What is wrong with new parents?

[Anonymous]

I hope our nanny reads this board to see how bad other MBs are!

Our nanny has a college degree from a better college than my husband and I attended! She is always smiling, does all child related jobs - child's laundry, cleaning child's room, cleans toys - but I would never think of asking her to do my laundry, make my bed, or clean any room she and my daughter never even enter! Our nanny never makes personal phone calls when working and has never even turned on our television. She is a hawk about child safety and watches our child every second - I am so grateful for that!!! Yes, our daughter does play alone at times but always under the eye of our nanny. Nothing is more important than my daughter's safety. I respect our nanny and feel so blessed to have found her. Our daughter is healthy, happy, safe, and learning in our nanny's care. To me, that is all that matters.

[Anonymous]

While I don't believe pitching in and doing a few chores around the house will in any detract from the care a child receives from a nanny, does anyone find it ironic that some of the MBs feel that a nanny is lazy because she won't make the MB's bed? Really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I don't believe pitching in and doing a few chores around the house will in any detract from the care a child receives from a nanny, does anyone find it ironic that some of the MBs feel that a nanny is lazy because she won't make the MB's bed? Really?

Yes. It is beyond ridiculous to expect your nanny to make your bed and then call her lazy if she refuses. As someone else wrote, it is sad because it is women exploiting other women.

[Anonymous]

OP - In the future, make sure that these kinds of things are addressed in the contract! Our nanny made it very clear that she was fine doing our daughter's laundry but wouldn't do ours. I told her that we were okay with that - we hired her as our nanny, not as our housekeeper. We aired out all that stuff and made sure it was written down.

Not blaming you at all - just encouraging you to make the expectations on your ends as clear as possible during the hiring process.

[Anonymous]

Wow, there are a lot of sock puppets on this thread.

Most MBs here and IRL would not require or expect a nanny to do adult laundry or make adult beds. I've never heard of it and I have a lot of experience with both nannies and nanny employers. Does this mean it never happens? No. But it is rare, in spite of the allegedly outraged responses from so called nannies.

That said, it is also rare to think that a nanny is some rare bird who only takes care of children and does research or recharges during three hour naps or preschool attendance. Nannies make a good living for their qualifications and the best ones know that the key to earning the best rates is in being an indispensable key to the running of the household. This means using time to best advantage. Sure, get your downtime, but be ready to find ways to make yourself valuable beyond mere child care. Anyone can watch/entertain a child. A nanny goes above and beyond (and googling worksheets or art projects doesn't count.)

If you don't want to be indispensable, and you only want to play with babies, that's fine, but you won't last much more than a year in a position and eventually, you will be outclassed by more energetic and devoted nannies.

Before you puppets sound off about entitled MBs and all your other nonsense, it isn't unique to nannies to have to go above and beyond to really earn a good salary. This is true in every field. Nannies are just one of the last groups to recognize that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, there are a lot of sock puppets on this thread.

Most MBs here and IRL would not require or expect a nanny to do adult laundry or make adult beds. I've never heard of it and I have a lot of experience with both nannies and nanny employers. Does this mean it never happens? No. But it is rare, in spite of the allegedly outraged responses from so called nannies.

That said, it is also rare to think that a nanny is some rare bird who only takes care of children and does research or recharges during three hour naps or preschool attendance. Nannies make a good living for their qualifications and the best ones know that the key to earning the best rates is in being an indispensable key to the running of the household. This means using time to best advantage. Sure, get your downtime, but be ready to find ways to make yourself valuable beyond mere child care. Anyone can watch/entertain a child. A nanny goes above and beyond (and googling worksheets or art projects doesn't count.)

If you don't want to be indispensable, and you only want to play with babies, that's fine, but you won't last much more than a year in a position and eventually, you will be outclassed by more energetic and devoted nannies.

Before you puppets sound off about entitled MBs and all your other nonsense, it isn't unique to nannies to have to go above and beyond to really earn a good salary. This is true in every field. Nannies are just one of the last groups to recognize that.

You bore me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, there are a lot of sock puppets on this thread.

Most MBs here and IRL would not require or expect a nanny to do adult laundry or make adult beds. I've never heard of it and I have a lot of experience with both nannies and nanny employers. Does this mean it never happens? No. But it is rare, in spite of the allegedly outraged responses from so called nannies.

That said, it is also rare to think that a nanny is some rare bird who only takes care of children and does research or recharges during three hour naps or preschool attendance. Nannies make a good living for their qualifications and the best ones know that the key to earning the best rates is in being an indispensable key to the running of the household. This means using time to best advantage. Sure, get your downtime, but be ready to find ways to make yourself valuable beyond mere child care. Anyone can watch/entertain a child. A nanny goes above and beyond (and googling worksheets or art projects doesn't count.)

If you don't want to be indispensable, and you only want to play with babies, that's fine, but you won't last much more than a year in a position and eventually, you will be outclassed by more energetic and devoted nannies.

Before you puppets sound off about entitled MBs and all your other nonsense, it isn't unique to nannies to have to go above and beyond to really earn a good salary. This is true in every field. Nannies are just one of the last groups to recognize that.

You bore me.

lol - as if she is so concerned about a nanny's long term employment prospects! Just another MB who gets pushed around in her job and feels impotent in her marriage so she needs to try to push around her nanny. So tiresome.

[Anonymous]

Wow, there are a lot of sock puppets on this thread.

Most MBs here and IRL would not require or expect a nanny to do adult laundry or make adult beds. I've never heard of it and I have a lot of experience with both nannies and nanny employers. Does this mean it never happens? No. But it is rare, in spite of the allegedly outraged responses from so called nannies.

