Getting very irritated with reminding them to pay me

[Anonymous]

Like what in the world? For 2 years mb always wrote me a check for any hours worked overtime when she would calculate it on Friday. My guaranteed pay of 40 hours is direct deposited. However they ran out of checks months ago and since she has been using a transfer method between our banks which is fine with me. Thing is she was very good about doing it in front of me before I’d leave but now she is pulling this “I’ll send the money as soon as I get them settled, have a good weekend!” Crap. The last 2 times she said this to me I told her I preferred if she did it then. They don’t go to bed until 8/8:30 and when I leave at 6 she has no idea what I need to do with my money.

I just find it a bit presumptuous of her to assume it’s ok to send it at her convenience. I always have between 10-15 hours of OT by Friday and just because some of my pay is dd doesn’t mean I may not need access to the rest immediately. I couldn’t imagine being so rude to someone that takes care of my kids 50-60 hours a week! She doesn’t know anything about my finances. It’s like the longer I work for this family the more comfortable and ungrateful they become instead pof appreciative. I’m planning on quitting after the holidays because I have earned my bonus and really enjoy this time with the kids but this and other things have just become the last straw!

[Anonymous]

Lol not Pof should say *of anyway end of rant

[Anonymous]

Actually it isn’t the end of my rant.

The only meal she gives them is dinner. I manage to feed these 3 many times throughout the day and get plenty of other things accomplished at the same time and sit with them most of the meal. She doesn’t even sit with them to eat she gets back on her laptop to work while they eat alone. I even asked why she doesn’t eat dinner with her children and talk to them about their day and she is like “I need to get stuff done for work so I like that they are occupied” ugh I just shake my head!

[Anonymous]

Then whenever I remind her late at night to send me my money she doesn’t even reply back “so sorry! I forgot” or something. Instead she seems annoyed on Monday. I hate rude parents run off people that love their kids but this is unacceptable behavior.

[Anonymous]

You should NEVER have to remind any employer to pay you. Hand her a written invoice for extra hours and say that the funds transfer needs to be completed now.

[Anonymous]

It is time to move on. You have a right to be paid on time and I would tell her that, in future, you will report to Wage and Labor when you are paid late. Yes, she will get in a Huff but too bad. She gets paid on time and it's pure crap that she has no check. They are hurting for money and cannot afford you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like what in the world? For 2 years mb always wrote me a check for any hours worked overtime when she would calculate it on Friday. My guaranteed pay of 40 hours is direct deposited. However they ran out of checks months ago and since she has been using a transfer method between our banks which is fine with me. Thing is she was very good about doing it in front of me before I’d leave but now she is pulling this “I’ll send the money as soon as I get them settled, have a good weekend!” Crap. The last 2 times she said this to me I told her I preferred if she did it then. They don’t go to bed until 8/8:30 and when I leave at 6 she has no idea what I need to do with my money.

I just find it a bit presumptuous of her to assume it’s ok to send it at her convenience. I always have between 10-15 hours of OT by Friday and just because some of my pay is dd doesn’t mean I may not need access to the rest immediately. I couldn’t imagine being so rude to someone that takes care of my kids 50-60 hours a week! She doesn’t know anything about my finances. It’s like the longer I work for this family the more comfortable and ungrateful they become instead pof appreciative. I’m planning on quitting after the holidays because I have earned my bonus and really enjoy this time with the kids but this and other things have just become the last straw!

I know her behavior is irritating but maybe she is overwhelmed. Share your concerns with her about timely payment of overtime and agree on a time for her to pay you. Perhaps by midnight on Saturday?
I agree that you should not have to remind her, this could be a little awkward in addition to you wanting your money.

On a different note, I am trying to figure out why you felt a need to ask her why she does not have dinner with her children. This is none of your business. Do your job, get paid and make your business your concern.

[Anonymous]

If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

You should not have to remind an employer to pay you or wait for one second past the agreed upon time.

But the whole diatribe about her employer and her eating dinner with her children is ridiculous and not OP’s business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

Not the issue. OP should never have to remind her employer to pay her or wait one second beyond the agreed upon time. If Friday, for example, is payday then you are paid before you leave work at the end of your day on Friday. No exceptions and no excuses.

But you’re right about OP needing to drop the judgement on the mother. That is not her job or purview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

Not the issue. OP should never have to remind her employer to pay her or wait one second beyond the agreed upon time. If Friday, for example, is payday then you are paid before you leave work at the end of your day on Friday. No exceptions and no excuses.

But you’re right about OP needing to drop the judgement on the mother. That is not her job or purview.

People get busy. They have jobs, kids, their own lives. Its very easy to forget. Send her a reminder the night before documenting the hours work and the total amount. Simple. Many professionals submit a timesheet. Be a "professional" instead of a child having a temper tantrum. Friday ends at midnight, not the end of the work day.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry for all the snarky, clueless responses here.

I cannot believe how mean some of these posters are.
Perhaps the heat is getting to them.....

Seems when one gets nasty, the rest follow.

You have every right to be mad.
I would too.
While she may have her plate full - as your employer it is HER responsibility to ensure that you are paid in FULL every single payday.
No excuses.
No exceptions.

For you to have to actually remind your boss to pay you is outrageous!

You have made the right decision to move on.
Until then, the best you can do is keep reminding your MomBoss about your OT pay until she gets tired of being asked & gets her act together.

In the meantime, I strongly advise you not to tell her that you will report her.
This will totally burn a huge bridge.
And the whole dinner question you asked her is totally unrelated to your specific question.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Move on, and state this as your reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

Not the issue. OP should never have to remind her employer to pay her or wait one second beyond the agreed upon time. If Friday, for example, is payday then you are paid before you leave work at the end of your day on Friday. No exceptions and no excuses.

But you’re right about OP needing to drop the judgement on the mother. That is not her job or purview.

People get busy. They have jobs, kids, their own lives. Its very easy to forget. Send her a reminder the night before documenting the hours work and the total amount. Simple. Many professionals submit a timesheet. Be a "professional" instead of a child having a temper tantrum. Friday ends at midnight, not the end of the work day.

All employers and company owners have jobs, kids, their own lives and manage not to forget to pay their employees. Are you okay when your boss forgets to pay you? You get your paycheck before the end of the workday. No excuses. I run a forty person company and have never had any of my employees need to remind me to pay them. I most certainly would never forget to pay the employee who takes care of my child all day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you cannot wait a few hours for her to do a bank payment, then you have bigger issues, especially financial. How she parents her kids is not for you to decide.

Not the issue. OP should never have to remind her employer to pay her or wait one second beyond the agreed upon time. If Friday, for example, is payday then you are paid before you leave work at the end of your day on Friday. No exceptions and no excuses.

But you’re right about OP needing to drop the judgement on the mother. That is not her job or purview.

People get busy. They have jobs, kids, their own lives. Its very easy to forget. Send her a reminder the night before documenting the hours work and the total amount. Simple. Many professionals submit a timesheet. Be a "professional" instead of a child having a temper tantrum. Friday ends at midnight, not the end of the work day.

Does your boss get too busy to pay you, PP?