The dishwasher job creep trick

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one? Get hired and go over contract while being told “leave the house as is” “ only worry about you and the kids messes and loading their things into the dishwasher” “you will come into a prepared environment daily please leave it that way”

To all of a sudden after they get comfortable they suddenly have forgotten how to run their dishwasher the previous evening so means that they also haven’t unloaded it... so in order to even put away the kids dishes you need to empty out their crap and try to figure where it goes? You do it if they nap because it’s annoying only for them to just keep conveniently keep running it before work now they act like it’s your job and just leave their dirty dishes from the previous evening and their breakfast?

I find this behavior very disrespectful. If you want this ask for it and pay for it upfront. Stop job creeping the professional childcare providers that are there to care for your CHILDREN. Don’t be surprised when that notice is handed to you.

[Anonymous]

This type of thing always leads to more job creep

[Anonymous]

When the babies are small, all of their stuff gets hand washed and I do not touch the dishwasher. At the babies age and I start using the dishwasher, I put my food containers in there as well and participate with the emptying of the dishwasher loading /unloading. It generally falls on my plate, but not always.

OP, if this seems way out of line for you, hand wash your dishes and don’t touch the dishwasher. If a lot of the kid’s items are going in there then unloading is part of the job, don’t hesitate to throw your dirty dishes on there too.

[Anonymous]

Refer to your contract and "leave the house as is." Do only what is necessary for the kids.

[Anonymous]

When this would happen to me, I hand washed the dishes and dried them and put them away before I left. Eventually I noticed they would run it the night before after a few times of me not running it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When this would happen to me, I hand washed the dishes and dried them and put them away before I left. Eventually I noticed they would run it the night before after a few times of me not running it.

Great work around for that! That’s what I do also. I certainly don’t mind once in a while but when it’s becomes nearly every morning it’s a headache.

I always run it if I fill it up during the day & will empty and dry before I leave. This usually occurs when I have all 3 kids so more cooking lessons and projects and more dishes used that I wouldn’t dream of leaving for mb and db to come home to. I just don’t appreciate opening a dishwasher prepared to put away the kids dirty things quickly, only for it to still be full of a family of 5’s wet clean dishes that now need to be dried and put away before I can finish cleaning up our messes. It’s like mb uses every mixing cup/bowl, spatula and cooking sheet she owns to make meals. Just adds more time to clean up when I’ve got 3 kids to get back to and out of the house for an activity etc.

[Anonymous]

Echo the above: handwash everything you and your charge need. I am a very flexible and amiable nanny but I do not unload the dishwasher. Plus I find hand-washing dishes while my charge is napping to be relaxing.

[Anonymous]

I had the same job creep in my last job although the couple refused to use their dishwasher. First it was a cereal bowl left in the sink and after three years it was every dish they used for dinner and rotting food in the fridge. After three years, the MB told me she didn’t like my body language when I walked into the kitchen in the morning to a pig sty.

You have to nip this stuff in the bud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the same job creep in my last job although the couple refused to use their dishwasher. First it was a cereal bowl left in the sink and after three years it was every dish they used for dinner and rotting food in the fridge. After three years, the MB told me she didn’t like my body language when I walked into the kitchen in the morning to a pig sty.

You have to nip this stuff in the bud.

Sounds about like my job when Mb travels a lot. Db makes sure to not run dishwasher until before he leaves so it will look like he did something only to leave all of his dishes from the night before and that morning in both sides of the sink. I have to stop the dishwasher to see what exactly is even being cleaned!? Turns out it’ll be a couple of plastic plates and sippy cups I loaded the previous day and all of the adult dishes and cooking utensils from before MB left that he just doesn’t want to unload dry and put away himself. Then he expects all his dirty stuff to get loaded by me after putting away all their stuff just for him to repeat the cycle every day. Hand washing and leaving the dishwasher alone it is.

[Anonymous]

You show them your contract and remind them that you ONLY DO CHILD RELATED DISHES AND LAUNDRY. if they want you to do that, then rewrite contract with pay commiserate with housekeeper salary. Stop allowing lazy people take advantage of you. Learn to be assertive!

[Anonymous]

I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

[Anonymous]

Employer here...emptying the dishwasher is in our contract. Family laundry as well. We pay well and provide benefits. Our nanny is college educated and been with us for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Employer here...emptying the dishwasher is in our contract. Family laundry as well. We pay well and provide benefits. Our nanny is college educated and been with us for years.

How many kids?
Hours?
Pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.