Another nanny taken advantage of....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
At one point I worked with a family for four years. I decided I should be better compensated based on my abilities. I lined up two PT jobs that were going to DOUBLE my total earnings, for the same number of hours. I knew that would be a stretch for them to get their heads around. It didn't matter that they could magically afford just everything else money could buy.

Well, when I gave my notice, the M had a royal meltdown. I was expected to stay put until our little princess went off to college. Sure, we're friends now, and the M still asks me, "how much did you earn after you left us?" She then says, "we could have never afforded that". Ok, except apparently they were socking it all away so they could afford one of the biggest houses you ever saw. Ok, no horse farm, but you get the picture.

Everyone has their priorities. Most people don't get everything they want, but usually do get, whatever it is, they want most. For some of you, it's the house. For others, it's the best possible education for their child, that starts at birth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies should make their own "judgement calls" based on how most MBs behave. Two way street.

Actually, they should make their own judgement call based on how their MB behaves. As I'm sure most good nannies don't want to be lumped together will ALL nannies, neither do MBs.

Does your nanny have access to the history of your behavior with your former employees, employers and co-workers?
Most don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies should make their own "judgement calls" based on how most MBs behave. Two way street.

Actually, they should make their own judgement call based on how their MB behaves. As I'm sure most good nannies don't want to be lumped together will ALL nannies, neither do MBs.

Does your nanny have access to the history of your behavior with your former employees, employers and co-workers?
Most don't.

This needs to change, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies should make their own "judgement calls" based on how most MBs behave. Two way street.

Actually, they should make their own judgement call based on how their MB behaves. As I'm sure most good nannies don't want to be lumped together will ALL nannies, neither do MBs.

Does your nanny have access to the history of your behavior with your former employees, employers and co-workers?
Most don't.

This needs to change, right?

*crickets chirping*

[Anonymous]

We must keep employer history a well-guarded secret.
Shhh! Let's not allow the cat out of the bag.

[Anonymous]

No, we must stop feeding stupid trolls on threads like this.

Shh! Let's not allow the cat out of the bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

If they refuse, they need to suffer the consequences:

Little or no notice


I'd get their agreement notarized with BOTH parents, so they can be legally held accountable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, we must stop feeding stupid trolls on threads like this.

Shh! Let's not allow the cat out of the bag.

Yes!!

And on a two year old thread no less - troll is desperately in need of entertainment and new material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, we must stop feeding stupid trolls on threads like this.

Shh! Let's not allow the cat out of the bag.

Yes!!

And on a two year old thread no less - troll is desperately in need of entertainment and new material.

Who needs new material when the same old problems persist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many parents suddenly turn into monsters when you tell them you're leaving. They think they own you - like an indentured servant.

It's true! Perfectly nice, warm people you've been working for for YEARS can change on a dime as soon as you say you're leaving. It's a weird experience and you can understand why a nanny would feel burned, having believed that she'd built a trusting relationship with them and was doing everything she could in good faith for them only to be dismissed so callously.

Why are nannies so prone to be taken advantage of like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The nanny gave the family the agreed upon notice.

And the MB fired the nanny in a huff.

The nanny had been with them for five years.

Hmmm. What are we to learn from this all to common occurance??

Advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

If they refuse, they need to suffer the consequences:

Little or no notice


I'd get their agreement notarized with BOTH parents, so they can be legally held accountable.

Is this a good idea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

If they refuse, they need to suffer the consequences:

Little or no notice


I'd get their agreement notarized with BOTH parents, so they can be legally held accountable.

Good advice?

[Anonymous]

Nannies do, and should, get references from past nannies that have worked for the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't parents put in writing that if the nanny gives them extensive notice of leaving, that they will not replace her prematurely?

If they refuse, they need to suffer the consequences:

Little or no notice


I'd get their agreement notarized with BOTH parents, so they can be legally held accountable.

Notarization doesn't mean what you think it means. It doesn't make anything legally enforceable. It just verifies the identity of the signatory.