Nannies - PLEASE READ

[Anonymous]

I love how SOME nannies justify their phone and text/internet use. I'm not referring to when the child is napping/sleeping etc. (although, could you be helping with things around the house rather than talking on your phone or email?).

However the main point made here was the nanny was ignoring the children and not supervising them at a park while she chatted away on her phone. There are clearly some times that a phone call is warranted and justified. But NOT when your supposed to be supervising a crawling infant and their older sibling. This was the main point, it seems some that do this either don't care how it is perceived to others or are really ignorant. The point made here is that it's not only wrong but it's dangerous to be on the phone instead of supervising the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how SOME nannies justify their phone and text/internet use. I'm not referring to when the child is napping/sleeping etc. (although, could you be helping with things around the house rather than talking on your phone or texting .

Ok some may say they are their for the children, not to pick up after the adults.

Now I personally get online via cell at nap time, but only after I pick up. My MB has told me I am to do no household chores. I do them anyways. I would go bonkers if I didn't. My charges sleep 2 hours in the morning and 45 mins to an hour in the afternoon. I have already cleaned up the playroom, cleaned up breakfast, unloaded the dishwasher, started another load of dishes, started laundry and preped all bottles for the day. I still will have about an hour free. What am I to do? Watch the laundry spin? Stare blankly at the walls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how SOME nannies justify their phone and text/internet use. I'm not referring to when the child is napping/sleeping etc. (although, could you be helping with things around the house rather than talking on your phone or texting .

Ok some may say they are their for the children, not to pick up after the adults.

Now I personally get online via cell at nap time, but only after I pick up. My MB has told me I am to do no household chores. I do them anyways. I would go bonkers if I didn't. My charges sleep 2 hours in the morning and 45 mins to an hour in the afternoon. I have already cleaned up the playroom, cleaned up breakfast, unloaded the dishwasher, started another load of dishes, started laundry and preped all bottles for the day. I still will have about an hour free. What am I to do? Watch the laundry spin? Stare blankly at the walls?

In your case - totally justified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how SOME nannies justify their phone and text/internet use. I'm not referring to when the child is napping/sleeping etc. (although, could you be helping with things around the house rather than talking on your phone or email?).

However the main point made here was the nanny was ignoring the children and not supervising them at a park while she chatted away on her phone. There are clearly some times that a phone call is warranted and justified. But NOT when your supposed to be supervising a crawling infant and their older sibling. This was the main point, it seems some that do this either don't care how it is perceived to others or are really ignorant. The point made here is that it's not only wrong but it's dangerous to be on the phone instead of supervising the kids.

Oh come off it.

All of us who replied agreed that what OP described is completely unacceptable. The only "justification" (or explanation, as I'd label it) came after nitpicky posters tried to argue about other details - like what if it was on a walk, or what if I was talking to my MB, etc. No one here has said that OPs nanny is justified - in fact, most of us suggested she receive a firm warning for this. I still don't understand why OP didn't approach her right there at the park.

So come off your high horse and let's talk about the reality - no one is saying what OPs nanny did was okay, and you snotty people, whether you're nannies or MBs, are truly insufferable. We all do effing household chores, PP, but thanks for jumping in as a remote manager for all of us nannies who otherwise wouldn't realize we should tidy up before we hop online. THANK GOD YOU WERE HERE TO REMIND US.

[Anonymous]

All the excuses above show the extent of this issue.


Nannies - when kids are awake/in tow, do not talk on or use your phone in a social manner.. PERIOD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the excuses above show the extent of this issue.


Nannies - when kids are awake/in tow, do not talk on or use your phone in a social manner.. PERIOD.

Can you please follow them so that you can actually enforce your demands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the excuses above show the extent of this issue.


Nannies - when kids are awake/in tow, do not talk on or use your phone in a social manner.. PERIOD.

YOU.ARE.NOT.MY.BOSS

This is my problem. You can dictate your relationship with YOUR nanny all you like. Unless I'm endangering a child (which I am not a nanny attached to her cell phone constantly) butt out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how SOME nannies justify their phone and text/internet use. I'm not referring to when the child is napping/sleeping etc. (although, could you be helping with things around the house rather than talking on your phone or email?).

