Another nanny taken advantage of....

[Anonymous]

I only know of one nanny this happened to, and she had a pretty bad attitude and the MB had already asked her to improve her job performance, so they were happy to see her go.

The other 6 nannies I know who left their jobs in the last few years had a drama free departure. All gave the usual 2 week notice. Sure, all the MBs were disappointed (nanny searches are a pain), but they all honored the notice period and gave good references.

It just doesn't happen very often that nannies are immediately fired when giving notice and refused good references. Perhaps PPs here who have experienced this are not high performing nannies.

[Anonymous]

It happens because parents feel once notice is given that their nanny isn't loving, enjoying, and cherishing their job. They feel betrayed especially if nanny is moving on to another family. You thought she loved her job and your children and if she wants to leave that must not be the case. Then MB get bitter and decide they don't want someone to continue caring for their children if they don't want to. That is why after 20 years of nannying/preschool teaching I always have a job lined up and give two to three weeks notice. It happens to great, consistent, loving nannies after years of care, it's the truth MB's!

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny that all these nannies are trying to explain how MBs think to MBs. I get what you are saying - but let's assume an MB (every MB from the way you describe it) feels as angry and betrayed as you say. Even then, it literally makes no sense to act on it unless the nanny is otherwise demonstrating she's not trustworthy. If I reacted first and thought later every time anyone made me angry and upset, I'd have a pretty difficult life. Are there some impetuous and angry MBs? Of course. Do MBs as a group immediately feel hurt and betrayed should an employee dare to seek other employment AND all act immediately to fire the nanny without having other childcare lined up (possibly at the expense of their own jobs, which they still have to go to)? That defies logic. But if you all think your MBs are so out of touch with rationality that they will behave in this way, that probably comes through in your negative attitudes towards them, so that by the time you give notice, they may already be questioning how trustworthy you are with their kids ...

Now I do agree, as one PP pointed out, that if a nanny gives a lot of notice and the MB finds a replacement who needs to start immediately or will take another offer, that nannies will be asked to leave early. It's not nice but I believe it happens. Then again, it happens in reverse when the family gives notice as well but the nanny finds a new job that starts before the specified end date. As much as it sucks, it would be unreasonable in both instances to ask the noticee to do otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I worked for a family for 10 weeks...they were not upholding the contract and kept paying me in cash because "they hadn't been to the accountant" and in general were awful..they also were really difficult to work with...when I quit they called the agency I was hired through and tried to have me "banned"..they ended up being banned and having their fee refunded because nanny Poppinz didn't want to place another nanny there...and no one would have agreed to their ridiculous conditions..I gave notice as per the agency..the next am when I went in thy demanded their stuff back and were screaming and yelling..I thought MB was going to choke me..she lunged at me. I left wih this but screaming she would call the police..nanny Poppinz paid me which is the benefit of using an agency. Come tax time infield those taxes myself.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny that all these nannies are trying to explain how MBs think to MBs. I get what you are saying - but let's assume an MB (every MB from the way you describe it) feels as angry and betrayed as you say. Even then, it literally makes no sense to act on it unless the nanny is otherwise demonstrating she's not trustworthy. If I reacted first and thought later every time anyone made me angry and upset, I'd have a pretty difficult life. Are there some impetuous and angry MBs? Of course. Do MBs as a group immediately feel hurt and betrayed should an employee dare to seek other employment AND all act immediately to fire the nanny without having other childcare lined up (possibly at the expense of their own jobs, which they still have to go to)? That defies logic. But if you all think your MBs are so out of touch with rationality that they will behave in this way, that probably comes through in your negative attitudes towards them, so that by the time you give notice, they may already be questioning how trustworthy you are with their kids ...

Now I do agree, as one PP pointed out, that if a nanny gives a lot of notice and the MB finds a replacement who needs to start immediately or will take another offer, that nannies will be asked to leave early. It's not nice but I believe it happens. Then again, it happens in reverse when the family gives notice as well but the nanny finds a new job that starts before the specified end date. As much as it sucks, it would be unreasonable in both instances to ask the noticee to do otherwise.

Exactly.

Not one MB on this thread is saying this never happens. The issue is that it doesn't happen nearly as often as nannies here seem to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's funny that all these nannies are trying to explain how MBs think to MBs. I get what you are saying - but let's assume an MB (every MB from the way you describe it) feels as angry and betrayed as you say. Even then, it literally makes no sense to act on it unless the nanny is otherwise demonstrating she's not trustworthy. If I reacted first and thought later every time anyone made me angry and upset, I'd have a pretty difficult life. Are there some impetuous and angry MBs? Of course. Do MBs as a group immediately feel hurt and betrayed should an employee dare to seek other employment AND all act immediately to fire the nanny without having other childcare lined up (possibly at the expense of their own jobs, which they still have to go to)? That defies logic. But if you all think your MBs are so out of touch with rationality that they will behave in this way, that probably comes through in your negative attitudes towards them, so that by the time you give notice, they may already be questioning how trustworthy you are with their kids ...

