Meeting up with friends

[Anonymous]

THis is what I love about having an AP living in my home. We have our APs friends hanging around our house quite a lot. I know these girls and quite often I know who in our town (Ashburn) they are working for. I know when my AP is hanging out with Helena that my boys are also hanging with their friends. We received an updated Matrix with all the families, kids ages, and genders on a regular basis. When our AP first arrived she went down the list and highlighted who she was going to reach out to. My kids can't wait for the summer when they get to hang with their friends and the AP gets to get some socializing in. My kids have also met new friends they would not have known otherwise.

I think I would feel differently if my kids were infants, but for the first 5 years of their lives, they had the same nanny who was in her late 30s and was happy just doing baby and toddler stuff and happy she had a job that afforded her the ability to run some of her own errands while on the clock (which I didn't have a problem with either).

[Anonymous]

OP here sounds level-headed. So refreshing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This situation did become a problem for my friend. Her nanny frequently took her son to play with her daughter (also a nanny) and her daughter's charge. The two nanny kids were the same age, but my friend discovered that her nanny was turning down other playdates with closer friends to hang out with her daughter, and even changing her son's schedule to accommodate the daughter.

It was pretty clear this was more about the two nannies sitting around together than the kids.

What did your friend do?

Did she tell her not to meet up with her daughter as much? I don't want to micromanage my nanny's comings and goings, but I would like to assume that she had the best interest of my child in mind. If she clearly didn't, as in this situation, I think I would be inclined to fire her and find someone who was a little more interested in my child's well-being. However, this seems like kind of a petty thing to fire someone over.

They had a blow up over it, but nothing changed. This was not the only issue with this nanny, but my friend hates confrontation and feels responsible for this nanny's financial welfare, and so will not do anything beyond occasionally saying she doesn't like something.