how many nannies is too many for a child?

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

PP again, and I'm a Nanny, not a parent. To me the word trauma implies some sort of long lasting effect. So to be traumatized because your nanny is leaving means that it will have some sort of effect on you down the road. As a nanny, that has not been my experience at all. While children may be sad in the short term because of a leaving nanny, they usually quickly get over it as long as they are sufficiently attached to their parents- which 99% of the time they are. But finding and keeping a nanny can be a LOT of work for parents, and I can understand how the sudden leaving of a nanny and the thought of having to go through that all again (and potentially several more times until both kids are in school full time) can make a parent want to call it quits.

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Your kids are not traumatized, OP. They may be sad, but that is temporary.

Sounds to me like you just want to justify your decision to stay home. No need to do that. Stay home if you want to, but know that your children don't need you to. Children have had caregivers other than their parents for generations and have done just fine in life.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

PP again, and I'm a Nanny, not a parent. To me the word trauma implies some sort of long lasting effect. So to be traumatized because your nanny is leaving means that it will have some sort of effect on you down the road. As a nanny, that has not been my experience at all. While children may be sad in the short term because of a leaving nanny, they usually quickly get over it as long as they are sufficiently attached to their parents- which 99% of the time they are. But finding and keeping a nanny can be a LOT of work for parents, and I can understand how the sudden leaving of a nanny and the thought of having to go through that all again (and potentially several more times until both kids are in school full time) can make a parent want to call it quits.

+1. I'm the MB poster at 22:25, not the nanny PP above and at 3:48 and this was kind of my point. Whatever your reason for deciding to stay home I think it's great. If that's what you want to do by all means, stay at home. I just think saying it's because of "trauma" to your children is kind of ridiculous. I fully agree that every child is different and yours may be more upset than mine at the loss of a nanny but I think using the word trauma is kind of an exaggeration. As the PP said, it implies some sort of long term effect and while they might be sad for a short time I can't imagine any long term effects. And to the 3:54 poster, I think it is you who needs to read up on attachment. There is absolutely nothing that shows there is ANY long term affect from having multiple nannies, especially when the nanny only works 30hrs/week and is NOT the primary caregiver. Stop trying to make people afraid to ever let a nanny go.

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OP here. Trauma was probably too strong of a word. I guess I don't want them to feel that their affections are worthless or worth little to those whom they love. Will they get over this last nanny? Of course. Will I still have some sort of help? Of course. But I think I will set the course differently and work with more of a mother's helper. It is not fair to expect children to accept major life changes for the whims of irresponsible adults. I am just disappointed that I trusted this woman with my children's hearts and that she behaved like a callous retail employee. But I am sure life has many more lessons in store for her.

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Good lord. Soooo much drama. Your kids will be fine, except that you're very dramatic. You had a nanny leave after two years and you're "disappointed that you trusted her with your children's hearts and she behaved like a callous retail employee"?!?!

Jeez.

Your kids will have issues, but not because a nanny left.

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Anonymous wrote:Good lord. Soooo much drama. Your kids will be fine, except that you're very dramatic. You had a nanny leave after two years and you're "disappointed that you trusted her with your children's hearts and she behaved like a callous retail employee"?!?!

Jeez.

Your kids will have issues, but not because a nanny left.

Yes that does sound pretty melodramatic, it is really funny to read. But at the same time, I expected more from her. Clearly we have different expectations, and that is okay.

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Anonymous wrote:Good lord. Soooo much drama. Your kids will be fine, except that you're very dramatic. You had a nanny leave after two years and you're "disappointed that you trusted her with your children's hearts and she behaved like a callous retail employee"?!?!

Jeez.

Your kids will have issues, but not because a nanny left.

Yes that does sound pretty melodramatic, it is really funny to read. But at the same time, I expected more from her. Clearly we have different expectations, and that is okay.

