Would you offer to help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB had surgery, DB is working from home. Would you offer to help if you lived in and were free?

OP why are you posting here as a nanny to ask the question you asked in the general forum? You are not telling the entire story.

I think others here need to hear the entire story. Which is now in family relationships forum

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/435128.page

[Anonymous]

Where is the original post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the original post?

Click the link in the previous post. It was moved to the family relationships forum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

When she moved in you should have charged her to cover rent/utilities/food. Then paid her for the 4 hours a month (if that is what it even is) and whatever cleaning she did for you. She does not owe you to "babysit" you or watch the kids unless you set something up ahead of time. but in your other post you mentioned if you were the one to ask she'd charge you the $22 an hour you pay for the care she provides. You were waiting for her to offer it for free. I wouldnt do it either. She has you figured out. Smart girl. Sounds like you are regretting the arrangement. What does DH say about all this? or is he smart and keep his mouth shut?

[Anonymous]

From the original post:


Anonymous wrote:
Why didn't you ask her for help? Just be direct, and polite. People aren't mind readers, especially college kids.

Because we didn't have the money to pay for her hourly rate and if we asked we'd had to pay. If she offered we'd def tip her but not pay as much as she charges - 22/h for 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

When she moved in you should have charged her to cover rent/utilities/food. Then paid her for the 4 hours a month (if that is what it even is) and whatever cleaning she did for you. She does not owe you to "babysit" you or watch the kids unless you set something up ahead of time. but in your other post you mentioned if you were the one to ask she'd charge you the $22 an hour you pay for the care she provides. You were waiting for her to offer it for free. I wouldnt do it either. She has you figured out. Smart girl. Sounds like you are regretting the arrangement. What does DH say about all this? or is he smart and keep his mouth shut?

I can't charge her for anything. She's not allowed to work in the U.S. so she cleans and watches kids to pay for her classes.
We're not in a situation we can pay her to watch the kids now. If she offered to help if definitely have paid her but less than what she usually charges outsiders. I'd be tipping her for her favor what's different from hiring her. Like PP quoted in the post above.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are digging yourself in deeper with every post trying to clarify your complaint. You will not listen to what anyone writes and just keep coming back with more and more damning statements!!!

And this is NOT a nanny issue so I have idea why you are even on this forum. Your houseguest, who occasionally babysits for you, didn't offer to do it for free this weekend. Boo-frinking-hoo. As PP pointed out, your "surgery" has not kept you off the internet for the last three hours. Save your energy for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

She has to live with you - that is what is so horrible about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are digging yourself in deeper with every post trying to clarify your complaint. You will not listen to what anyone writes and just keep coming back with more and more damning statements!!!

And this is NOT a nanny issue so I have idea why you are even on this forum. Your houseguest, who occasionally babysits for you, didn't offer to do it for free this weekend. Boo-frinking-hoo. As PP pointed out, your "surgery" has not kept you off the internet for the last three hours. Save your energy for your children.

+ 1,000,000 And I've highlighted what is the key statement but would add that you never asked for her help (free or otherwise) either.

You are trying to play the victim here and you are simply not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

She has to live with you - that is what is so horrible about it.

If it is as horrible as you say I wonder why she doesn't find a better place to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

She has to live with you - that is what is so horrible about it.

If it is as horrible as you say I wonder why she doesn't find a better place to live.

Because she is a college student from another country. Her options are very limited. How can you be so cruel and deaf, OP?

[Anonymous]

Get off the fricking nanny board! You do not have a nanny, you have a houseguest you are using for illegal childcare.


GO AWAY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

She has to live with you - that is what is so horrible about it.

If it is as horrible as you say I wonder why she doesn't find a better place to live.

Because she is a college student from another country. Her options are very limited. How can you be so cruel and deaf, OP?

Cruel? We sponsor her, give her food, a home, lots of gifts, outings, pay for all work she does for us. There's nothing cruel about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read your posts on General Forum and I wouldn't lift a finger to help you. You are a nasty, entitled b*tch.

I feel so sorry for the poor 34 year old cousin (from another country!) who comes here to get her college degree and gets stuck cleaning your house and watching your children.

She loves here rent/utilities/food free, cleans every other week, gets the same $ as my former cleaning lady used to get and watches my children once a month for 4 hours ($22/h). What's so horrible about it?

She has to live with you - that is what is so horrible about it.

If it is as horrible as you say I wonder why she doesn't find a better place to live.

Because she is a college student from another country. Her options are very limited. How can you be so cruel and deaf, OP?

GO AWAY,OP.

Cruel? We sponsor her, give her food, a home, lots of gifts, outings, pay for all work she does for us. There's nothing cruel about it.