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[Anonymous]

I am currently in a nanny share. We are going to be away for 2 weeks. I have a friend who needs temporary care while we are away. Is it fair to ask my nanny to take the friend's kid in place of mine and the friend can pay the nanny instead of me? She is working anyway bc our 2nd baby is still around and she doesn't ever object to watching additional kids.

It would just be nice to save a little money and nanny will still be making the same amount.

[Anonymous]

What does your contract say?
Seems like you should still pay her and the additional child would be extra pay to nanny.

[Anonymous]

A new child is generally a ton of work to acclimate into a share for such a short time. The nanny should expect more than her regular pay if she agrees to consider this arrangement.

[Anonymous]

nope I would absolutely not accept this as a nanny.

as PP said, incorporating a new child into the routine - especially one that won't be with her for more than two weeks - will be an enormous hassle. on top of that, I would feel very slighted that you didn't want to pay me and I would think you shopped around for somebody that needed childcare just so you could get out of paying me.

if this happens, she should get paid her standard rate by you and a new rate that she sets with the new family

[Anonymous]

Oh hell no. You continue to pay your portion of the share just like you would if your kid was in daycare. You think they'd let you send some random kid in place of yours because you took vacation? Ha!

You may ask your nanny if she is interested and connect her with the other mother if she is, but payment for a new child is separate from your portion of the share.

[Anonymous]

Sorry nannies- I see this arrangement all the time on my neighborhood listserve, it is very common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry nannies- I see this arrangement all the time on my neighborhood listserve, it is very common.

Doesn't make it right. Doesn't mean I would tolerate it, or that OP's nanny will or should.

Seriously, think about the daycare analogy and tell me how this is different. You pay both a nanny and a daycare to be available to care for YOUR child, not any child. You pay both whether your kid is present or not, no deducting 2 weeks of daycare costs when you go out of town.

Gosh, I work for such great families. You or the people on your listserv, are taking advantage of nannies who either don't have contracts or think they'll be fired if they complain. Not the kind of person I'd want looking after my kids; I'd want someone honest and upfront who tells me what she is and isn't okay with, so I don't inadvertently cause resentment.

[Anonymous]

I hate when MB does this to me. I felt like a scarf she was loaning out to her friends. I put my foot down after being tricked and told her I would expect her to pay and them also. The surprise friend needs stopped after that. What is in your contract? Do you still have to pay her when you travel? If so, then yes, you have to pay her. But you could ask her if shed like to make extra cash while you're away by helping your friend out and let her decide.

[Anonymous]

Nannies on here seem to think their job is in some special category that doesn't require flexibility.

[Anonymous]

SOME parents here seem to think their child is a bouquet of flowers to pass around as they see fit, without regard to their own child's needs. If you're one of them, shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies on here seem to think their job is in some special category that doesn't require flexibility.

What kind of flexibility are you talking about? Should I come into work as early as my employers want? Should I stay as late as they want?
Should I do all of their cleaning just to be a team player? Should I allow them to pay me late because they need me to be flexible?
Should I allow them to loan me out like a dish? Should I allow them to shift my hours to their convenience? Should I let them bank my hours to get around guantanteed pay? Where does " flexibility" end? "Flexibility" is just a fancy way of saying " doormat."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry nannies- I see this arrangement all the time on my neighborhood listserve, it is very common.

I would do this if the nanny is already familiar with the other child doing playdates, classes etc. To PP comparing to daycare its not the same having a nanny clearly this forum shows that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry nannies- I see this arrangement all the time on my neighborhood listserve, it is very common.

I would do this if the nanny is already familiar with the other child doing playdates, classes etc. To PP comparing to daycare its not the same having a nanny clearly this forum shows that.

No way in hell you would tell me that I am going to just care for someone else's child while you're on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Wait, you're leaving one of your children home from vacation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry nannies- I see this arrangement all the time on my neighborhood listserve, it is very common.

I would do this if the nanny is already familiar with the other child doing playdates, classes etc. To PP comparing to daycare its not the same having a nanny clearly this forum shows that.

No way in hell you would tell me that I am going to just care for someone else's child while you're on vacation.

Nice! You really sound like someone who should be looking after children.