Nanny with a kid

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Anonymous wrote:Oh lord. Nanny with a kid is the same like lawyer/doctor you name it with a kid. Grow up people

Yea I hate when my OBGYN brings her kid to work and has them watch me get examined. @@

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the responses.

One other question is whether any MBs on this board have had nannies with kids (around this age) who have come to work sometimes and have any advice either way. This nanny comes with glowing references, including when she brought her kid sometimes. I think she's great, but as another PP said, I'd like to negotiate things that are important in advance, or if it's going to be a disaster, walk away now.

I agree that the issue is not the the nanny has kids it's that the nanny may bring the kids with her sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny with a 3 year old. My awesome family with 2 year old and 5 months old let me bring him when his school is closed, spring break, 2 times a week afte school, some part of summer. Have been with them for over 2 years and never had any problem. When he is sick my husband stays home. If he cant i stay home. I am as flexible as Iw ould be withouth having own child

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Oh and i still make $21 pp above

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering what kind of activities your pre-schoolers are doing, that her daughter is interested in coming along? That sounds weird to me.
It would actually sound more "legitimate" and honest, if the nanny just said that sometimes when her daughter doesn't have school, she may need to bring her along.
If you are ok with that, fine.
An elementary age girl is probably not going to take much of your nanny's attention away from your children. If anything, the girl will probably almost act like a "helper"-reading to one child while the nanny helps the other, etc. Your boys will probably adore her.
BUT if you are not comfortable with that, it's totally your prerogative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wondering what kind of activities your pre-schoolers are doing, that her daughter is interested in coming along? That sounds weird to me.
It would actually sound more "legitimate" and honest, if the nanny just said that sometimes when her daughter doesn't have school, she may need to bring her along.
If you are ok with that, fine.
An elementary age girl is probably not going to take much of your nanny's attention away from your children. If anything, the girl will probably almost act like a "helper"-reading to one child while the nanny helps the other, etc. Your boys will probably adore her.
BUT if you are not comfortable with that, it's totally your prerogative.

I assumed that the activities would be things like the children's museum, zoo, library, all things that appeal to both elementary-aged and preschool-age children.

[Anonymous]

Not her own child, but our nanny had a 13 year old cousin visiting her for a few months and asked if she could bring him occasionally. I had no problem with it and actually my kids were thrilled to have him around. I will say he was the most polite kid I think I've ever met, but even if it had been longer term I wouldn't have minded him being around all the time. When he joined in activities, she paid for them and when there was nothing for him to do, he usually sat and played on his ipad.

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I'm a nanny with a three year old. I'm also a single mom. I'm on my second nanny position since he's been born. He's now in full day preschool, was in daycare prior. I've been at my current job for 14 months; I've called out once because my child was too sick to go to school. He's asthmatic and gets sick a lot but unless he has a fever or breathing issues, he goes to school. When he has doctor appointments, my employees know ahead of time and I find another nanny to fill in so I take the day off unpaid. I've brought him to work with me on a few occasions. I work in a share so I've only ever brought him on days when I have only one child. He loves the babies and they adore him. Once in a while he misses mommy and I'll bring him with me. I'm saying all this to point out that a nanny with a child, particularly an elementary aged child can be a great nanny without constantly missing work or bringing her child along all the time. Most complaints I hear about incompetent nannies are those families with young nannies who don't have children. I'll admit I was turned down for plenty of jobs because I had a young child but I knew I'd find a family who wanted me BECAUSE I had a young child and I did find one and was with them for 18 months until they moved out of state. They've treated my child very well. He gets birthday and Christmas presents from them and they don't mind me bringing him occasionally because I don't bring him every week or even every month. OP, if you're clear from the start, this can work well. Also, it seems your nanny has plenty of back up care. I don't have much. In the summertime, my mother travels here to watch him but other than that, I'm pretty much on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the responses.

One other question is whether any MBs on this board have had nannies with kids (around this age) who have come to work sometimes and have any advice either way. This nanny comes with glowing references, including when she brought her kid sometimes. I think she's great, but as another PP said, I'd like to negotiate things that are important in advance, or if it's going to be a disaster, walk away now.

I agree that the issue is not the the nanny has kids it's that the nanny may bring the kids with her sometimes.

No matter how great your nanny is, it's a risk to allow her to bring her child to work at any time. If the child is injured while in your home, you will be liable.

There is absolutely no advantages to allowing your nanny to bring her child to work. None.

Of course, it's advantageous for your nanny. Free child care and no responsibility for the child's safety.

If you chose to allow your nanny to bring her child to work, up your insurance and treat it like a nanny share.

[Anonymous]

OP, your emoyer has the same problem with you but still hired you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your emoyer has the same problem with you but still hired you.

If OPs employer had the same problem then OP wouldn't be looking for a nanny, she would be bringing her kid. Follow along please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No matter how great your nanny is, it's a risk to allow her to bring her child to work at any time. If the child is injured while in your home, you will be liable.

There is absolutely no advantages to allowing your nanny to bring her child to work. None.

Of course, it's advantageous for your nanny. Free child care and no responsibility for the child's safety.

If you chose to allow your nanny to bring her child to work, up your insurance and treat it like a nanny share.

First, you won't be liable for nannies child hurting themselves in your home. This isn't tv, it's real life.

Also, there ARE advantages to the situation, namely super cheap childcare since you can cut nannies rate in half and everyone is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No matter how great your nanny is, it's a risk to allow her to bring her child to work at any time. If the child is injured while in your home, you will be liable.

There is absolutely no advantages to allowing your nanny to bring her child to work. None.

Of course, it's advantageous for your nanny. Free child care and no responsibility for the child's safety.

If you chose to allow your nanny to bring her child to work, up your insurance and treat it like a nanny share.

First, you won't be liable for nannies child hurting themselves in your home. This isn't tv, it's real life.

Also, there ARE advantages to the situation, namely super cheap childcare since you can cut nannies rate in half and everyone is happy.

Try running that by your insurance company. They'll tell you what your liability is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No matter how great your nanny is, it's a risk to allow her to bring her child to work at any time. If the child is injured while in your home, you will be liable.

There is absolutely no advantages to allowing your nanny to bring her child to work. None.

Of course, it's advantageous for your nanny. Free child care and no responsibility for the child's safety.

If you chose to allow your nanny to bring her child to work, up your insurance and treat it like a nanny share.

First, you won't be liable for nannies child hurting themselves in your home. This isn't tv, it's real life.

Also, there ARE advantages to the situation, namely super cheap childcare since you can cut nannies rate in half and everyone is happy.

Try running that by your insurance company. They'll tell you what your liability is.

+1. The nanny can file a claim against your homeowner's insurance.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask her previous employer how this setup worked for them.