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Anonymous wrote:I would like to start dating again, but don't know where to start. 2 years ago I used apps, and I met some guys, but honestly, it was so tedious. I'm open to using apps again, but I'm not sure I want that to be my primary method for finding men to date.

Where should I or what should I join to meet someone?

I hear you about apps. No thank you! My advice is get involved in the Airport Party community in your area. Airport Parties are always a lot of fun and a great way to meet people, including that special someone. And even Covid hasn't slowed them down, which is wonderful.

What is an airport party? Can you post a URL to a previous event? I lived here forever and never heard of this, but would love more info.

A big saying in the Airport Party world is "Screens are Mean!", so there's hardly anything ever online. It's all about Word of Mouth, People Talking, New Friends Spreading the Word to New Friends. LOL

But Airport Parties are a LOT of fun. You bring suitcases. sometimes with fun decorations, and go around in a group, asking people "Excuse us, do you know where gate so-and-so is?" or "Do you know where gate whatever is?", only you really say "so and so" and "whatever" (not a number) and when people say "What?" or ask for more information, we all say "Never miiinnnd!" and scamper away, boo-hooing and crying crocodile tears. Boo-hoo waaaaahhhh, etc.

Not for everybody but a lot of us love it. Viva Airport Parties, especially now.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ask three men out? Is there an update to your confidence?

Anonymous wrote:I would like to start dating again, but don't know where to start. 2 years ago I used apps, and I met some guys, but honestly, it was so tedious. I'm open to using apps again, but I'm not sure I want that to be my primary method for finding men to date.

Where should I or what should I join to meet someone?

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

He either really likes you or is a serial killer.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

He either really likes you or is a serial killer.

Not sure I like those odds!

He's super interesting so I think I will give him a chance. Hopefully I won't die.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

He either really likes you or is a serial killer.

Not sure I like those odds!

He's super interesting so I think I will give him a chance. Hopefully I won't die.

When I got together with the boyfriend I have now (who is wonderful) I hadn't had sex in EIGHT years. And first time sex with another person in... 20 years? I did tell him during the first time we made out, etc, and I was glad I did. It is not a bad litmus test of a person to see how they respond.... We had sex for the first time a few days later and I felt a lot more comfortable having talked about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Off the thread but after my divorce I didn’t date for two years because of Covid and this weekend I will have my fifth date with a very nice guy. On our fourth date we did have some very serious kissing but I held back from doing anything more but I don’t think I will hold back this weekend. I haven’t had sex in five years and I haven’t had first time sex in 23 years. He doesn’t know that so do I tell him or just see what happens? I’m very fit so I don’t worry about my body but I definitely have performance anxiety.

I wouldn’t say anything. If you get into a heavy kissing session just reach for his belt buckle and he will get the message. Just avoid nervous giggling when he starts removing your clothes.

I had a second date last week and he started giggling while we were kissing. It was... odd.

He either really likes you or is a serial killer.

Not sure I like those odds!

He's super interesting so I think I will give him a chance. Hopefully I won't die.

When I got together with the boyfriend I have now (who is wonderful) I hadn't had sex in EIGHT years. And first time sex with another person in... 20 years? I did tell him during the first time we made out, etc, and I was glad I did. It is not a bad litmus test of a person to see how they respond.... We had sex for the first time a few days later and I felt a lot more comfortable having talked about it.

I was in a similar situation and I told him first. He was really cool about it. He kept asking if it was ok as we got started, which I appreciated.