It's totally fine and acceptable to be annoyed and disappointed that she is leaving when you didn't expect it. It's also fine to complain about it on DCUM (just know that because it's DCUM you will get all sorts of nasty comments in addition to those who sympathize). It's just the melodrama about your children's hearts that are making people question you. But glad you can see the humor in your melodrama. Eventually the disappointment and irritation will wear off but in the mean time it's ok to complain.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

PP again, and I'm a Nanny, not a parent. To me the word trauma implies some sort of long lasting effect. So to be traumatized because your nanny is leaving means that it will have some sort of effect on you down the road. As a nanny, that has not been my experience at all. While children may be sad in the short term because of a leaving nanny, they usually quickly get over it as long as they are sufficiently attached to their parents- which 99% of the time they are. But finding and keeping a nanny can be a LOT of work for parents, and I can understand how the sudden leaving of a nanny and the thought of having to go through that all again (and potentially several more times until both kids are in school full time) can make a parent want to call it quits.

Why don't you study attatchment?

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

PP again, and I'm a Nanny, not a parent. To me the word trauma implies some sort of long lasting effect. So to be traumatized because your nanny is leaving means that it will have some sort of effect on you down the road. As a nanny, that has not been my experience at all. While children may be sad in the short term because of a leaving nanny, they usually quickly get over it as long as they are sufficiently attached to their parents- which 99% of the time they are. But finding and keeping a nanny can be a LOT of work for parents, and I can understand how the sudden leaving of a nanny and the thought of having to go through that all again (and potentially several more times until both kids are in school full time) can make a parent want to call it quits.

Why don't you study attatchment?

I'm not the PP but I think you are the one who needs to read up on attachment. We aren't talking about a parent leaving. This is a part-time nanny. Either find some legitimate research that shows that a PART-TIME nanny leaving causes long term issues for children (and post a link) or stop trying to convince people they should do everything possible to keep a nanny and never ever let them go. All this does is tell people you are a bad nanny (or not a nanny at all) trying to keep your job.

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Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."

Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?

Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.

Yes of course. Lots of people make that decision every day and if that's what you think is best for your family then that's absolutely what you should do. What doesn't make sense to me is to say you are making that decision because your children are too traumatized when your nanny leaves and you don't want to do that again. Especially since your nanny was only working 30 hrs/week. I have always worked part-time so we have always have part-time nannies. Because of several moves we have had quite a few nannies and neither of my children have ever had any problem with that. If you want to stay home that's great for you but your reasoning just doesn't make sense to me.

I also think it would be different with a move. And maybe our children are different from one another. Mine are very sad right now.

Sad right now, sure. But that doesn't mean they're traumatized for life. I think you're the one that's traumatized. Which makes sense! It's the adults having to find, interview, hire, and trust a new person with their kids. That's a lot of work. So your decision to not hire another nanny is a valid one for yourself, but I just don't want you to go around thinking that every child that's had more than 2 nannies in their lifetime is severely traumatized by it, because kids bounce back quicker than you think.

That's not at all what she said, and you know it. You really need to study up on attatchment, and learn a few things. Your ignorance is astounding for an adult parent.

PP again, and I'm a Nanny, not a parent. To me the word trauma implies some sort of long lasting effect. So to be traumatized because your nanny is leaving means that it will have some sort of effect on you down the road. As a nanny, that has not been my experience at all. While children may be sad in the short term because of a leaving nanny, they usually quickly get over it as long as they are sufficiently attached to their parents- which 99% of the time they are. But finding and keeping a nanny can be a LOT of work for parents, and I can understand how the sudden leaving of a nanny and the thought of having to go through that all again (and potentially several more times until both kids are in school full time) can make a parent want to call it quits.

Why don't you study attatchment?

I'm not the PP but I think you are the one who needs to read up on attachment. We aren't talking about a parent leaving. This is a part-time nanny. Either find some legitimate research that shows that a PART-TIME nanny leaving causes long term issues for children (and post a link) or stop trying to convince people they should do everything possible to keep a nanny and never ever let them go. All this does is tell people you are a bad nanny (or not a nanny at all) trying to keep your job.

What are you so afraid of?