However the main point made here was the nanny was ignoring the children and not supervising them at a park while she chatted away on her phone. There are clearly some times that a phone call is warranted and justified. But NOT when your supposed to be supervising a crawling infant and their older sibling. This was the main point, it seems some that do this either don't care how it is perceived to others or are really ignorant. The point made here is that it's not only wrong but it's dangerous to be on the phone instead of supervising the kids.

So just to clarify, you expect that the people you trust with your children all day long are incapable of talking on the phone and emptying the dishwasher at the same time? It's a wonder we manage to get through a whole day without you staying home with us to tell us what/when/how to do everything!

[Anonymous]

Dear op, this is my worst fear. I see so many nannies ignoring their kids by either talking to one another (while kids are strapped in stroller!) or on phones. I think I have a great one, but doesn't every mom?

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny for a 10 month old and I see other nannies on their phone 95% of the time. It's usually the same nannies who frequent the same parks. It does bother me bc I feel bad that the little one is being ignored. I totally agree with you. I use my phone during nap times but for the most part it is on silent all day and I check it occasionally to make sure mb/db have not called.

[Anonymous]

I also see other nannies who are on play dates and also completely ignore their charges!

[Anonymous]

As a nanny I am only on my cell phone to answer the parents texts they sent me. Or when my charges are asleep I do a quick catch up after I have done all the chores. I would like to say I am never on the phone when we are at the park or out side with my charges as it is too dangerous. I would also like to say I have seen many mothers out there with their eyes glued to their cell phone. There have been a few times when I have rescued their child from the playground as the child got into difficulty and the mother was not paying attention, and yes I know it is the mother with the child as they call her mom. I have sadly seen mothers at café's spend the whole time on their cell phones while their child sits there drinking their drink looking bored as the mom wont answer or talk to them. So it is not just the nannies that are on their cell phones it is also the parents. Parents are worse then the nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I am only on my cell phone to answer the parents texts they sent me. Or when my charges are asleep I do a quick catch up after I have done all the chores. I would like to say I am never on the phone when we are at the park or out side with my charges as it is too dangerous. I would also like to say I have seen many mothers out there with their eyes glued to their cell phone. There have been a few times when I have rescued their child from the playground as the child got into difficulty and the mother was not paying attention, and yes I know it is the mother with the child as they call her mom. I have sadly seen mothers at café's spend the whole time on their cell phones while their child sits there drinking their drink looking bored as the mom wont answer or talk to them. So it is not just the nannies that are on their cell phones it is also the parents. Parents are worse then the nannies.

this is a joke, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I am only on my cell phone to answer the parents texts they sent me. Or when my charges are asleep I do a quick catch up after I have done all the chores. I would like to say I am never on the phone when we are at the park or out side with my charges as it is too dangerous. I would also like to say I have seen many mothers out there with their eyes glued to their cell phone. There have been a few times when I have rescued their child from the playground as the child got into difficulty and the mother was not paying attention, and yes I know it is the mother with the child as they call her mom. I have sadly seen mothers at café's spend the whole time on their cell phones while their child sits there drinking their drink looking bored as the mom wont answer or talk to them. So it is not just the nannies that are on their cell phones it is also the parents. Parents are worse then the nannies.

Unreal.. get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I am only on my cell phone to answer the parents texts they sent me. Or when my charges are asleep I do a quick catch up after I have done all the chores. I would like to say I am never on the phone when we are at the park or out side with my charges as it is too dangerous. I would also like to say I have seen many mothers out there with their eyes glued to their cell phone. There have been a few times when I have rescued their child from the playground as the child got into difficulty and the mother was not paying attention, and yes I know it is the mother with the child as they call her mom. I have sadly seen mothers at café's spend the whole time on their cell phones while their child sits there drinking their drink looking bored as the mom wont answer or talk to them. So it is not just the nannies that are on their cell phones it is also the parents. Parents are worse then the nannies.

Unreal.. get over yourself.

Why is that not a valid point? Parents are JUST as bad as nannies with the cell phone usage in public, and if its a safety issue for one, is not also a safety issue for the other?