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Anonymous wrote:how inconsiderate of her mother to die! Even worse, her daughter, your unfortunate nanny, has the unmitigated gall to want to attend her funeral and be with her family, leaving you to actually attempt to be a parent to your child. Poor you, you should fire her. How dare she think her needs at the DEATH OF HER MOTHER, supersedes your selfish needs.

If the mother is already dead, spending six weeks in the country where she lived won't bring her back. Everybody wants to be with family, including the OP. But some people need to work.

All of us work, thank you.

Nanny here. And some of you should be out of jobs because of your behavior on here. If I was an MB and knew my nanny was a rude, mean girl online id fire her since I wouldn't want her influencing my kids.

Exactly. Fire the nanny because of her off-duty commentary that you don't quite appreciate. So classic.

People don't just switch personalities when you go online. Like I said, I'm a nanny and am embarrassed how these nannies portray those in our profession. Nannies are meant to be role models to our charges. Half the nannies on here are anything but that and I think that's very sad.

If you were a nanny, you'd know better and take your head out of the sand. You'd know and admit the fact that lots of parents who hire nannies, are highly disfunctional.

But that's not what we are talking about here. This OP sounds very kind and generous. And yet some nanny (you?) still attacks her just because she's an MB. It's sad.

Also, I never said parents are always perfect.
Not once. But that doesn't mean it's ok for nannies to attack an MB who seems pretty nice and functional.

I'm the one you're arguing AND I'm 19:45 DEFENDING op, so you really don't know what you're talking about. But thanks anyways.

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Anonymous wrote:how inconsiderate of her mother to die! Even worse, her daughter, your unfortunate nanny, has the unmitigated gall to want to attend her funeral and be with her family, leaving you to actually attempt to be a parent to your child. Poor you, you should fire her. How dare she think her needs at the DEATH OF HER MOTHER, supersedes your selfish needs.

This is completely uncalled for, and you know it.
Sorry, OP.

Here's my 19:45 comment, FYI.

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Anonymous wrote:how inconsiderate of her mother to die! Even worse, her daughter, your unfortunate nanny, has the unmitigated gall to want to attend her funeral and be with her family, leaving you to actually attempt to be a parent to your child. Poor you, you should fire her. How dare she think her needs at the DEATH OF HER MOTHER, supersedes your selfish needs.

This is completely uncalled for, and you know it.
Sorry, OP.

Here's my 19:45 comment, FYI.

I wrote post that 19:45 commented on. I am not a nanny ad I think OP is selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:how inconsiderate of her mother to die! Even worse, her daughter, your unfortunate nanny, has the unmitigated gall to want to attend her funeral and be with her family, leaving you to actually attempt to be a parent to your child. Poor you, you should fire her. How dare she think her needs at the DEATH OF HER MOTHER, supersedes your selfish needs.

This is completely uncalled for, and you know it.
Sorry, OP.

Here's my 19:45 comment, FYI.

I wrote post that 19:45 commented on. I am not a nanny ad I think OP is selfish.

I wholeheartedly disagree and I am a nanny. Maybe it's a cultural thing that you need six weeks of leave, when a parent dies? I don't think most of us Americans quite understand that.

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I think you are asking for trouble if you pay her more than her alotted PTO.

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OP again.

Thank you for the continued support and advice from many of you.

I have twin toddlers so while the ideas of temporarily adding to/creating a share situation, or using other forms of backup, are great - they're not as practical for my high maintenance duo.

But this evening I am interviewing two candidates from an agency that I've used happily before, so I feel fairly confident that I'll find a solution that will be good for the kids and manageable for me.

And we'll sort out how much we can afford to pay our permanent nanny while she's gone, and what kind of risk we're willing to take in terms of her not returning, taking advantage, etc... I take your cautions on that seriously. We will absolutely hold the job for her though and treat her as generously as we can manage.

For those of you who think I'm being selfish I kind of just chuckle at that. Usually I am capable of finding a way to feel guilty about most things but I think that the things we are doing to support our nanny at the moment are anything but selfish. The considerations we're extending go WAAAY beyond anything most people would receive in the workplace. So feel free to carry on w/ your criticism but it doesn't have any impact.

I got a great deal more support from this community that I would have expected actually, and I really appreciate it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again.

Thank you for the continued support and advice from many of you.

I have twin toddlers so while the ideas of temporarily adding to/creating a share situation, or using other forms of backup, are great - they're not as practical for my high maintenance duo.

But this evening I am interviewing two candidates from an agency that I've used happily before, so I feel fairly confident that I'll find a solution that will be good for the kids and manageable for me.

And we'll sort out how much we can afford to pay our permanent nanny while she's gone, and what kind of risk we're willing to take in terms of her not returning, taking advantage, etc... I take your cautions on that seriously. We will absolutely hold the job for her though and treat her as generously as we can manage.

For those of you who think I'm being selfish I kind of just chuckle at that. Usually I am capable of finding a way to feel guilty about most things but I think that the things we are doing to support our nanny at the moment are anything but selfish. The considerations we're extending go WAAAY beyond anything most people would receive in the workplace. So feel free to carry on w/ your criticism but it doesn't have any impact.

I got a great deal more support from this community that I would have expected actually, and I really appreciate it.

Sounds like a good plan, OP.