Are my bosses being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

I can kind of see your Mom Boss's side here OP.

Unless it is urgent, you are only giving her a week's notice to find another caregiver which isn't that much time.

Is there any chance you can work w/her + give her more notice to find someone else? At least two weeks, preferably more?

However, if it is urgent, then I totally understand.

Also, I think since you have been so reliable as well as accommodating these past nine months, she should be as well and I believe as parents, it is HER responsibility to have a Plan B back-up childcare plan in place always. Because anything can happen at anytime.

So overall, I am more on your side than hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can kind of see your Mom Boss's side here OP.

Unless it is urgent, you are only giving her a week's notice to find another caregiver which isn't that much time.

Is there any chance you can work w/her + give her more notice to find someone else? At least two weeks, preferably more?

However, if it is urgent, then I totally understand.

Also, I think since you have been so reliable as well as accommodating these past nine months, she should be as well and I believe as parents, it is HER responsibility to have a Plan B back-up childcare plan in place always. Because anything can happen at anytime.

So overall, I am more on your side than hers.

Like I said before - The only other time to get it done is in two weeks. I would have chose that and gave her more notice but DB is traveling and she has trial court. I will be working late majority of the week. I know its important for her to have me there.

This surgery is important. I was suppose to it done sooner but then MB had to travel for two weeks so I put it on hold. I have persistent sore throats, tonsil infections, and my tonsils have started to bleed on occasion. This surgery is imperative.

My hours are 8-6, M-F. DB travels 75% of the time. I've worked late when she had court, came early for meetings, stayed late so she can work late, and have stayed late or sat on the weekends so they can have date nights. Some nights I'm there until 10/11pm. I've stayed late and have came early 9 times in the month of Nov. alone. I'm not complaining and I seriously don't mind. I just wish she were accommodating as well. She normally gives me 1-2 days notice about late days. And you are right. She is the parent and needs to have back-up in place. Finding a back-up sitter is not my responsibility, it's hers.

[Anonymous]

And with all the OT, I work up to 65 hours a week opposed to my normal 50 hours at least 1-2 weeks a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being non-emergency surgery (and I am assuming that -- maybe your tonsils really do need to be removed immediately) could you give them more time to find replacement childcare by postponing your procedure?

Help find the short term solution. Don't just dump on them to.
Tell them as soon as possible and try to coordinate schedules for your elective surgeries.
One week notice is tough to scramble back up care for. it always is.

[Anonymous]

OK, you clearly only want to hear that you're a martyr OP. You've gotten a lot of well balanced feedback but you only seem interested in trying to stack the deck so you seem wronged.

Just doesn't seem like such a tragedy to the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm a nanny and had my tonsils out about 5 years ago

I'm surprised that your doctor will allow and you think you will be able to be back at work on Monday, only 5 days post op. You will almost certainly need to still be taking your prescription narcotic pain medicine then as you can't take any ibuprofen, aleve, etc. (you can take Tylenol, but in my experience that's not great with intense pain)

I also had my surgery on a Wednesday and was still feeling like total crap the following Monday. I have a high pain tolerance and the first week was really rough. Day 8 was when I really turned the corner and started feeling better. I saw my ENT that Friday for a follow up and he was really surprised that I was doing so well as most of his adult patients usually took at least 2 weeks to get to where I was with my pain and healing.

Also you are not supposed to lift heavy things or raise your heartrate for at least a week post op.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. If you think you are going to be up and at it 5 days after getting your to silks temoved as an adult you are sadly mistaken. You will out of action for a week at least.

[Anonymous]

Say nothing more now, but after holidays talk to parents about setting up backup care in case you come down with flu or have other health emergencies, unfortunately we often don't know in advance when we get sick. If you know someone you can suggest (another nanny friend) to over your emergencies it may help, but if they need 10 hours a day M-F they really need a back up plan, just in case!