Now I do agree, as one PP pointed out, that if a nanny gives a lot of notice and the MB finds a replacement who needs to start immediately or will take another offer, that nannies will be asked to leave early. It's not nice but I believe it happens. Then again, it happens in reverse when the family gives notice as well but the nanny finds a new job that starts before the specified end date. As much as it sucks, it would be unreasonable in both instances to ask the noticee to do otherwise.

Right...because the reverse doesn't happen constantly on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think it's funny that all these nannies are trying to explain how MBs think to MBs. I get what you are saying - but let's assume an MB (every MB from the way you describe it) feels as angry and betrayed as you say. Even then, it literally makes no sense to act on it unless the nanny is otherwise demonstrating she's not trustworthy. If I reacted first and thought later every time anyone made me angry and upset, I'd have a pretty difficult life. Are there some impetuous and angry MBs? Of course. Do MBs as a group immediately feel hurt and betrayed should an employee dare to seek other employment AND all act immediately to fire the nanny without having other childcare lined up (possibly at the expense of their own jobs, which they still have to go to)? That defies logic. But if you all think your MBs are so out of touch with rationality that they will behave in this way, that probably comes through in your negative attitudes towards them, so that by the time you give notice, they may already be questioning how trustworthy you are with their kids ...

Now I do agree, as one PP pointed out, that if a nanny gives a lot of notice and the MB finds a replacement who needs to start immediately or will take another offer, that nannies will be asked to leave early. It's not nice but I believe it happens. Then again, it happens in reverse when the family gives notice as well but the nanny finds a new job that starts before the specified end date. As much as it sucks, it would be unreasonable in both instances to ask the noticee to do otherwise.

Exactly.

Not one MB on this thread is saying this never happens. The issue is that it doesn't happen nearly as often as nannies here seem to think.

It happens quite often. And you guys don't want to believe it just like you don't want to believe any nanny can make $20+/hour, or that there are plenty of educated nannies who work as nannies because its what they love to do, or whatever other spoiled elitist ideals that are touted on here constantly that go against reality. You guys think you're so above us intellectually and otherwise that you can't wrap your minds around the fact that some of you are shitty people and your actions may not make sense and that a nanny or two or hundreds may have deserved better.

[Anonymous]

Actually I don't think anyone disputed that this can happen. I think the point is that even if every MB on the planet is a terrible horrible person this goes against all logic because in the end it's not in the MB's self interest to act this way and therefore it is unlikely to happen often.

Is that elitist or is that just logic?

[Anonymous]

It happens quite often. And you guys don't want to believe it just like you don't want to believe any nanny can make $20+/hour, or that there are plenty of educated nannies who work as nannies because its what they love to do, or whatever other spoiled elitist ideals that are touted on here constantly that go against reality. You guys think you're so above us intellectually and otherwise that you can't wrap your minds around the fact that some of you are shitty people and your actions may not make sense and that a nanny or two or hundreds may have deserved better.

Now you are just being ridiculous. No, it doesn't happen often. And no, no one said there aren't nannies making $20/he (although there are people, like myself, who believe that those nannies are overpaid if they have a single charge), and no one ever said that nannies, educated or not, don't love what they do and no one ever, ever said that MBs are above you intellectually.

Clearly, you have issues and when you have to call people shitty you show exactly what those issues are.

[Anonymous]

Out of all the jobs that I've had to resign from (usually because of relocation), almost none of the situations stayed pleasant after I gave notice. I don't think it's a nanny thing at all. People seem to be pleasant if they want something from you, and when they realize that you will soon be gone, they don't try anymore.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny who has submitted my resignation. The family I work has now decided to make my remaining time here hell. They verbally abuse me daily, attacking me personally about my character, my family, and even old medical issues Ive had. They make we work ovetime without notice. My contract stipulates that I give them 8 weeks to find a new nanny before leaving, but I dont know if I can take anymore of this. I feel like they own me and I dont know what to do. Can they sue me if I leave early?

[Anonymous]

Leave. Anyone can sue anyone they want. They have no case and will not win is one. You are "at will" and can leave anytime you want.

[Anonymous]

Typical scene. I am so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Do they owe you money?

[Anonymous]

They have paid me through February. I intend to finish out that time period. Im worried if I move out they will call the police and accuse me of something such as stealing or something else, which I have NEVER done. Currently I am planning on finishing February and then leaving. Has anyone had a similar experience? Thank you for your support. I wish I had found this site sooner!