Someone trying to hire your nanny- is this common?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if ten mothers in a day tried to offer me a job, I would find it awkward at best to relay this info to my employer.

It would be like a humble brag, letting my employer know that I am worth my weight in pure gold & that she should feel lucky to have me working for HER.
But there also lies the possibility that she will be asking for more compensation very soon.

At least you now have a heads up.

I agree. I think it's suspicious that your nanny keeps saying these things OP. It can happen that another parent approaches a nanny regarding employment, but I don't believe it is typical, and certainly not at the frequency your nanny is claiming. (Unless it's one persistent oddball mother.)

I think your nanny has an agenda in telling you this. I'd ask her what she said in response, what she thinks of that kind of approach, etc.. But eventually I'd just start trying to shut it down or not respond. "Oh really? Well that must be nice to hear." "Oh? Hmm. Ok, let's figure out what we're doing about school next week." Etc...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want another nanny, OP?

No, I'm happy with her.

If others would pay for more, is it possible she's currently underpaid?

OP? What are you paying her?

[Anonymous]

I got approached a few times - and once twice in one day - but I think I only ever told MB once because it was a weird couple asking me so it was more of a humorous situation. I feel like I'd be bragging if I mentioned it, especially so often, to the parents. I sure mentioned it to my parents who think I'm wasting my time away and squandering my potential by being a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In NYC it's very common. Almost every mother must have the best there is.

Sounds like they are trying to save the time and expense of doing their own search by poaching someone else's nanny. A bit creepy to approach someone you don't know with a job offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In NYC it's very common. Almost every mother must have the best there is.

Sounds like they are trying to save the time and expense of doing their own search by poaching someone else's nanny. A bit creepy to approach someone you don't know with a job offer.

Happens all the time if you're that good. I know someone in a different field who has dozens of business cards from people who have offered her a job. She's a whiz at what she does, and of course smart people notice.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine for her to tell you. Sure it's a brag. But frankly it's a smart thing to do. And all employees want raises, nannies are no exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine for her to tell you. Sure it's a brag. But frankly it's a smart thing to do. And all employees want raises, nannies are no exception.

Agree. She might be seriously underpaid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In NYC it's very common. Almost every mother must have the best there is.

Sounds like they are trying to save the time and expense of doing their own search by poaching someone else's nanny. A bit creepy to approach someone you don't know with a job offer.

Happens all the time if you're that good. I know someone in a different field who has dozens of business cards from people who have offered her a job. She's a whiz at what she does, and of course smart people notice.

So if a stranger drove up to you and said they wanted to hire you, you wouldn't think that was creepy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In NYC it's very common. Almost every mother must have the best there is.

Sounds like they are trying to save the time and expense of doing their own search by poaching someone else's nanny. A bit creepy to approach someone you don't know with a job offer.

Happens all the time if you're that good. I know someone in a different field who has dozens of business cards from people who have offered her a job. She's a whiz at what she does, and of course smart people notice.

So if a stranger drove up to you and said they wanted to hire you, you wouldn't think that was creepy?

That's not how it works, silly. You're both hanging out at the park or library having nice conversations about the children, and then it comes up. Or anyone can give you their card and ask you to contact them if you know someone who is available. They're of course hoping *you* will be available in a month or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine for her to tell you. Sure it's a brag. But frankly it's a smart thing to do. And all employees want raises, nannies are no exception.

Agree. She might be seriously underpaid.

Then she should ask directly for a raise.

[Anonymous]

We had a nanny that was angling for a raise. She told us about a woman (stranger) who drove up to her while she was pushing our twins in a double stroller around the neighborhood. She complimented our nanny on her care of the twins and invited her to come in for a chat at her house. My nanny took her up on the invite, taking my twins into the house for an impromptu interview. Well, that went over like a lead balloon with us and we let her go the next day. We heard later from an employer calling for a reference that she had been unemployed for six months, so I guess the woman she encountered lost interest once she lost her job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a nanny that was angling for a raise. She told us about a woman (stranger) who drove up to her while she was pushing our twins in a double stroller around the neighborhood. She complimented our nanny on her care of the twins and invited her to come in for a chat at her house. My nanny took her up on the invite, taking my twins into the house for an impromptu interview. Well, that went over like a lead balloon with us and we let her go the next day. We heard later from an employer calling for a reference that she had been unemployed for six months, so I guess the woman she encountered lost interest once she lost her job.

Nice story, troll.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she just doesn't want it getting back to you from someone other than her. Or she just thinks it's funny. If she says she's happy take her word for it, unless you really feel there is more to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had a nanny that was angling for a raise. She told us about a woman (stranger) who drove up to her while she was pushing our twins in a double stroller around the neighborhood. She complimented our nanny on her care of the twins and invited her to come in for a chat at her house. My nanny took her up on the invite, taking my twins into the house for an impromptu interview. Well, that went over like a lead balloon with us and we let her go the next day. We heard later from an employer calling for a reference that she had been unemployed for six months, so I guess the woman she encountered lost interest once she lost her job.

Nice story, troll.

It's a true story, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In NYC it's very common. Almost every mother must have the best there is.

This used to happen to me all the time in NYC. But I was a SAHM not a nanny