, or rude comments.

I don't lie to you, you don't lie to me. If I say we will do something, we will... if you tell me you will do something, you will.

Stay together. Tell me when the group wants to switch areas.

Good rules except the stroller - why? The stroller is so much easier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a no stroller policy once toddlers are walking reliably. I'm happy to carry them if they're tired, but I know when that's true vs. they're refusing.

If they choose to take a toy (including a scooter or bike), they are responsible for keeping it with them, bringing it to me when they don't want to play with it, and for bringing it home (I will remind them). I don't push them either.

Eating happens while sitting at a table, on a blanket (at the park), or on a bench. Drinking happens near me, and the vessel is put down correctly before the child runs off.

Use your manners. I can't hear whining, demands, or rude comments.

I don't lie to you, you don't lie to me. If I say we will do something, we will... if you tell me you will do something, you will.

Stay together. Tell me when the group wants to switch areas.

Good rules except the stroller - why? The stroller is so much easier!

Because parents always want to upgrade to a double with kickboard, so that older kids don't have to walk either. I'm happy to carry a toddler who gets tired, but I'm not going to pushe three kids to school every morning. Not happening. Besides, the more they walk, the more that toddlers are capable of walking...

[Anonymous]

I am another anti-stroller nanny. Who knew this was such a trend? I babywear. I never use strollers and I almost exclusively nanny twins, too! They can walk or they can go in the baby carrier. The baby carrier is a lot less comfortable than a cushy stroller with a reclined seat and a sun shade.

But I think the bigger thing is that the stroller is so big an obvious that it just constantly seems like an option to ride vs. walk. And when you have the stroller, it’s harder to manage little ones who aren’t in the stroller because even empty, the stroller occupies your hands. So for both nanny and kid, it becomes self-reinforcing. You bring the stroller, so it’s easier to use the stroller, so you get used to the stroller, so you bring it again next outing.

As I say to my kids: we left the house to wear you out; we could wear ME out at home.

Since my goal is for them to walk as much as possible, it makes more sense for me to use the carrier because they end up walking most of the time and just taking breaks in the carrier, vs riding most of the time and walking when they get super antsy.

[Anonymous]

Stroller is fine. They can go there even at 3. My son 3 still goes in the stroller if the park is very far away. But for nearby places like school, parks he walks. I don't want him to get too tired because he takes nap times

[Anonymous]

The parents I work with have no good manners. I can't wait to leave. I'm the only one teaching good manners to thier kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The parents I work with have no good manners. I can't wait to leave. I'm the only one teaching good manners to thier kids.

Omg... I can't believe we are exactly in the same situation now. I have been with this family for over a month; a family with 3. 5 , 3 and a 8 months old. The two older kids are so rude to me; disrespect me all the time and parents don't do anything; even this it's in front of them. They haven't how teach good manners all. They never say "I'm sorry" and even they are so rude and mean in front of them; they don't correct them at all. This is so dissapointing. Even when I have talked to the parents about it; the say " awww they are so tired" " awww they don't know" "awww maybe they just need this thing this way or that way" "awww never they were hungry" . How sad and dissapointing I have found work for this family. It's my very first time.. working with parents and kids with so good behavior and lack or manners. They don't know the meaning of 'thank you" and please. Very sad situation. I gave already my 2 weeks of notice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The parents I work with have no good manners. I can't wait to leave. I'm the only one teaching good manners to thier kids.

Omg... I can't believe we are exactly in the same situation now. I have been with this family for over a month; a family with 3. 5 , 3 and a 8 months old. The two older kids are so rude to me; disrespect me all the time and parents don't do anything; even this it's in front of them. They haven't how teach good manners all. They never say "I'm sorry" and even they are so rude and mean in front of them; they don't correct them at all. This is so dissapointing. Even when I have talked to the parents about it; the say " awww they are so tired" " awww they don't know" "awww maybe they just need this thing this way or that way" "awww never they were hungry" . How sad and dissapointing I have found work for this family. It's my very first time.. working with parents and kids with so good behavior and lack or manners. They don't know the meaning of 'thank you" and please. Very sad situation. I gave already my 2 weeks of notice!

I'm so happy for you!! You did good!! I learned late but my nanny friends taught me that I shouldn't let my boss take advantage of me. And it's disgusting when few white dads flirts at me. Ugh.

I can't imagine how parents treats Hispanic nannies, they tend to just take it. I'm Hispanic. But enough is enough.
My boss doesn't respect me and my time. The best rules nanny can have is good manners. GOOD MANNERS is everything!! They found a daycare spot without telling me. I hope the next family is nicer like others.

Its awful to see parents especially mothers babying, making excuses to their kids behavior from 2 years old to 12 years old. The boy hits, escapes from his own mother! That kid without discipline will have a hard time at school. I feel bad for the next nanny or teachers. Most caregivers and even asistants deserves so much bonuses and gifts.

Many parents don't appreciate experienced nannies and teachers. Trust when a nanny tells you something. Good manners is good, the best teaching and base in everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The parents I work with have no good manners. I can't wait to leave. I'm the only one teaching good manners to thier kids.

Omg... I can't believe we are exactly in the same situation now. I have been with this family for over a month; a family with 3. 5 , 3 and a 8 months old. The two older kids are so rude to me; disrespect me all the time and parents don't do anything; even this it's in front of them. They haven't how teach good manners all. They never say "I'm sorry" and even they are so rude and mean in front of them; they don't correct them at all. This is so dissapointing. Even when I have talked to the parents about it; the say " awww they are so tired" " awww they don't know" "awww maybe they just need this thing this way or that way" "awww never they were hungry" . How sad and dissapointing I have found work for this family. It's my very first time.. working with parents and kids with so good behavior and lack or manners. They don't know the meaning of 'thank you" and please. Very sad situation. I gave already my 2 weeks of notice!

Very good!! Two week notice is fine. And if they find a daycare spot without telling you which is horrible they need to give you 2 months notice or at least one month and post for you. In that case if they are ungrateful bosses I find a job on my own. Which I did sometimes. Always a good nanny will find a job. And hopefully a good family who will respect the nannies. They are like teachers, preparing the kids for school.

[Anonymous]

No eating in my car. Only water allowed for drinks in my car.

Unless the parents are going to pay for my car to be detailed each month, Larla can wait ten minutes until we’re home for her snack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No eating in my car. Only water allowed for drinks in my car.

Unless the parents are going to pay for my car to be detailed each month, Larla can wait ten minutes until we’re home for her snack.

I use my employer's car. Child is 10yo and told clearly to clean up his messes. I enforce clearing out dishes and trash daily, but he's taken to hiding it all under the front seats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have rules with your charges that their parents don’t?

For example, my charges must sit to eat. I don’t care if it’s at the table or a blanket in the park, if they are eating - they are sitting.

And, nanny doesn’t push ride on toys or carry a child outside. You learn to push with your feet or pedal on ride-on toys and you walk on your own feet outside or go back into the stroller.

My lovely employers are exhausting themselves pushing the kids around the house in little cars and carrying kids outside.

I don’t stay long with parents who refuse to behave like parents. Why bother? It’s a waste of my time.