Some Parent Code?

[Anonymous]

A nanny can't be poached, just like a husband isn't tricked into leaving you for another woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is very attached and bonded to his nanny - so hers is more than just a job to us. I would see you as trying to take away my son's security and happiness. Perhaps irrational but I would hate you if you tried to steal his nanny.

You sound psychotic. I fear for your nanny should she ever leave. You seem like the type to take it personally if a nanny wants to move on and would do your best to smear a nanny's reputation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a good mother. Tell the nanny how much you love how she does her work. Tell her you are looking for someone like her. Let her know what you can offer, and ask if she can recommend someone special. And hand her your contact info with basic job details.

+1

Look, being a nanny is like any other job. Why shouldn't she at least have the opportunity to pursue a better job? Imagine if recruiters didn't send out emails to employed people because it would be "rude" to the company. The nanny can decide on her own how and for whom she wants to work.

+2


Do this. You may not land her, but she might help you find someone great. I have been approached several times by parents, but never have I left my job for one. I have left jobs for different reasons.

Just a word to the wise if you do decide to hire a nanny for your little one purpose in your mind that you and your family do not own her. She is her own person with a life outside of work that she needs to manage. ]This attitude will benefit you in many ways over the course of your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well it looks to me as if she is already gainfully employed and already has a family that she is happily working for so if you were to step in and make her a job offer knowing this, it would be wrong of you to infringe.

Kinda like being the "other woman" in a marriage.

Like you know the status quo, yet you still upset it because you want what you want.

?? Huh? No one gives vows when they hire a nanny. If the nanny is happy with her family, she's free to refuse, you know. Even if she's happy, she CAN be happiER. No harm trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well it looks to me as if she is already gainfully employed and already has a family that she is happily working for so if you were to step in and make her a job offer knowing this, it would be wrong of you to infringe.

Kinda like being the "other woman" in a marriage.

Like you know the status quo, yet you still upset it because you want what you want.

ok, repeat that next time your husband comes in and tells you that he go an amazing job offer from another employer with a great salary hike. or tell that to yourself next time somebody offers you a job with better benfits and salary. when you (or your H) keep the the lower paying job, than come back here and we can talk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is very attached and bonded to his nanny - so hers is more than just a job to us. I would see you as trying to take away my son's security and happiness. Perhaps irrational but I would hate you if you tried to steal his nanny.

and I would care less than zero.

grow up, the world does not revolve around you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well it looks to me as if she is already gainfully employed and already has a family that she is happily working for so if you were to step in and make her a job offer knowing this, it would be wrong of you to infringe.

Kinda like being the "other woman" in a marriage.

Like you know the status quo, yet you still upset it because you want what you want.

ok, repeat that next time your husband comes in and tells you that he go an amazing job offer from another employer with a great salary hike. or tell that to yourself next time somebody offers you a job with better benfits and salary. when you (or your H) keep the the lower paying job, than come back here and we can talk

+ 1000

Most would not skip an opportunity with better pay and benefits.

I'm really sick of nanny families thinking they own their nannies. They feel so betrayed that a nanny will want something greater for themselves. It's disgusting and pathetic. Nannies are free to make the beg decision for their future. That includes leaving for better paying jobs.

[Anonymous]

The best employers should have the best nannies.

[Anonymous]

Nannies are free agents, not your personal property. OP. approach her as suggested by telling her how much you admire her way with charge. Give her $5.00 an hour more than she is presently paid and she will ptobably take the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be weary, as the nanny may also take great offense to this, depending on how she feels about her current employers. My bet is that if she is as involved and loving with the child as you say she is, she won't even be interested in hearing what you have to say. Trying to poach someone else's nanny is pretty crummy.

Weary? Why? Wary, perhaps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are free agents, not your personal property. OP. approach her as suggested by telling her how much you admire her way with charge. Give her $5.00 an hour more than she is presently paid and she will ptobably take the job.

Excellent advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are free agents, not your personal property. OP. approach her as suggested by telling her how much you admire her way with charge. Give her $5.00 an hour more than she is presently paid and she will ptobably take the job.

Excellent advice.

I am truly a fantastic nanny (it is the only thing in my life I have ever been great at). I have been approached by other parents a few times with promised of 25% salary increase and shorter hours. But part of being a fantastic nanny is my devotion to me current charge. I wouldn't leave him for double the salary right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are free agents, not your personal property. OP. approach her as suggested by telling her how much you admire her way with charge. Give her $5.00 an hour more than she is presently paid and she will ptobably take the job.

Excellent advice.

I am truly a fantastic nanny (it is the only thing in my life I have ever been great at). I have been approached by other parents a few times with promised of 25% salary increase and shorter hours. But part of being a fantastic nanny is my devotion to me current charge. I wouldn't leave him for double the salary right now.

We assume your current employers compensate you accordingly, yes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Nannies are free agents, not your personal property. OP. approach her as suggested by telling her how much you admire her way with charge. Give her $5.00 an hour more than she is presently paid and she will ptobably take the job.

Excellent advice.



I am truly a fantastic nanny (it is the only thing in my life I have ever been great at). I have been approached by other parents a few times with promised of 25% salary increase and shorter hours. But part of being a fantastic nanny is my devotion to me current charge. I wouldn't leave him for double the salary right now.

We assume your current employers compensate you accordingly, yes?

Obviously, PP, she is happy with her compensation.

[Anonymous]

"Anonymous wrote:
Well it looks to me as if she is already gainfully employed and already has a family that she is happily working for so if you were to step in and make her a job offer knowing this, it would be wrong of you to infringe.

Kinda like being the "other woman" in a marriage.

Like you know the status quo, yet you still upset it because you want what you want.


ok, repeat that next time your husband comes in and tells you that he go an amazing job offer from another employer with a great salary hike. or tell that to yourself next time somebody offers you a job with better benfits and salary. when you (or your H) keep the the lower paying job, than come back here and we can talk"

But PPs are not saying it is wrong for the nanny to accept the new offer. They are saying it is not nice of the potential MB to deliberately create a childcare problem for another MB. The blame here is on the poaching MB not on the nanny.

And FWIW I agree that poaching is bad. I also think many companies would agree - if they found out someone was actively trying to recruit one of their staff they would not be thrilled about it.