Please don't do this to your nanny

[Anonymous]

Paying monthly that's plenty of time for them to figure out your payday. To me it seems that they neglect it because you are soft about stretching the importance of being paid on time. I would email them a long message " Mary and John, this is awkward but I kind of need to let you know. It is crucial that I receive my check on time because of bills needing to be paid, please let me know what day works best for you so I don't need to remind you to pay me. Thanks,Nanny.

[Anonymous]

I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

[Anonymous]

Ugh this is so frustrating. I have to ask my MB for my check every week, sometimes I need to remind her more than once to pay me.

My contract says I get paid on Fridays but it's almost always the following week. Sometimes not until Wednesday.

I email my MB my hours, mileage, and any reimbursements needed for purchases every week. You think that would be enough for her to remember to write me a check. But then sometimes I have to ask multiple times, and even find her checkbook for her. It's maddening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

She resents you a little bit every time, even if she is too professional to show it. It is embarrassing to have to ask to be paid when I'm walking out the door from work while speaking to my boss - how can you forget?! I'm right in front of you.

If you like this nanny please take my advice seriously: set your alarm for the morning of payday, write her check before she arrives, and have it in an envelope for her or just give it to her then. It will mean a lot to her.

[Anonymous]

Employers: have the check ready to go and attach it to the fridge, white board etc, wherever your nanny will see it.

Nannies: grow a pair and ask for what you need. It's the only way you'll get it. The only person looking out for you is you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I did ask about direct deposit and my employers said the bank they used didn't offer it.

Then they must be using the First National Pink Piggy Bank of America! Every bank offers automatic payments.

If I had to ask for my paycheck. I would find a new job.

Not true. Most banks require you to have a business account to do direct deposit to another bank. It's pricey.

OP, why don't you ask them about sending them an invoice each week?

Bull. I have automatic payments made to three creditors every month and it is my personal account.

[Anonymous]

I am a full time nanny and I get paid in advance. Meaning I get my Dec salary on Nov 30 and will get my January salary on Dec 30.

I guess I'm lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

She resents you a little bit every time, even if she is too professional to show it. It is embarrassing to have to ask to be paid when I'm walking out the door from work while speaking to my boss - how can you forget?! I'm right in front of you.

If you like this nanny please take my advice seriously: set your alarm for the morning of payday, write her check before she arrives, and have it in an envelope for her or just give it to her then. It will mean a lot to her.

I agree with this 100%. Your nanny does resent you every time You forget to pay her or force her to ask for her paycheck. You are telling her that she is not important to you and her life away from your child means very little to you. Do not let yourself forget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

You do this on purpose and, believe me. Your nanny resents this treatment.

[Anonymous]

It is unacceptable to not be paid on time. Nobody can argue with that. This is your job, not something you do for fun.
You say you have a great relationship with the parents so either talk to them in person or send an email like one shown in above post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

She resents you a little bit every time, even if she is too professional to show it. It is embarrassing to have to ask to be paid when I'm walking out the door from work while speaking to my boss - how can you forget?! I'm right in front of you.

If you like this nanny please take my advice seriously: set your alarm for the morning of payday, write her check before she arrives, and have it in an envelope for her or just give it to her then. It will mean a lot to her.

I agree with this 100%. Your nanny does resent you every time You forget to pay her or force her to ask for her paycheck. You are telling her that she is not important to you and her life away from your child means very little to you. Do not let yourself forget.

Also strongly agree with this. I have absolutely wonderful employers in almost every way except they have a tendency to show up late and they forget to pay me. It's embarrassing having to ask for my check because I earned it yet I feel like I'm asking you to give me something or like you're doing me a favor. I DO resent them a little each time and it reminds me that I am only a solution to their childcare needs, not someone they actually care about or respect. I don't forget to show up to work, don't forget to pay me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I did ask about direct deposit and my employers said the bank they used didn't offer it.

Then they must be using the First National Pink Piggy Bank of America! Every bank offers automatic payments.

If I had to ask for my paycheck. I would find a new job.

Not true. Most banks require you to have a business account to do direct deposit to another bank. It's pricey.

OP, why don't you ask them about sending them an invoice each week?

Bull. I have automatic payments made to three creditors every month and it is my personal account.

Direct deposit and automated payments aren't the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. As long as they're responsive when you remind them, I'd live with it if you're otherwise happy. I'm a scatter brain but I try hard and hope my nanny doesn't hold it against me. I have an alarm set on my phone to remind me to pay her. Today it went off, I calculated the amount (varies slightly each week), walked downstairs, and immediately forgot. Chatted with her for 10 minutes about the kids and it was only as she was walking out the door that I remembered. I apologized and paid her. Another time she had to remind me. I felt terrible but it happens! I hope we have a relationship that allows some slack.

Wow. You are a real jerk. Im sure you dont forget to check the "recent topics" thread on DCUM. Do you really have such little respec

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I did ask about direct deposit and my employers said the bank they used didn't offer it.

Then they must be using the First National Pink Piggy Bank of America! Every bank offers automatic payments.

If I had to ask for my paycheck. I would find a new job.

Not true. Most banks require you to have a business account to do direct deposit to another bank. It's pricey.

OP, why don't you ask them about sending them an invoice each week?

Bull. I have automatic payments made to three creditors every month and it is my personal account.

Direct deposit and automated payments aren't the same thing.

In this case, they accomplish the same goal. You can transfer money through bank of America with only your nanny's phone number. Pay her on time!!

[Anonymous]

I quit a job once partly because of this. The mom never forgot to write the cleaning people a check but never remembered me until I would remind her and then she would sometimes seem annoyed that I needed to get paid. She cried when I told her I was quitting and then let me go two weeks into the notice period to hire her old sitter that she complained about to me for a year. Still best move I ever made!