Would you offer to help?

[Anonymous]

MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

No. You were hired as a nanny. Not a nurse. DB is at home or they can hire a nurse.

[Anonymous]

I would if I otherwise liked them. I'd offer to throw some food in the crockpot, run to the store etc. If they generally took advantage of me or were unaccomodating when I was sick, I'd be less inclined to help. Not that hard to say "can I help?" Treat others the way you want to be treated.

[Anonymous]

What type of help are you thinking op?

[Anonymous]

Depends on what type of help you're thinking, but if they treat you well and you like them, yes.

I helped out loads when my MB's parent was dying (very slow and painful and MB was a wreck) and it made me feel good that I could do something for her, because she is fantastic and I wanted her to not worry at least about the kids in those weeks. They were beyond grateful (not monetarily because they're not really well off but with small gestures and referencing how helpful I have always been with them) and it has really made our relationship much closer and made both sides feel better.

But then I never offered anything beyond my condolences when my previous DB's dad died and he had to travel back home, because the parents were cheap dicks who treated me like the lowest of the help. It really goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

I don't understand. You have a nanny that is only paid with room and board? So this nanny has already fulfilled her work for board obligation to you for the week and you are asking if she should offer to help you this weekend for free?

[Anonymous]

I'm paid for any additional hours I work so - sure! If I were free the weekend before Christmas I would work to earn extra money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

I don't understand. You have a nanny that is only paid with room and board? So this nanny has already fulfilled her work for board obligation to you for the week and you are asking if she should offer to help you this weekend for free?

No. She lives rent free. Everything she does she gets paid for be it cleaning or babysitting.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you're the MB who had surgery, are you just peeved she didn't offer? Asking doesn't hurt, especially considering she will get paid.

It's not always clear people might need extra help, especially if your husband is home anyway, even if you live in the same house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

I don't understand. You have a nanny that is only paid with room and board? So this nanny has already fulfilled her work for board obligation to you for the week and you are asking if she should offer to help you this weekend for free?

No. She lives rent free. Everything she does she gets paid for be it cleaning or babysitting.

I saw your post on the General Forum, OP, and according to what you wrote there she cleans for you in exchange for room and board and just cleaned your house in anticipation of your surgery. You wrote that you paid her extra for babysitting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

I don't understand. You have a nanny that is only paid with room and board? So this nanny has already fulfilled her work for board obligation to you for the week and you are asking if she should offer to help you this weekend for free?

No. She lives rent free. Everything she does she gets paid for be it cleaning or babysitting.

I saw your post on the General Forum, OP, and according to what you wrote there she cleans for you in exchange for room and board and just cleaned your house in anticipation of your surgery. You wrote that you paid her extra for babysitting.

That is not living "rent free", OP.

You sound like an entitled b*tch whose "surgery" is not keeping her off various forums on the internet!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

I don't understand. You have a nanny that is only paid with room and board? So this nanny has already fulfilled her work for board obligation to you for the week and you are asking if she should offer to help you this weekend for free?

No. She lives rent free. Everything she does she gets paid for be it cleaning or babysitting.

I saw your post on the General Forum, OP, and according to what you wrote there she cleans for you in exchange for room and board and just cleaned your house in anticipation of your surgery. You wrote that you paid her extra for babysitting.

That is not living "rent free", OP.

You sound like an entitled b*tch whose "surgery" is not keeping her off various forums on the internet!!!

PP is wrong. OP says the distant cousin gets paid for everything.

[Anonymous]

Your husband's distant cousin hates you, OP. I'm beginning to see why.

No, I wouldn't stick around to help you either - you are vile.

[Anonymous]

This version is slightly different from what you posted on the general forum, OP. Since you had scheduled your hysterectomy months in advance and must have known that you would need several days for recovery, you should have arranged childcare either with your live-in distant relative or someone else, instead of hoping she would offer to work the weekend for free.

And seeing as it's the weekend, can't your husband keep an eye on the children while you shower? Even if he works 24/7 taking a few minutes off should be okay.

From the info you posted I gather that your distant relative nanny did all you asked her to do, namely cleaning the house for you, knew that your husband was home on the weekend and would be able to lend you a hand, and was off. I don't see anything wrong with it. I feel like if you never asked her for any help around surgery time at all, she would probably have asked if you needed anything, but since you did ask her she assumed it was all the help you needed.

[Anonymous]

I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.