That said, it is also rare to think that a nanny is some rare bird who only takes care of children and does research or recharges during three hour naps or preschool attendance. Nannies make a good living for their qualifications and the best ones know that the key to earning the best rates is in being an indispensable key to the running of the household. This means using time to best advantage. Sure, get your downtime, but be ready to find ways to make yourself valuable beyond mere child care. Anyone can watch/entertain a child. A nanny goes above and beyond (and googling worksheets or art projects doesn't count.)

If you don't want to be indispensable, and you only want to play with babies, that's fine, but you won't last much more than a year in a position and eventually, you will be outclassed by more energetic and devoted nannies.

Before you puppets sound off about entitled MBs and all your other nonsense, it isn't unique to nannies to have to go above and beyond to really earn a good salary. This is true in every field. Nannies are just one of the last groups to recognize that.


You bore me.

Not surprising that the truth bores you. It would be a lot easier for you if NF believed your nonsense, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Wow, there are a lot of sock puppets on this thread.

Most MBs here and IRL would not require or expect a nanny to do adult laundry or make adult beds. I've never heard of it and I have a lot of experience with both nannies and nanny employers. Does this mean it never happens? No. But it is rare, in spite of the allegedly outraged responses from so called nannies.

That said, it is also rare to think that a nanny is some rare bird who only takes care of children and does research or recharges during three hour naps or preschool attendance. Nannies make a good living for their qualifications and the best ones know that the key to earning the best rates is in being an indispensable key to the running of the household. This means using time to best advantage. Sure, get your downtime, but be ready to find ways to make yourself valuable beyond mere child care. Anyone can watch/entertain a child. A nanny goes above and beyond (and googling worksheets or art projects doesn't count.)

If you don't want to be indispensable, and you only want to play with babies, that's fine, but you won't last much more than a year in a position and eventually, you will be outclassed by more energetic and devoted nannies.

Before you puppets sound off about entitled MBs and all your other nonsense, it isn't unique to nannies to have to go above and beyond to really earn a good salary. This is true in every field. Nannies are just one of the last groups to recognize that.


You bore me.

Not surprising that the truth bores you. It would be a lot easier for you if NF believed your nonsense, right?

Wanna know something PP? You would be tickled pink if I accepted your job offer. I would be your ideal candidate and you would have absolutely no idea that I call you and your sh*t out on DCUM. No idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The housekeeper who worked in the home of one of my former employers, used to tell me about the used condoms she'd have to pick out of the sheets every Monday morning.

Making your bed is like washing your undies.
No nanny will do it.

I just found this thread while I was doing a search for something else, and I was very curious about this comment. Why did the housekeeper have to pick out used condoms (plural!) from the sheets every Monday morning? Do these people never have sex except on Sunday night/Monday morning, and then have sex multiple times, necessitating multiple condoms? Or did they sleep in their bed with the used condoms waiting for the housekeeper to come on Monday morning and clean them?
Asking the housekeeper to make their bed really seems like the least of their problems.

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,
This is really sad to see how both nannies and MBs are treating each other.
I am a nanny and I have extra household chores to do everyday.
Such as: I do 1-2 loads of dishes everyday, 1-2 loads of laundry, cleaning the kitchen, mopping and sweeping the floors and other chores as needed.
I take care of two children under 3.
Its very exhausting but its still do able.
Now I won't do the parents laundry or clean the parents room but I am willing to do these other things in my down time.
I was told about these chores /housekeeping before I accepted the job so I knew what I was getting myself into.
I don't think that its right to hire a nanny and then throw chores at her with it being discussed before hand.
Can we please try and get along??

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny who works with newborn, infants, and toddlers. I do all baby-related housekeeping. I am not expected to do anything else but I do on occasion. I empty the dishwasher because I use the dishes too. It only seems fair. On occasion I have folded laundry if it was in the dryer and I needed thr washer or swept if crumbs were on the floor. I have really awesome employers who are super appreciative of me. It makes their life easier and I prefer to keep busy.

I do agree that some parents are expecting a nanny and housekeeper for the price of one. Those are the type to take advantage and I wouldn't work for one of those.

[Anonymous]

My MB has told me repeatedly that if she accidentally leaves her coffee cup on the table in the morning that she expects it to be there when she gets home. I do anything and everything for my charges. Cook, clean, laundry, play, chauffeur and teach. That is a very full day.

Of course I am also not a dick so I will absolutely wash the stray coffee cup or cereal bowl from MB or DB. But I appreciate that we have always agreed that the kids come first.

[Anonymous]

As the nanny, I feel awful if I left out my tea cup, and appreciate the fact that it's cleared in the morning when I arrive. Happens once a month or so.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and while my primary responsibility is to take care of the children, I feel like a major reason that my MB and DB have me there is because I am there to make their lives easier so they can enjoy spending time with their children. I do children's laundry, meal prep, cleaning up toys, organizing art supplies, planning activities, making cards for family members birthdays, reading up on developmental issues and organizing toys and books. Some of this is end with the kids input and help. Sometimes we make dinner for the family or we will all told laundry, with the kids matching socks and trying to fold and put away their clothes. Every second of their day doesn't need t be spent by read to, creating art or doing special projects. We do all of those things, but I also involve them with as much around the house as I can because someday they will need to know how to do things like laundry, loading/unloading a dishwasher and organizing. We are teaching them to be people.

I don't do heavy cleaning but if I see that something needs doing and I have time, I do it.