Host family leaving for a vacation without the Au Pair

[Anonymous]

14:08 is a PITA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Au Pair = on par = equal

Just remember this, Op. GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:08 is a PITA!

You're right, I kind of am.

[Anonymous]

OP, first, on the HF rematch. FWIW, many of those APs may want to be in a bigger city, but when they near the 2 week mark and the au pair agency moves to arrange their return ticket, they may sing a different tune. Our second AP wanted to extend for a 2nd year and live with a family in Florida. She nearly had to return to her home country because she was slow to realize that many prospective APs also want to live in Florida (or California, New York City, etc.). She asked to stay with us, but we had already matched with a new AP. She ended up working for another family in a rural area because that was her only option. My guess is your HF will locate an AP and hope that they step up their game with the new one.

Second, the wedding. You appear unable to comprehend that the groom may have not wanted you there. If you are fortunate, you will also get married one day and then you will realize that the couple, and sometimes their parents, call the shots, not an AP who is a complete stranger to them.

Third, we have six APs and only one has gone on a full throttle vacation with us. For a variety of reasons, we spend most of our vacations with a range of family members and there is no space for an AP. I do the best I can to arrange alternate activities, etc for the AP, including buying plane tickets in order for her to take a holiday. Even with this arrangement, we remain in close contact with nearly all of our APs (not the one referred to above); some have visited a few times. I plan to buy a plane ticket next year for one to visit us for a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, first, on the HF rematch. FWIW, many of those APs may want to be in a bigger city, but when they near the 2 week mark and the au pair agency moves to arrange their return ticket, they may sing a different tune. Our second AP wanted to extend for a 2nd year and live with a family in Florida. She nearly had to return to her home country because she was slow to realize that many prospective APs also want to live in Florida (or California, New York City, etc.). She asked to stay with us, but we had already matched with a new AP. She ended up working for another family in a rural area because that was her only option. My guess is your HF will locate an AP and hope that they step up their game with the new one.

Second, the wedding. You appear unable to comprehend that the groom may have not wanted you there. If you are fortunate, you will also get married one day and then you will realize that the couple, and sometimes their parents, call the shots, not an AP who is a complete stranger to them.

Third, we have six APs and only one has gone on a full throttle vacation with us. For a variety of reasons, we spend most of our vacations with a range of family members and there is no space for an AP. I do the best I can to arrange alternate activities, etc for the AP, including buying plane tickets in order for her to take a holiday. Even with this arrangement, we remain in close contact with nearly all of our APs (not the one referred to above); some have visited a few times. I plan to buy a plane ticket next year for one to visit us for a month.

Enough already about the wedding. Time to grow up. I'd like to speak with your au pairs 'cause I don't believe your story at all. Who wants to live with a PITA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, first, on the HF rematch. FWIW, many of those APs may want to be in a bigger city, but when they near the 2 week mark and the au pair agency moves to arrange their return ticket, they may sing a different tune. Our second AP wanted to extend for a 2nd year and live with a family in Florida. She nearly had to return to her home country because she was slow to realize that many prospective APs also want to live in Florida (or California, New York City, etc.). She asked to stay with us, but we had already matched with a new AP. She ended up working for another family in a rural area because that was her only option. My guess is your HF will locate an AP and hope that they step up their game with the new one.

Second, the wedding. You appear unable to comprehend that the groom may have not wanted you there. If you are fortunate, you will also get married one day and then you will realize that the couple, and sometimes their parents, call the shots, not an AP who is a complete stranger to them.

Third, we have six APs and only one has gone on a full throttle vacation with us. For a variety of reasons, we spend most of our vacations with a range of family members and there is no space for an AP. I do the best I can to arrange alternate activities, etc for the AP, including buying plane tickets in order for her to take a holiday. Even with this arrangement, we remain in close contact with nearly all of our APs (not the one referred to above); some have visited a few times. I plan to buy a plane ticket next year for one to visit us for a month.

Enough already about the wedding. Time to grow up. I'd like to speak with your au pairs 'cause I don't believe your story at all. Who wants to live with a PITA?

Aww, give this poster a break. I am the PITA poster. This is someone else talking about the wedding who hasn't had her say yet. But - the original post is about the wedding issue (see the title of this thread), so it makes sense that this is what we are all responding to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, first, on the HF rematch. FWIW, many of those APs may want to be in a bigger city, but when they near the 2 week mark and the au pair agency moves to arrange their return ticket, they may sing a different tune. Our second AP wanted to extend for a 2nd year and live with a family in Florida. She nearly had to return to her home country because she was slow to realize that many prospective APs also want to live in Florida (or California, New York City, etc.). She asked to stay with us, but we had already matched with a new AP. She ended up working for another family in a rural area because that was her only option. My guess is your HF will locate an AP and hope that they step up their game with the new one.

Second, the wedding. You appear unable to comprehend that the groom may have not wanted you there. If you are fortunate, you will also get married one day and then you will realize that the couple, and sometimes their parents, call the shots, not an AP who is a complete stranger to them.

Third, we have six APs and only one has gone on a full throttle vacation with us. For a variety of reasons, we spend most of our vacations with a range of family members and there is no space for an AP. I do the best I can to arrange alternate activities, etc for the AP, including buying plane tickets in order for her to take a holiday. Even with this arrangement, we remain in close contact with nearly all of our APs (not the one referred to above); some have visited a few times. I plan to buy a plane ticket next year for one to visit us for a month.

Enough already about the wedding. Time to grow up. I'd like to speak with your au pairs 'cause I don't believe your story at all. Who wants to live with a PITA?

Aww, give this poster a break. I am the PITA poster. This is someone else talking about the wedding who hasn't had her say yet. But - the original post is about the wedding issue (see the title of this thread), so it makes sense that this is what we are all responding to.

Thanks, sock puppet Pita.

[Anonymous]

Minnesota?!?! Hahahahaha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Minnesota?!?! Hahahahaha!

Are you about 11?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps what the poster meant to say was "OP, if you're bored because you don't like Philadelphia and haven't been able to make friends there, good luck in Minnesota..." Is it a city in Minnesota at least?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps what the poster meant to say was "OP, if you're bored because you don't like Philadelphia and haven't been able to make friends there, good luck in Minnesota..." Is it a city in Minnesota at least?

Perhaps that's what you meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Au Pair = on par = equal

Just remember this, Op. GL.

Op here, thank you

[Anonymous]

Op here. Please enough with the wedding. I never said I wanted to be a guest in the first place.

It didn't work with the Minnesota family, they wanted to switch Au Pairs because theirs wouldn't respect the curfew she was given (being home before 11pm if she had to work the next day). The Au Pair has agreed to come home at a reasonable hour and they want to give her a second chance...
I'm sad it didn't work but my LLC warned me that it happens ...

On my side, I have had 2 phone calls, one last evening from the family in New Jersey and another one from Boston. The Boston family will call me again this afternoon when I'm off. We seem to click !! we'll see.

Have a great Saturday everybody!

[Anonymous]

Sounds good, OP. We'll keep our fingers crossed for you. You seem like a good person. Please keep us posted.

[Anonymous]

No, OP, you didn't want to be a guest at the wedding. You wanted a paid trip to Mexico and believed you were entitled to it because you are a "member of the family."

Good luck in Boston.