Getting very irritated with reminding them to pay me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I didn’t say I “relied” on it. It’s just the money I prefer to use and most of my OT is guaranteed but just not direct deposit.

Sounds like you are over spending and living pay check to paycheck so it is an issue. Change your autopay to monday. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

The MB is not a mother. She does not take care of her kids nor does she eat dinner with them. She is merely a child-producer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like what in the world? For 2 years mb always wrote me a check for any hours worked overtime when she would calculate it on Friday. My guaranteed pay of 40 hours is direct deposited. However they ran out of checks months ago and since she has been using a transfer method between our banks which is fine with me. Thing is she was very good about doing it in front of me before I’d leave but now she is pulling this “I’ll send the money as soon as I get them settled, have a good weekend!” Crap. The last 2 times she said this to me I told her I preferred if she did it then. They don’t go to bed until 8/8:30 and when I leave at 6 she has no idea what I need to do with my money.

I just find it a bit presumptuous of her to assume it’s ok to send it at her convenience. I always have between 10-15 hours of OT by Friday and just because some of my pay is dd doesn’t mean I may not need access to the rest immediately. I couldn’t imagine being so rude to someone that takes care of my kids 50-60 hours a week! She doesn’t know anything about my finances. It’s like the longer I work for this family the more comfortable and ungrateful they become instead pof appreciative. I’m planning on quitting after the holidays because I have earned my bonus and really enjoy this time with the kids but this and other things have just become the last straw!

Start reminding her 2 days prior to be prepared to pay you in full on Friday.

[Anonymous]

She probably doesn't know how much OT you're going o have until she gets home on Friday evening, it takes a minute to calc out the net pay. I would just create some sort of schedule like OT submitted by such and such a date will be paid within 48 hours or something. The drama is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably doesn't know how much OT you're going o have until she gets home on Friday evening, it takes a minute to calc out the net pay. I would just create some sort of schedule like OT submitted by such and such a date will be paid within 48 hours or something. The drama is crazy.

+1. I’m glad my nanny isn’t as unreasonable as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The MB is not a mother. She does not take care of her kids nor does she eat dinner with them. She is merely a child-producer.

And you are the household help.

[Anonymous]

No, I am a lawyer. I am home by 3pm every day to be with my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I am a lawyer. I am home by 3pm every day to be with my kids.

Most people are not home by 3 PM. So, what is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I didn’t say I “relied” on it. It’s just the money I prefer to use and most of my OT is guaranteed but just not direct deposit.

Sounds like you are over spending and living pay check to paycheck so it is an issue. Change your autopay to monday. Problem solved.

It does not matter how she spends her money! She worked her hours and should be paid ON TIME.

[Anonymous]

I think it's time to move OT payment back a few days. I don't get paid until a week after the two week pay period ends. Reimbursements for travel can take longer. It's not unreasonable to get paid all or a portion of your salary a few days after the pay period ends. Maybe you guys can decide together that you'll submit OT hours be end of the day on Friday, get the OT payment by Wednesday of the next week, that gives MB plenty of time to calculate and send it.

[Anonymous]

One late check, okay, you forgot. Two late checks, no accident. She is short on money. It is past time to move on, OP before you lose a month or more pay.

There are no circumstances when it is all right to pay, or short change, your nanny or any other employee!

[Anonymous]

Most people in this country do not get paid each Friday for the work that they did that week. Most people get paid 1-2 week AFTER they work the hours.

So to solve your issue, how about you switch the way you are paid to the way most companies do it (they solved this same issue a long time ago). At the end of the week, you submit your hours, and then at the end of the following week, you get paid for those hours. She has a full week to deal with and set up your direct deposit to be the correct amount. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound really resentful. I think you should think about quitting immediately.

You’re getting your 40 hours base pay on time, it is just the overtime amount that is coming within 24 hours of your last shift.

Yes you’re with her kids all day, but I totally emphasize with your MB. You rush in, the kids have not seen you all day, so you are talking to them about their day, getting cuddles, looking at Misc drawings etc that they did, all while trying to send that stupid last email, mentally calculate if you need a present for the 75th kids party that you’re attending that year, and on and on and on. You have no idea of the weight of the ‘mental load’ that goes through a stressed out, working mom’s head - and your post is dripping with judgement and resentment,m.

Ugh, I would hate for you to be my nanny. As a mom, I have enough mom guilt, the last thing that I need is my nanny making judgmental comments to me making feel worse than I already do.

Let me reiterate, you get paid (and have been paid per your post) on time every Friday for your base salary. If I was your MB, I would negotiate that I would pay you for any OT, by 8am the following Monday. Your MB is wrong for not setting that expectation with you - I would not allow you to pressure me to make on the spot calculations to figure out how much I owe you as soon as I walk through the door on Friday evening - and since it’s OT pay and you make have worked some hours in that Friday, it’s bit something that’s could be easily calculated the night before.

Do both of you a favor and get another job ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Eeek, sorry for all of the typos in the last paragraph above. Hopefully you can look past the typos ... my sentiment still stands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound really resentful. I think you should think about quitting immediately.

You’re getting your 40 hours base pay on time, it is just the overtime amount that is coming within 24 hours of your last shift.

Yes you’re with her kids all day, but I totally emphasize with your MB. You rush in, the kids have not seen you all day, so you are talking to them about their day, getting cuddles, looking at Misc drawings etc that they did, all while trying to send that stupid last email, mentally calculate if you need a present for the 75th kids party that you’re attending that year, and on and on and on. You have no idea of the weight of the ‘mental load’ that goes through a stressed out, working mom’s head - and your post is dripping with judgement and resentment,m.

Ugh, I would hate for you to be my nanny. As a mom, I have enough mom guilt, the last thing that I need is my nanny making judgmental comments to me making feel worse than I already do.

Let me reiterate, you get paid (and have been paid per your post) on time every Friday for your base salary. If I was your MB, I would negotiate that I would pay you for any OT, by 8am the following Monday. Your MB is wrong for not setting that expectation with you - I would not allow you to pressure me to make on the spot calculations to figure out how much I owe you as soon as I walk through the door on Friday evening - and since it’s OT pay and you make have worked some hours in that Friday, it’s bit something that’s could be easily calculated the night before.

Do both of you a favor and get another job ASAP.

I bet you chest and nickle and dime your nanny every way you can.