I haven't been on a date in nearly 2 years

[Anonymous]

I would like to start dating again, but don't know where to start. 2 years ago I used apps, and I met some guys, but honestly, it was so tedious. I'm open to using apps again, but I'm not sure I want that to be my primary method for finding men to date.

Where should I or what should I join to meet someone?

[Anonymous]

No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

What apps are you using? I honestly don't have much patience for losers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Where should I.. to meet someone?

Ask three men out. Who did you end up asking? The most approachable? The least likely to reject you? Someone you saw dating? Think about what qualities they had. Do not fantasize this-only real life asks count.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

What apps are you using? I honestly don't have much patience for losers

I am only on Bumble. I don't use other apps because I don't feel like it. I am incognito most of the time (that means they can't see me...I can see them and only swipe if I would be interested). I've met mostly quality people...not losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Where should I.. to meet someone?

Ask three men out. Who did you end up asking? The most approachable? The least likely to reject you? Someone you saw dating? Think about what qualities they had. Do not fantasize this-only real life asks count.

I'm not sure I understand this exercise. Am I supposed to ask random men on a date? I currently don't have any prospects.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

What apps are you using? I honestly don't have much patience for losers

I am only on Bumble. I don't use other apps because I don't feel like it. I am incognito most of the time (that means they can't see me...I can see them and only swipe if I would be interested). I've met mostly quality people...not losers.

Do you have to pay extra for this feature?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

What apps are you using? I honestly don't have much patience for losers

I am only on Bumble. I don't use other apps because I don't feel like it. I am incognito most of the time (that means they can't see me...I can see them and only swipe if I would be interested). I've met mostly quality people...not losers.

Do you have to pay extra for this feature?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ask random men on a date? I currently don't have any prospects.

It's already working. I am trying you to get to think about how you "advertise" to men you want to be asked out. At this point your brain is going to random. Starting there... where do you find "random" men who would be interested? Playdate at Applebees vs party or couples therapy vs concert. What is the next link coming from your brain...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:ask random men on a date? I currently don't have any prospects.

It's already working. I am trying you to get to think about how you "advertise" to men you want to be asked out. At this point your brain is going to random. Starting there... where do you find "random" men who would be interested? Playdate at Applebees vs party or couples therapy vs concert. What is the next link coming from your brain...

It could be that my ADHD meds are wearing off now, but I truly have no idea what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No advice. I use apps when I feel like dating. I had three dates last week. I am early 40s.

I would not have time to randomly meet in other ways. Apps are efficient.

Agree - apps are the best of the lousy options. Joining a running club because I like to run was a complete waste. Few people are looking for a date and at least with an app everyone is. The key is filtering out the losers of whom there are many.

What apps are you using? I honestly don't have much patience for losers

I am only on Bumble. I don't use other apps because I don't feel like it. I am incognito most of the time (that means they can't see me...I can see them and only swipe if I would be interested). I've met mostly quality people...not losers.

Do you have to pay extra for this feature?

What else do you get for paying?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ask random men on a date? I currently don't have any prospects.

where do you find "random" men who would be interested?
1)Playdate at Applebees vs party
2)couples therapy vs concert.

It could be that my ADHD meds are wearing off now, but I truly have no idea what you are talking about.

Just post your plan on where you are going to go to ask random men.

If you don't know, pick one:
playdate at applebees (to ask a divorced dad) or a party (to ask a man who knows how to move/dress)

I'm trying to extract who you find approachable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ask random men on a date? I currently don't have any prospects.

where do you find "random" men who would be interested?
1)Playdate at Applebees vs party
2)couples therapy vs concert.

It could be that my ADHD meds are wearing off now, but I truly have no idea what you are talking about.

Just post your plan on where you are going to go to ask random men.

If you don't know, pick one:
playdate at applebees (to ask a divorced dad) or a party (to ask a man who knows how to move/dress)

I'm trying to extract who you find approachable.

I don't have kids.
I don't go to bars/parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't have kids.
I don't go to bars/parties.

Good! Good! Next elimination:
couples therapy (to hear what frustrates a man) vs concert (to find a guy who appreciates culture)

If you don't go to discussion groups or concerts, list two locations you are willing to attend.