I hired a nanny with a child. I have very mixed feeling about it. But my situation is slightly different in that my nanny has zero childcare or support for her dd and she's here a lot and all summer, holidays - more than just occasionally. |
If you have "mixed feelings" about it, why continue? Is it your best option for now? |
Yes, it is the best option for now. My nanny does not see the arrangement as a nanny share. Her dd has school pick up across town so my younger DS spends an extra hour a day in the car seat. Then they sit in a parking lot for 20 min waiting for my other DS to get out of school. There are other annoyances. Like, I can't leave for work on time without her kid being dropped at before care so I'm just late every day. But the nanny is loved by my kids and reliable so I am trying to see the bigger picture. I do not feel she favors her Dd over mine so that has never been a downside for us. She's professional in that sense. |
I think you should set some parameters, ie - nanny has childcare arranged for her core hours and bringing her child is a perk equivalent to back-up care. Snow days, teachers development days, spring break - all fine. But not all summer. Ask her to explain her summer care plans to you. If they're vague and generic, then that probably means she has no plans.
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Newsflash. Your nanny absolutely favors her DD over yours. Evidence is bolded. |
I offered to let my nanny bring her kids occasionally. She did it once, and they (her kids) were so much trouble for her that she never did it again. |
It is demeaning to the.nanny's child that you keep referring to him as "the kid." He is the nanny's son and deserves to be referred to with respect. |